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Dating today  

theois4u 54M
2 posts
12/10/2013 10:26 am
Dating today
Being recently divorced, it's interesting me me how Dating has changed since I was last in circulation. The Introduction Process, the Expectations, & the Attitudes of the Contestants is not as I remembered - or is it me that's changed?

I find that I'm much less tolerant than I used to be - Probably doesn't sound to good to prospective readers, I acknowledge. What I mean is, I don't have time for games, drama, bad attitudes, takers, or simply put - Crazy People. Having a clearer understanding of who I am has given me divine insight into who "Works with me."

Where has chivalry gone? I consider myself to be an observant person & I've developed an interest of watching how couples of all ages interact with each other. Young people - you disappoint me. You're either all over each other or you look awkward around each other - like two buddies punching each others shoulders. Conversely, I love watching<b> older couples </font></b>and the depth of their non-verbal communication - like my grandparents were. Is it naive of me to want the same one day?

I'm on another "Mainstream" dating site. Though new to that as well, I haven't been presented with even 1 match that I would consider dating - based on appearance alone. Sorry, I like beautiful women. Is it impossible to find a beautiful woman who takes care of her mind as well as her body, is a deep thinker, a Romantic, a Good Person (Very important), has matching values AND Loves Sex?

You see, that's the dilemma - it's an either/or. I go to church every Sunday and I wish for a woman that would allow me to bring the two sides of me together - so I don't feel like a good woman could never understand my sexuality. Sadly, this is the situation I was in during my marriage, and the same one many of my married friends find themselves in to this day.

If you're still reading, perhaps you can relate to this illustration. If that's the case, I'd enjoy hearing from you.

Best of Luck!!!
porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
12/10/2013 8:45 pm

 Sometimes we focus more on looks than what a person can give and offer you, Don't get me wrong, there isn't anything wrong with wanting a beautiful woman or man, But in reality it is hard to get both, But if you are looking for someone your friends and family will be amazed about the woman you are with, you might want to rethink it, everything that look good isn't good for you or to you. I wish you luck in your finding of the person you desire


theois4u replies on 12/11/2013 6:36 am:
Thank You for your feedback - there's wisdom in your words. I don't care what family/friends think of my date. I like women of all races which was initially a bit "surprising" to some.

Here's the real issue - temptation. My very good friend and I were discussing this and we formed a theory - A man is as faithful as he has options. It's simple for a 300 lb. man to be faithful - he has no options. And if I'm honest with myself, I know that I struggle with temptation. I was faithful to my wife because I was very attracted to her - if I hadn't been, I would have failed...

Appearance is certainly important, but so are MANY other things. Thanks for your feedback - Have a Stellar Day - Best of Luck!

er2011rg 57M/57F
289 posts
12/11/2013 3:33 am

 Never settle... Always be true to who you are and your wants. She will come.


theois4u replies on 12/11/2013 6:37 am:
Thanks for your feedback - I intend to!!!

Merry Christmas

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