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An Assault on Feminism (or Brought to You By Misandry)
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An Assault on Feminism (or Brought to You By Misandry) I found a brilliant word, misandry, and followed links to how feminists have been attacked for this very thing. Always having heard feminists accused of hating men for elevating women (whether that would be to equality or superiority to men seemed irrelevant in most), it didn't surprise me that they were also accused of misandry. But an academic assault on feminism was posited years back. This interested me. Those of you who haven't glazed over and wandered off to the article about masturbation in manatees (didn't someone just post that?) can hang in there for a moment. Antagonistic is a quality I would certainly ascribe to many feminists. To be certain, the earliest ones were not guilty of this practice, but the ones who followed sometimes took a dark path. “By any means necessary,” to quote a prominent male member of the civil rights movement (citation below), is a method followed when members of a group become frustrated with change not happening quickly or fully enough. The more militant feminists did venture into man-bashing, though not in the literal sense. Where misogyny has reached the point that women are beaten to death, that hasn't been the case of the militant feminists. Misandrists, or not. Supporting women in divorce and independently raising their is viewed as misandry in feminists, though. When a marriage fails, it can do so for any number of reasons. Some include physical, sexual, and emotional abuse of the wife and/ or . Sometimes, the couple grows to hate each other for completely unrelated reasons. The reasons for divorce are as varied as the people involved, and sometimes there is a deep animosity there that leads the custodial parent to want to sever all<b> ties </font></b>with the ex. When some men are refused visitation because they do not hold up to their financial responsibilities regarding their , the lose out on a relationship with their father who may not be the best role model to begin with. When men refuse to visit their and believe that meeting their financial responsibilities towards their makes them good fathers, the lose out on a relationship with their father who may not be the best role model to begin with. When a man has treated a woman like his birthright or his indentured servant, the woman who ends the marriage isn't apt to welcome the having that mentality as their normative behavior for their future relationships. But the misandrists are at fault for every fractured marriage and/ or relationship where no longer see their fathers. My gorge rose on that idea. Where is the personal responsibility for our actions these days? One area where I found fault in most feminists was that they did not address the class distinctions. Betty Friedan, with whom I am the most familiar, was a chief offender in this area. Where she advocated for women having equal access to the workplace, she never suggested that a father should carry the raising load equally to the mother. That, as we all know, is the domestic's responsibility. That domestic, of course, didn't factor into Friedan's equality in feminism, because someone else would be responsible for her after all. The father or a friend, it was equally of no concern to Friedan. Feminism was only for affluent women, after all. Elitism in feminism assured that Friedan's version of feminism would not survive. Another side of feminism that I disagreed with was that women were mandated roles. Women were required to work outside of their homes. Being a mother and keeping a home for your family while your spouse supported you was not only no longer encouraged but was suddenly vilified. That women should be forced into roles and devalued for the ones they loved or felt compelled to follow was insulting. Just as men had forced women into roles, women were now attempting to do the same. It was no longer empowering but coercing women to believe not only that you had to raise a family and have a career outside of the home, but also that you were failing other women if you didn't do both with the level of expertise women were only ever expected to do one before. Unless you forced another woman into the role of mother by hiring a domestic, to be sure. The last thing that I disliked about the feminist movement was where it sought to control women's sexuality. On the face of it, Take Back The Night was a good movement. Stop men from sexually assaulting women. That doesn't sound like a bad thing. But when it moved into further restricting women, prescribing their sexuality and ability to pursue certain careers. Blaming pornography and erotic dancers for men sexually assaulting women was enabling the men who sexually assault women. Sexual assault is not about sex, after all. It is about power and control. A man who assaults a woman never does it because he saw another woman naked. He does it because he has the mentality to assault women. No woman, short of a woman who sexually assaults her as she is raising him, is responsible for a man assaulting a woman. The feminists who attacked the adult industry sought to restrict women as much as they sought to free them from degradation, a hypocritical approach at best. Women are often exploited by men in the sex industry, and this should be stopped. But women also enjoy their sexuality, and this should be encouraged. |
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