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Should i sleep with my colleague?  

juankratos 42M
165 posts
10/29/2015 9:56 am
Should i sleep with my colleague?
HI all,
How is it going? hope u all are fine...
good thing the haze is gone and i just love the rain...
btw i gotta ask.. will you sleep with ur colleague.

I have known this lady for some time but recently we got clicked and started sharing lots of stuff... but we both know where to draw the line. However lately she has started giving hints to me...
1. touching my hands, shoulders,back and tummy (is this normal?)
2. rubbing her body over mine... once it was the breast...(gosh she is the D size girl)
3. talking abt what she likes in sex... (kinda vague but I think its a hint. no?)
4. asking me out for drinks (I have turned her down many times)
I know some may say I am foolish... but I am kinda worried abt sleeping with a colleague.
you know the risk of being known by all, and also the repercussion from sleeping with a colleague. plus she is already engaged...I dont wanna wreck her life...
I am so confused... sometimes i wish I can just silent the noises in my heart and brain and just have fun...
somehow I know I am not doing justice to her...

pls share your advice if any...
thanks
Yours truly.
CuriousDutch87 36M
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33 posts
10/29/2015 10:07 am

 Id say go for it


juankratos replies on 10/29/2015 10:10 am:
but bro..isn't it risky...like knowing u just slept with the person u worked with...if she was someone outside my office i would had...

feelinflips 60M/51F
86 posts
10/29/2015 10:12 am

 I think it depends on what repercussions could be had by doing this?

Are either of you in a higher profile position that the other?
Could you get terminated if the relationship is discovered?
Can she destroy your career should the relationship go south?

Risk vs Reward - only you can decide if its worth it.


juankratos replies on 10/29/2015 10:22 am:
thanks for a wise comment.
Here is the thing.. The HR doesn't care what we do outside the office. if caught in the office.. then i know i may face the risk of losing my job. we are at the same level, however she was on the company's scholarship...thus she is to stay until her loan is paid. for me, i may get the kick.. and that is the biggest factor. 2ndly, HR may transfer me to another state. to avoid things from getting worse. Its certainly a tough decision... but your words do make me thing. thanks so much

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
10/29/2015 10:12 am

 Don't do it.


juankratos replies on 10/29/2015 10:23 am:
thanks... I gotta feeling that i may not do it... trying to build courage to say no.. oh if only i was not that weak...

Wanton_Wench2 62F  
1027 posts
10/29/2015 10:36 am

 if you are being tranfered soo, whats the problem, put yourself out of your misery
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juankratos replies on 10/29/2015 10:44 am:
getting transferred is not a good idea... esp when i hv to relocate, n also leave my elderly mom alone...

dayzeeme 55F
7024 posts
10/29/2015 10:54 am

 I would not do it ... if she is already engaged to someone else, to me, that just spells trouble!!! She needs to back off, and I would do my best to let her know that.


juankratos 42M
214 posts
10/29/2015 11:00 am
    Quoting dayzeeme:
    I would not do it ... if she is already engaged to someone else, to me, that just spells trouble!!! She needs to back off, and I would do my best to let her know that.
true that, trouble is what i dont want...


mamacita38dd 45F
62894 posts
10/29/2015 12:57 pm

 I wouldn't do it.
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juankratos 42M
214 posts
10/30/2015 9:13 am

 yeah i think so... still pondering...


juankratos 42M
214 posts
11/1/2015 10:11 am

 to update everyone here, I didnt have sex with her, i did meet her and she was trying hard to give me hints, eventually i spoke to her. and told her that our friendship is worth being without sex...
am glad i told her. but i thank everyone for sharing your thoughts. it made my decision an easy yet wise one...
thanks.


FlyinPhotog 51M
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211 posts
11/1/2015 1:46 pm

 Sounds like you made the right decision - good on ya.

Rarely are at work relationships (the juice) worth the squeeze.

Another saying that I have and religiously stand by is: Don't stick your pen in company ink.
Be Naughty, Have Fun, and Stay Awesome!

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juankratos 42M
214 posts
11/1/2015 9:44 pm
    Quoting FlyinPhotog:
    Sounds like you made the right decision - good on ya.

    Rarely are at work relationships (the juice) worth the squeeze.

    Another saying that I have and religiously stand by is: Don't stick your pen in company ink.
yeah i feel much better now. and my pen is not going anywhere near that ink... eheeheh. thanks and take care.


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