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"Highly Intelligent"
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"Highly Intelligent" I read profiles. It's crazy, I know--especially on this site. And it's true that usually I, like most males, will click a profile based on the picture displayed. But, really, that's no different from smiling at a pretty woman, right? You see someone you're attracted to, and your first interest is based on what you see. Then you go over and find out if the attraction is mutual, and if there's anything deeper than your initial impression. No different online, right? Sadly, that means I view a lot of profiles and send messages to almost no one. There are a few key things I'm looking for and they're hard to find. Lots of beautiful women on this site, but I'm looking for more than just beauty. I might key in on some things, but I also find some things to be instant turnoffs. And, look, I know writing a profile is hard. It's tough to distill yourself down to some words. But some phrasing just rubs me the wrong way. I like to call it self-evaluating phrasing. You know... stuff like "highly intelligent." We're not the best evaluators of whether or not we're smart or funny or what have you. In fact, I usually feel that if you have to mention your intelligence in a profile, that's an indicator you're probably not as smart as you think you are. After all, a truly intelligent person wouldn't have to brag about it, right? You'd be able to tell they were intelligent from their writing. Or they might say they were looking for someone intelligent. Plenty of other ways of communicating it than simply stating it. It's an adventure out there for sure, but certain traits are just better shown than stated. If you have to tell everyone you're funny... well, that says it all, right? Funny people don't say, "I'm funny!" They just are. Nothing like telling me what I should think of you rather than letting me discover it for myself to make me click on to the next profile? What kinds of things should people not have to state if they were really true?  |
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I think writing about what you enjoy doing is a better indicator than listing traits. Of course, the tagline is the most important because most people don't (or can't) read beyond that. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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