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Love Is a Battlefield  

New2Midlo 54M
653 posts
1/20/2021 4:30 pm

Last Read:
6/12/2021 7:53 am

Love Is a Battlefield


If you think about it, being a part of a loving relationship has a lot of similarities guerilla warfare. No, not between the two of you, but with the rest of the world. Enemies abound, intent on destroying the union with your partner. They're both internal and external; some may take the guise of a non-threat. Stressful jobs, illness, financial difficulties, challenges as parents, death of a parent, the hot neighbor doing her best insert herself. The list is almost endless of what can attack a relationship.

In order for that relationship survive and thrive, it's important both parties work as a two person commando team, defending from multiple enemies, coming from different directions. They need neutralize these enemies, or at least reduce their respective threats, and then get the chopper for exfil. Without both parties fighting as brave warriors, working together, and covering each other's flank, the team (relationship) will be overrun and killed.

I think we've all been in relationships where our 'brother in arms' failed to guard our flanks. Perhaps, we were the ones who failed in our duties. Then, there are the all too common relationships that neither have the drive to fight.

And what happens when your teammate gets wounded and can no longer fight? I'd argue that's an even greater test of character than how someone fights.

My last serious relationship was with someone who it felt as though she was setting off flairs, so the enemy knew where to . And when I got hit, she seemed really sorry, but there was no way she was missing that chopper.

My ex-wife could best be characterized as shooting me in the body armor, during the battle, then lying about it. Not my finest hour, but I was with someone who fought as a fearless warrior. When one of us got wounded, the other would throw the other over their shoulder and make damned sure they both made the flight home. Ultimately, I shot her just after she threw me onto the chopper floor. Again, not my finest hour.

How would you characterize your most memorable relationship?

New2Midlo 54M
1075 posts
1/20/2021 4:31 pm

We are strong...no one can tell us we're wrong.


lyavu 50F
1538 posts
1/21/2021 2:39 am

Nothing new and also it seems to not to exist anymore


CL_Love 51M/50F
425 posts
6/15/2021 10:30 am

I'm grateful for all of the times he fought for us when I was unable. I am grateful for all of the times he carried me to the chopper under fire. I wish I could say proudly I had done the same for him, but too often that would be untrue (though he would say I didn't give myself enough credit). For 30 years we've been on this battlefield together and I couldn't ask for a better compatriot. Beautiful analogy.


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