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Emotion Commotion
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Emotion Commotion Time for some more observations and dilemmas to ponder... As I peruse profiles of cocks and tatas, it becomes a reoccurring theme in most that many people are looking for exclusivity. This is not to be confused with long-term relationships or marriage proposals but rather one-on-one security built on trust and comfort with a like-minded individual. What is not to like!? I mean, I for one have had the pleasure of seeking and finding friends with benefits that have been on-going for months - generally they have a lifespan - only to find a new one to take his (or her) place. Although I do try and limit my friends to one maybe two at a time so that I can invest in that person and make myself available for their needs, and they for mine. Often I find the sex is more open, liberating and intense. There is no need to mask nerves with booze or endless chatter but rather move into the motions and movements of skilled lovers, appreciating the terrain of your lovers skin -- their curves, valleys, warm and<b> damp </font></b>areas, hardness, ridges, veins...sigh. I find my experiences with my 'friend with benefits' can be intense, fast, hard, rough or fun, goofy, silly, playful and lazy or soft, sweet, tender love-making...it runs the gamut. The hard part is keeping those feelings along the line, walking the tight rope of trust and partnership...not wanting to develop feelings of possession and jealousy...or not to encourage feelings similar in my lover towards me. And what to do when you want a little one-off fun with a group or couple? Being married has helped me maintain this line although it has not made me impervious of caring a little too much for my lovers or investing in their emotions, feeling, dreams, and desires. See...I am a pleaser...I want people happy...especially those I care about...and quite frankly it SUCKS.  BUT...I am not willing to change. It makes me a better lover and essentially adding the FRIEND to friends with benefits.Okay....your turn! Thoughts??? Emotional investment in an exclusive lover OR straight-faced stranger fucking? And because I feel it necessary...BOOBIES!  |
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I don't think I've ever discussed exclusivity with anyone. I don't expect it from others and I'm not sure anyone can actually ask that of any FWB relationship. However, the people/person I may be involved with at the time all know how many "friends" I may have at. I'm honest about it. First and foremost to me a FWB HAS to be a "F" first. I consider the "B" part an extra. Like icing on a cake I have no effing clue where I'm going and what I'm saying Vixn_Vella Its not me....It's you. And no...we cannot be friends
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9/22/2011 1:41 pm |
I was going to reply earlier but couldn't focus on the keyboard, for some reason.  Being optimistic, I figured that if I found anyone for ongoing sex that I would remain pretty exclusive to them. Among other reasons, quality always trumps quantity for me, and the need for discretion dictates that I just couldn't handle more than one playmate! Vixn is totally right about the necessity to be friends - or at least friendly - with a lover. I don't think that I could relax enough to enjoy myself or please a woman if she was so succinct as to stick to "Get over her, do me, and get the hell out."
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First off... epic boobies ftw! (I was going to write that at the end but I have poor impulse control) I find it interesting reading different peoples views of what they find works for them. For my part I've found some of the most pleasurable times I've had were with people I became friends before/after/during our play time. While some of them I might only meet once a blue moon its very satisfying to play with them because there's that extra level of connection. I've also had a few meet and play sessions but that's a different dynamic. Still fun though but you learn about compatibility in the meeting.
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Reading what you wrote, as well written as it was, and me being VERY sapiosexual- you just fucked my mind sooooo well. That's my problem with the lifestyle -Too many want not to spend the time learning what does and doesn't work, building on experiences and reaching new levels of intensity and ecstasy..... sighhhh then there's the matter of trust and feeling free and liberated and secure enough to just indulge with abandon. Not worry about playing the Share This Bug Sweepstakes. I Loooove giving oral. I'm a Ninja Cunning Linguist. To me that's just not a wise hobby with a Hi! We sure are attracted to each other! I'm going diving! You make my mind, and thickness, throb with what you're sending out via text and those ammmmmmazing visuals.... Yum.
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LOL! SOS - loving the sapiosexaul!!! Nothing like a mind fucking to leave the body aching. Agreed...I think that there is much to be said about delving into the full experience...however you kinda have to weed through the thin to find the thick. oh and....teehee...you said 'throb'...I love that word!
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throb throb throb throb throbTHROB! as in your filthy mind makes my thick cock ummmm...... hmmmm.... oh! THROB.  (throb)
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SOS - *quiver* as in well, *quiver* 
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i would worship your tits!!
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OMG I can't believe I've never read your blogs before....very hot!!
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