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The Kinky Edge
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The Kinky Edge Tomorrow night I am going out for dinner (actually it's a "munch") at this wonderful Mexican seafood place on the coast. Their margaritas come in two sizes: standard and fishbowl. I'm not driving so I might convince my boyfriend to spring for the fishbowl. I don't usually drink a lot and this munch only happens once a month so I actually look forward to getting a little "sideways" on my once-a-month tequila induced euphoria. I do find that within moderate limits, good ol' ETOH (alcohol) serves quite well as a social lubricant. The next day I'm sometimes a little in need of a detoxification program (lots of hydration, and some vitamin supplements...but rarely do I need the Tylenol or Ibuprofen although they are there if a true hangover knocks me for a loop !). There are usually about twenty people that show up for this get-together and we all share a common proclivity for kinky sex. Nobody ever shows up with their corsets, garter belts and leathers clearly visible on the outside. After all, it's a social gathering in a family restaurant and not a venue for play. But under the vanilla exteriors are the nipple and labia piercings, butt plugs or cock rings and slave collars disguised as edgy neck adornment. Leather and metal neckwear can have such panache! Nobody is slinging floggers or singletail whips, but birthday spankings have been commonplace, especially if we have the banquet room to ourselves. Newcomers are roundly welcomed because it takes a lot of guts to show up at your first munch. There is a sense of community and it is clear that these yearnings for edgy play are far more mainstream than ever before imagined. You are not weird or strange. And you are definitely not alone. My first foray into this wonderland came only a couple of years ago and my first "field trip" to a local dungeon was a mindbending experience that I will never forget. My boyfriend and I had been in a vanilla relationship for about 13 months when he finally "came out" to me about his need to be a submissive. And he was looking for a woman to be his domme. I wasn't sure I could fit the bill. He was a good teacher, although some would say that he was "topping from the bottom". But it worked for us and now our play involves an entire spectrum of play practices that range from CBT (cock and ball torture) to bondage and flogging and caning. I am not into pain, personally. And I never thought I could be involved in inflicting pain on another. But erotic pain is very different from the "garden variety" of pain. Not at all like stubbing your toe or ripping off your fingernail in a slammed car door. Arguably the feelings of pain and pleasure are at times infinitesimally interwoven and connected. And it is always best not to amp up the pain factor unless there is already some erotic arousal in play. What strange creatures we humans are. Our curiosity leads us into places that cause us to tread a very thin line. The risk and danger and flirting with mortality is what makes people parachute out of planes, climb treacherous mountains, or maybe even engage in kinky sex? |
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A bit of "innocent" role play in your intimate life often works to introduce the spice of kink to a bland diet. Not saying your sex life is bland (wow...sure seems like it isn't!), but mixing in some new ingredients really "kicks it up a notch" (nod to Emeril)!
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My girlfriend and I know someone who is involved in the local scene, and we have been invited to attend. I'm not really sure what to expect, although I'm pretty sure we both will like it. My girlfriend and I are both submissive, so we have to take turns, essentially forcing us into the "switch" role. For a while, I had somebody who enjoyed being a domme with me as her sub. She never knew how much she enjoyed that role until she started playing it. (I have written a lot about those encounters in my blog.)
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My girlfriend and I know someone who is involved in the local scene, and we have been invited to attend. I'm not really sure what to expect, although I'm pretty sure we both will like it. My girlfriend and I are both submissive, so we have to take turns, essentially forcing us into the "switch" role. For a while, I had somebody who enjoyed being a domme with me as her sub. She never knew how much she enjoyed that role until she started playing it. (I have written a lot about those encounters in my blog.) [post 3097853] Come join the half-nekkid fun! Check out HNW Bloggers.  
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