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She's a Cool, Blonde, Scheming bitch
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She's a Cool, Blonde, Scheming bitch This is a rambling post, to talk about how far we have come, and how low we have sank. It just kind of came to me after a song got stuck in my head. Provocative title isn’t it? It made you want to read this… peaked your curiosity, you maybe even expected some FriendFinder-x drama. It’s actually the opening words from a song that just got stuck in my head, as I was reading some posts. You should really UTube High School Confidential by Rough Trade, to get the full vibe of these lyrics.  She's a cool blonde scheming bitch She makes my body twitch Walking down the corridor You can hear her stilettos click I want her so much I feel sick The girl can't help it, she really can't help it now It's like a highschool, highschool confidential A highschool, highschool confidential Teenage Brandos stalk her in the halls They tease her with cat calls She's a combination Anita Eckberg Mamie van Doren Dagmar high school confidential A highschool, highschool confidential What's the principal doin' with her? Who's that guy, is he screwing with her? What's her perfume? Tigress by Fabergé She makes me cream my jeans When she's coming my way High school, high school confidential A highschool, highschool confidential She drives a candy pink Cadillac If I don't get her soon, I'll have a heart attack When she flashes me a look I wanna burn my book Give up high school High school, high school confidential A highschool, highschool confidential A highschool, highschool confidential A highschool, highschool confidential In 1980 this song was really pushing the envelope of acceptability. Others like Mary-Anne Faithful (Why D’ya Do It), pushed a little too far too fast, and got shut down quickly. What the song writing team of Rough Trade front lady Carole Pope and band mate Kevan Staples was able to do, was to skillfully walk that fine line, between “respectability”, being sexually explicit and sexually ambiguous, (the narrator’s sex was never stated). Normally such talk of unrequited lust was reserved for young males, but the song was sung by a woman. Add to that, Carole Pope was overtly sexual when performing, often wearing bondage gear, and did I mention she didn’t exactly hide her same sex orientation, so…. Put it all together in a more homophobic, sexually repressive period of time, it was the perfect storm. All in all, some brilliant lyrics, (IMHO ), that anyone who has truly lusted after another can identify with. Rough Trade was an established Canadian band when they released High School Confidential, they had a following, so it wasn’t as easy for censors, puritanical ne'er-do-wells and radio stations to just dismiss them and burry the song. Some radio stations just flat out refused to play the song; others played a censored version with the most controversial lyrics removed. One very popular radio station went as far as paying the band to record a “cleaned-up” version. Since then, many other bands have been on the edge, or gone over it. Remember the 2-Live Crew, “Me So Horny”; banded, court case, huge controversy at the time. Naughty by Nature (O.P.P), very explicit, but they walked the line and got a Grammy nomination for the song. Now the lyrics for a song like Buckcherry’s “Crazy Bitch” is extremely explicit, but no one bats an eye at it. And then there is the artist Ludacris, very explicit, very successful. How times have changed. When it comes to sex, the actual act itself, speaking about it, and trying to get some, how much is too much? How much is too soon, too vulgar, too overly sexual on a sex dating website? What’s an appropriate first message to someone? What’s an appropriate blog topic? If I asked 1000 different people to define what crosses the line for any given situation, I will get a multitude of different answers. Some will say merely by signing up we expose ourselves to less than respectable people, so we shouldn’t be crying about the level of vulgarity and classlessness we have to deal with here. You look at the different versions of “perversion” on this site as defined by “proper society”, most would be judged as distasteful, vulgar, lewd and disgraceful. We talk in graphic detail about oral sex, sex during menstruation, oral sex during menstruation,  BDSM, masturbation, Urolagnia, etc. We all go about things differently, even though we all share a joy of sex. Is it any surprise that we all approach communicating our sexual desires differently? Is it surprising that there are differences in how we go about communicating our interest in another? As long as the behavior is within the TOU, can it really cross the line of “acceptable behavior”? You will get no argument from me, that common sense dictates we should treat people here how we treat people we meet face-to-face, and better still treat people how we would like to be treated, right? Consistent behavior everywhere… but most of us are very different here than in the “real world. We should read all profiles and messages and respect wishes. Do we intensely read every message, and respond to all the polite ones? If your mailbox is busy (if you are female with the 20 to 50 men for every one of you, it’s busy), I would wager you take a few short cuts to polite behavior? If someone invests the time to write to you, a politely individualized message, do you feel you owe an equal investment to respond? Most reading this just answered “no” in their head, big time commitment, or just don’t want to… It’s a judgment call isn’t it? We all want people to play by the rules we like, demonstrate good social graces towards us, but do we always reciprocate… every time. We have all met a loudmouth, vulgar, tasteless, tactless, obnoxious individual that we would rather poke ourselves in the eye with a stick, than share the oxygen in a room the size of Mall of America with? Some of those same miserable people, make their way onto this site don’t they. But when you do encounter a miserable puss, face-to-face, do you typically engage with them longer than you have to, or do you extricate yourself from the situation quickly. In the real world you would exercise some control over your emotions, anger, disgust; why not here where you can simply delete/block? I’m not condoning or condemning the behavior that many write about, I am merely asking a question. Of course I think the way I go about things on this site is “the best way”, or I would choose a different way… isn’t everyone else doing that including the people who conduct themselves in a manner we don’t appreciate? I got to think that most, asshats and prim and proper alike, are doing so. And they are also taking the short cuts they feel are adequate. I find myself saying and thinking about a particular quote a lot. “HOW YOU TREAT ME IS YOUR KARMA… HOW I REACT IS MINE”. I think these are words to really heed when conducting ourselves on this site, don’t you? There is no “EASY” button in life, but everyone seems to think they deserve one, especially here. Some readers are going to sit on the fence with all the issues I have raised and say nothing; some will agree with most or all I have stated. Some will disagree with most or all I have said. But to all of you, I say, BRING IT! Be heard! Just when you do bring it, I would rather our discussion take on the tone of the Phil Donahue Show (remember him), instead of the tone of Jerry Springer. Isn’t it great that we can talk to and meet other likeminded adults, to engage in and discuss the very thing that put us here… sex? Isn’t it sad that we can’t conduct ourselves like adults, even in the face of frustration (been there done that too), and keep an air of civility here? We all react differently when someone makes our body twitch, some with grace and elegance, some with the awkwardness of teenagers, most somewhere in between. She makes me cream my jeans When she's coming my way Thoughts Find pleasure in giving pleasure |
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As I said on another blog today...I have been here long enough to have seen most of the sides of this site. I have met some wonderful people here but I have also encountered some utter asswipes. The men that I have actually met from here all made a respectful initial approach to me...I don't respond to anything less and I make no apology for this. In fact my auto reply now says that I don't read or respond to messages from anyone now other than a blogger whose name I recognise. I have always done my best to be the same here as I am in real life and in both cases I simply ignore people who do not sit well personally with me but I am known to have been outspoken here in the past over certain behaviours which damage the whole of Blogland. It is the only place outside the privacy of our homes that I know where we can, if we wish, discuss quite openly all sexual matters. If someone wants to post about stuff which I think crosses the line but does not break the TOU, that is their right and I must simply choose not to read it. One thing I do NOT like is the new trend here of naming and shaming. It's just not necessary in most cases...blocking should be enough. Sorry for the length of this. Great post.   ~~Anais Nin~~
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I agree with most that is said in this post, especially about Karma. There are people in real life that I won't associate with, and it is the same kind of people I won't associate with online. While everyone has the same right to be on this site, we are not obligated to accept every one of them. I do reply to every single politely and respectfully written email, either to engage in further communication or to politely decline. Insulting, rude and otherwise offensive emails are either deleted without response or blocked and reported if they are especially nasty. Am I a prude for having self respect? Think what you may but I am a sexual being with needs and desires, and also, with self esteem. I value manners, it's the way I was raised, and I won't tolerate rudeness and lack of respect. We all are very different and our tastes and preferences are unique as well. Some people respond to visual stimulation, I respond better to cerebral. To each his/her own, but I don't think it's right to impose one's way of thinking/acting on others, and this is what some people here are doing. Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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One of the best things here is that sex (and other issues) can be talked about openly and largely without instant judgement. And blogland is a reflection of us all - it's a lot more civilised than the site's advice line. Offline conventions should apply online - treat people as we want to be treated. 
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As I said on another blog today...I have been here long enough to have seen most of the sides of this site. I have met some wonderful people here but I have also encountered some utter asswipes. The men that I have actually met from here all made a respectful initial approach to me...I don't respond to anything less and I make no apology for this. In fact my auto reply now says that I don't read or respond to messages from anyone now other than a blogger whose name I recognise. I have always done my best to be the same here as I am in real life and in both cases I simply ignore people who do not sit well personally with me but I am known to have been outspoken here in the past over certain behaviours which damage the whole of Blogland. It is the only place outside the privacy of our homes that I know where we can, if we wish, discuss quite openly all sexual matters. If someone wants to post about stuff which I think crosses the line but does not break the TOU, that is their right and I must simply choose not to read it. One thing I do NOT like is the new trend here of naming and shaming. It's just not necessary in most cases...blocking should be enough. Sorry for the length of this. Great post. It would be nice to see bloggers abandon the practice of trying to divide the Ville. Blessed are the peacemakers. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I agree with most that is said in this post, especially about Karma. There are people in real life that I won't associate with, and it is the same kind of people I won't associate with online. While everyone has the same right to be on this site, we are not obligated to accept every one of them. I do reply to every single politely and respectfully written email, either to engage in further communication or to politely decline. Insulting, rude and otherwise offensive emails are either deleted without response or blocked and reported if they are especially nasty. Am I a prude for having self respect? Think what you may but I am a sexual being with needs and desires, and also, with self esteem. I value manners, it's the way I was raised, and I won't tolerate rudeness and lack of respect. We all are very different and our tastes and preferences are unique as well. Some people respond to visual stimulation, I respond better to cerebral. To each his/her own, but I don't think it's right to impose one's way of thinking/acting on others, and this is what some people here are doing. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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IF we can all stop getting bent out of shape, intelligent discussions can be had. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Sis, I wouldn't expect any different out of you. We are alike in so may ways; that's why you are my sister. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Exactly Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Yes, times are different... and it's a good new bad news thing. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Huge, gigantic feeling of entitlement everywhere.! Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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One of the best things here is that sex (and other issues) can be talked about openly and largely without instant judgement. And blogland is a reflection of us all - it's a lot more civilised than the site's advice line. Offline conventions should apply online - treat people as we want to be treated. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Great post. Definitely, I think, politeness and respect contribute to the success of a relationship be it friendship or love. I could not agree more. Regardless of all circumstances, the way we treat others, must be consistent. After all, a good relationship depends on our social behavior, also.We all have tastes for different things. The important thing is that sex has to be good for the individuals involved. Hugs! A única alegria isenta de amargura é a de bem proceder.
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Great post. Definitely, I think, politeness and respect contribute to the success of a relationship be it friendship or love. I could not agree more. Regardless of all circumstances, the way we treat others, must be consistent. After all, a good relationship depends on our social behavior, also.We all have tastes for different things. The important thing is that sex has to be good for the individuals involved. Hugs! Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Times have changed, and change is always a good new bad new situation. I do like that as a society, were are more open about sex! It's sad that the openness has not lead to great intelligence about sex across the board. I would like to read that magazine article... perhaps you could pass it along to me. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I been on this site for too many years.. Seen it all.. I don't get bent out of shape over emails regardless what they say. Keep smiling it can only get better KHU.. Meet some awesome folks and still are friends with them over the years.. hugsssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I been on this site for too many years.. Seen it all.. I don't get bent out of shape over emails regardless what they say. Keep smiling it can only get better KHU.. Meet some awesome folks and still are friends with them over the years.. hugsssssss V Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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blessed are those who are flexible for they won't get bent out of shape I remember when John Denver was called before congress to discuss censorship in the music industry what he had to say wasn't what they wanted to hear
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blessed are those who are flexible for they won't get bent out of shape I remember when John Denver was called before congress to discuss censorship in the music industry what he had to say wasn't what they wanted to hear Good on John Denver for messing up the spin doctors. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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