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this title was brought to You by mindless lust and near constant horniness.....okay just constant.
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this title was brought to You by mindless lust and near constant horniness.....okay just constant. The wedding. Weird and cool at the same time. It was in a<b> catholic </font></b>church like my former marriage so it was weird hearing the party line. (massive load of eyewash) (touching anyway) (theoretically) Cool was seeing tons of people i haven't had the opportunity to hang with. A couple of surprise people that i wasn't aware we had in common so a way pleasant surprise. Shared a table with #2. Wow, was he drunk. i ended up having to go back and get him after the afterparty that i wasn't going to kind of disintegrated. We had a very weird conversation regarding my ex. i got nothing for my ex one way or the other. i'm not angry at her and i don't have any desire to interact with her any more than is necessary to benefit the offspring we have in common. Apparently she seems to think we should somehow be friends. At this point in life and based on her past behavior (nothing like cheating or anything just the way shit got handled and her obvious desire not to have anything to do with me long enough to convince me that was a wonderful idea indeed) that ship has sailed to where it's not even visible over the horizon. When i don't care for someone, my default option is to blow them off. i got no time and the minimum amount of time i have to spend not to hang out or deal with that person is optimum as far as i'm concerned. Things devolve from there. i told him, "look, she's your mom, you love and respect her but the only conversation i would be interested in having would have been after we celebrated our wedding anniversary a couple of months ago and the divorce really fuck that one up. So, no way." i tried to do it friendly at the beginning and there was absolutely nothing doing at the time and i eventually got tired of getting killed with it. i would like some other perspective on it. So what do You think? |
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Hi. Well I know nothing obviously, not even how long you've been divorced. But outside-looking-in: I'd say she's feeling contrite and being friends would help her feel better about herself. It's her way of feeling forgiven. She needs closure. But she needs to find it some other way. Divorce means it's not your responsibility anymore to make her feel better. So you have to keep it cool like you have been,for the kids. But they're grown up right? So they can appreciate, I'm sure, your distance. And so can she, if she's an intellect at all. Go forward.  Am I Your Flame
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My divorce was brutal and ugly so I really could go on for the rest of my life with no contact... I can see you point.
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This is a touchy subject! A única alegria isenta de amargura é a de bem proceder.
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Hi. Well I know nothing obviously, not even how long you've been divorced. But outside-looking-in: I'd say she's feeling contrite and being friends would help her feel better about herself. It's her way of feeling forgiven. She needs closure. But she needs to find it some other way. Divorce means it's not your responsibility anymore to make her feel better. So you have to keep it cool like you have been,for the kids. But they're grown up right? So they can appreciate, I'm sure, your distance. And so can she, if she's an intellect at all. Go forward. The son i was talking to about it tells her to forget it. There was a time where that may have been possible. After getting blown off so many times i got the message and i don't really care if she wants it to change now. i can deal with her politely to benefit our sons but that's all there is ever going to be. Thank You so much for the input. Please feel free to stop by anytime although it's usually goofier here that this one.
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My divorce was brutal and ugly so I really could go on for the rest of my life with no contact... I can see you point.
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Beautiful Goddess Layla, i don't know that it's really possible to be friends. The small town that here is in the winter means that i run into people she hangs out with. Some of them feel compelled to get into something that is none of their business. The kids know how i feel and understand why i feel that way. i don't run her down to them, i never say anything about her. At this point however and as far as i can see pretty much forever i have no interest and feel no need to make her think that a bunch of things that weren't alright are. Great to see You back.
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Goddess Sandra, i agree with You about the children. Ours are grown and independent of either of us. So kind of a different situation. If they were minors then i would obviously need to deal with her way more. Thanks for the insight and hope all is well with You.
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This is a touchy subject! Thanks for the comment hope You're doing well.
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Just think of if/when you get involved in a serious relationship again...that will be a whole 'nother kettle of fish {with a hungry polar bear waiting or whatnot, yanno}
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Just think of if/when you get involved in a serious relationship again...that will be a whole 'nother kettle of fish {with a hungry polar bear waiting or whatnot, yanno}
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Goddess Baronin, i am okay with the status quo and hoping for situational improvements.
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