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Forgive Us For Being Human...
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Forgive Us For Being Human... We LOVE to read profiles! As a starting point to any grand, mutually pleasing, adventure, actually seeing what people have to say makes a pretty good beginning. Information IS everything, when it comes to deciding who to contact, and who to pass by. But , as of late, we've noticed a somewhat disturbing trend in a lot of profiles towards an unnecessary specificity. That is, a preponderance of "demands" , rather than a discussion of desires. Now...we're not trying to say that people here { of all places...} aren't entitled to their own set of standards. We have, ours, and stick to them rather rigorously, and accept that others do as well. But what we've noticed lately, is that rather than having an undefined and open-minded wish list, people on the site are getting downright particular. { with "particular" being a nicer way of putting it than "pickass"...} The particular profile that motivated these thoughts was one that stated that, "A bath or shower will be required before play, whether you had one at home before coming over or not". Well! Isn't THAT both arousing and enticing! Not that we're against personal hygiene. { we like a clean bum as much as the next couple....}. No, it's the tone of the statement that we find disturbing. It comes off as sounding completely punctilious, at the expense of any romantic disposition. We see this all the time now: "You Must be shaven down below", "Please be as fit as we are at the least", " We're great looking, you need to be too", " Men need to be over 8", and women must be busty" , "You must be able to host", She must be multi-orgasmic, and he must stay rock hard the entire night", etc etc etc.... Now, maybe the people writing these overly discriminating profiles are having Waaaaay more success at finding compatible playmates than the rest of us. Or perhaps they are just SO much more better looking and sexy than the norm that they feel demands such as these are their right. But REALLY?? Whatever happened to having an idea of the kind of person you would find compatible and then seeing how much of a connection you all felt after a bit of "getting to know you"? Because......we're kind of human. We have some grey hair. Our teeth aren't pristine anymore. Our bodies aren't flaw free, and sometimes smell like a body does. The lady has baby marks, and an occasional hemorrhoid { those take a toll!! } The gentleman has a few scars, an will probably gain a few more as the years continue to roll by. When we go for a long run our feet stink. We don't shave our nether regions daily, because , yes, it's hard on the skin. We even get pimples! { gasp! } In other words........we're a normal couple next door, with a tendency towards lascivious thoughts and deeds. As we said earlier, our attitude is not one of trying to dissuade anyone from trying to find exactly what it is that they seek. Quite the contrary, in fact. But we just find that profiles that are written in such fastidious terms are somewhat demeaning to the average person on here, and do not take into account such important factors as personality and attitude. One of the things that we've always tried to do while we search, is to keep an open mind. We've stated often that we'll chat with anyone, because we believe that everyone has something to offer. We like relatively in shape females, but don't ignore women with curves. We prefer our couples to be reasonably young, since our Lady is, but don't block more mature pairs. We really have little interest in single males, but a respectful conversational one might get a response. In other words....we're here to meet people; real, flawed, imperfect, and less than wonderful people.....just like ourselves. It's the learning about these people that often leads us to a feeling of affection and arousal....not just their physical attributes. And besides, once you develop some romance and affection, physical imperfection fades into the rearview, just as it does in the "real" world. If you LIKE someone.....will that pimple on their nose drive you away? We hope not! { we'll be buying lots more Clearasil, just in case. } Nope, we hope that this tendency towards being outrageously persnickety is just a short term aberration on this site. But if it isn't, perhaps we can just encamp in the ghetto created for those less fortunate "human" people hereabouts. Probably a nicer place to be anyway....... |
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