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Bulls and boyfriends
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Bulls and boyfriends I found this interesting, according to cuckold marriage dot com. "Couples rarely get to share in such a moment of intimacy between the wife, her boyfriend and their cuckold without a committed boyfriend’s involvement. I use the term boyfriend rather than lover because being the boyfriend for a wife includes and extends well beyond simple romantic entanglements. I know the ‘boyfriend’ idea is a very intimidating prospect to couples new to considering adding another male to the marriage. Most consider the idea of a single male involved routinely with the wife as a threat to the marriage, but in truth and in practice, the opposite is much more often the truth. Those who believe that keeping emotional bonds excluded or at least kept to a minimum will ensure marital safety are not only fooling themselves into a false sense of security but limiting themselves from many of the most enjoyable aspects of cuckolding. When a guy develops a relationship and emotional bonds with a hotwife, he is invested in the relationship. This means he is going to care more about her safety and needs. Through that, the needs of her cuckold are also addressed since those needs are part of her happiness. A random or seldom-dated ‘date’ will have none of that investment and will view the wife as a disposable moment of enjoyment where he is free to be selfish as there are little consequences to his actions or lack thereof. Bull vs. Boyfriend While difficult for the cuckold to admit, he knows his wife has every right to enjoy it/that. Within the lifestyle, a bull is a guy who has a sexual role (and nothing more) for a couple. A bull who takes on a leadership role with the wife (D/s) is technically her Dom and should eventually be a Dom for both husband and wife to varying degrees. A bull that becomes integrated into the marriage due to frequency and or intensity of the relationship is best considered as her boyfriend. Most boyfriends (and Doms) start out with a couple as a bull. Once the couple and their bull are past the first stage jitters and the hotwife becomes comfortable with her bull, she may pull back a bit. Wives are often the ones most afraid of establishing emotional bonds with someone they have started dating (even though such bonds already exist at that point) and may artificially limit the frequency of meetings out of false concerns for creating a deeper bond with their bull and thereby making him a boyfriend. Their concern is both in getting carried away in the moment and how it could hurt their husband to see such affection grown between herself and another male – one who already has a powerful, sexual advantage over the husband in most cases. Only the things you keep from a cuckold will be more threatening than arousing, so always keep communications open. By this point, the hotwife has already committed herself to her bull in a number of ways: she’s likely dressing according to his tastes for dates, she may have changed how she wears her hair or gone tanning or even gotten herself waxed to be softer to his touch. Such a reaction to a male who inspires sexual lust in a hotwife is natural and expected – by both the bull and her cuckold. For the bull, a wife who isn’t willing to extend herself in these ways isn’t trying and a woman who isn’t trying isn’t likely to keep her bull, right? After all, if it’s the same ol’ thing she’s looking for; she already has that with her husband. It will give your cuckold a pang of envy to see you look at your boyfriend this way, but having watched you two together, he likely understands that look and accepts its meaning. The whole point of being a hotwife is to have experience the husband cannot provide. The cuckold may be quite conflicted about seeing you dressing without panties for your bull or trimming and shaving your pussy as he prefers, or knowing that you look forward to having your bull’s cock in your mouth while his has never known, or seldom has that pleasure, but he’s also going to be very excited by it because he’s fully aware of it. Bull To Boyfriend The behaviors referred to above are some examples of small commitments made by the wife to affirm the bull’s role in their marriage. While exciting and a new adventure, they pale in comparison to what awaits when a couple commits to a bull and in so doing, promotes him to being her boyfriend. Sometimes it’s simply the frequency of their coupling which elevates the bull to boyfriend by default. Other times it’s the nature of commitments asked for and exchanged that escalate the nature of his role and the intensity of the couples’ experience. Some of those include: Taking Him Bare The Marital Bed Cuckold Denial Public Dating Overnight Dates" The only dating my wife is interested in is the boyfriend type. Years ago we met Don. Don was a 'player' type, but like other men she's attracted to, was very<b> skilled </font></b>and enjoyed fucking married women. We met Don online, and exchanged some emails, met once, which led directly to sex. Though the spontaneous sex was good, it lacked a part that she enjoyed - the intimacy, trust and closeness, of sex between two people. Don was a one time thing. After that, we talked about what she wanted from cuckolding. Long story short, a boyfriend type who is a wonderful lover. Since then, that's what we've sought. She has done all the elevations listed above; public dates, over night stays, etc., and certainly enjoys that aspect of it. As the article says, it adds so much to the relationship and commitment of all three. She shared all of those with Ron. Overnight stays, public dates with sex at his house afterwards. Sometimes, she would call, as they fucked, so I could listen, adding to my angst and excitement until she returned home to me later that evening. Early on Mark and her shared public dates too, then returning to our home all fired up, where they usually fucked seconds after entering the house. That's what my wife likes about cuckolding. Being able to date openly, and the spice and additions it brings to her sex life, as well as ours. This coming October it will be a year since my wife started dating Phil, whom she considers her boyfriend. It's gone way beyond the 'bull' experience. She's comfortable and trust him sincerely. We both do. Will it lead to public dates, or sex outside our home. Perhaps, That's a conversation for the two of them. "I think it would be fun," she said some time ago about exploring further, in the same fashion she did with Ron. "It would be fun to have sex and come home to you afterwards, or better yet, call you during it!" Shared wife -evergreenstatewife |
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