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Blogs > wrMercury > Sanity of a madman

Obligation Day  

wrMercury 46M
924 posts
2/13/2012 2:23 pm
Obligation Day

I read a comic strip online the other day referring to Valentine's Day as Obligation day. This strip more or less summed up what I hate about the day. People are showing affection because they feel obligated to do so, and not because they actually feel like it.

My long standing argument against valentines day is simple. I don't need a special day on a calendar to do something special for the person I am with. Seriously, if you don't make that person feel special eery day, what exactly makes this day so special? A brithday celebrates survivng another year, an anniversery records another year togehter, but Valentines Day is just another excuse to go out and feel obligated to do something special. Why do we feel this obligation?

I know there will be people reading this that don't agree with me. My wife argues the point with me every year (and yes, she still gets flowers & chocolate, I'm not a total idiot). I just do not like the fact that on this day, which holds no real significance to me or my wife, I have to make a special effort because it is culturally relevant to do so.

My second argument as to why I dislike Valentine's day is that it isn't fair to everyone. If you are in a relationship, then kudos to you. If you are not in a relationship, prepare to have everyone else's happiness rubbed in your face. How hippocritical is it to hate Valentine's day when you are single, and then it becomes your favoirte holiday after you are with someone (and we all know thatperson who converted at some point). It is hard to be alone on this day when everyone around you is in a happy relationship. Why do we feel the need to show off to others how we are supposedly happy like a status symbol?

The only thing to really benefit from Obligation Day is the economy. For one day there are record flower and Chocolate sales. Greeting cards and chalk heart candies fly off shelves everywhere. Comercialism is king here. Love is just the excuse maipulated to make money for others (I'll do a similar rant on this around Christmas).

So for Obligation day this year I will work 12 hours, stop on the way home to pick up flowers for my wife, and then sit and watch TV with her. Last year we did have sex, but that was so she could prove the point that Valentine's Day had some redeeming value and not because she wanted to have sex. It cheapened the entire thing when she started to go on about how I couldn't complain as she proved how much fun the day could be, and that we had sex to prove the point.

I hope that others will ahve fun with their Obligation Day, just don't fool yourselves intot thinking that this one day represents the rest of the year in whatever relationship you have.

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