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" The 20 year plan"!  

scoupe42 60M
6747 posts
5/4/2019 10:37 am

Last Read:
7/27/2019 3:28 pm

" The 20 year plan"!

10 to 12 years ago. I seen a friend's wife, at work. I known this friend over 30 years ago, when we both was in the Air Force. She was in a different area from me and she was back with the company. I asked her. "How's DJ? DJ was my friend in the military. She said, her and DJ got a divorce. I was shocked, and said, "What happened?, she told me."DJ wasn't worth a shit! He did what he wanted to do. He cheated! She said, she talked to a lawyer.

The Lawyer asked her, "How long you two been married'? She told him less that 5 years. The Lawyer told her, if you get divorce now, you might not get much, because He's probably going to get joint custody on your , so if you stay 15 more years, when he do retire, you going to get 1/2 of his retirement. So they Lawyer told her, she should stay on "The 20 year plan"!

So she decided too. She didn't argue , fuss or fight, just look the other way. So after a while DJ did a 180 degree turn. He was a good father, husband. She said, he thanked her for still being with him. He said he's sorry a million times! She said, she think he was sincere, and DJ came correct! But the damage was done! She was able to go back to school and get her masters.

So when DJ finally retired, she wanted to come back to New Mexico, DJ was from New York. She was once an intern at the company years ago, and now coming back full time. So after 6 months or so of DJ being retired, she file for divorce. Of course, she got 1/2, now she back working making 6 figures, with a chance to get another retirement. Within a year, she re-married.

I seen DJ, he said, he felt used! He said,, Why didn't she divorced him earlier? Poor dude, he had a brain tumor, and his health is falling apart. I know 8 years ago was trying to get disability. I know Karma is a bitch! Who was more wrong? DJ being a bad husband the first 5 years. Or Carol, getting on "The 20 year plan"!











sexysixties2 106F
39750 posts
5/5/2019 12:41 pm

I can't really say who was more wrong but I think it was a waste of her life to stay with him.

"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


scoupe42 replies on 5/5/2019 1:16 pm:
Yep, 15 more years. How you been? thx for viewing

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
5/5/2019 4:08 am

I think she had a good lawyer. He did a turn around and was a good father and husband. With that, I think she was in the wrong by leaving him. Had he stayed the same, I think her riding it out for financial gain would have been a smart move. Screw the bastard scenario. But, if he was good to her eventually, and she was just using him, shame on her. I would hope if that were me, I would help him out in his bad days. He is her kids’ dad after all.


scoupe42 replies on 5/5/2019 7:38 am:
How are you? I appreciate the feedback, and I agreed in a lot of way, she could had help him in his time of need.

Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
5/4/2019 12:30 pm

Well she definitely got what was coming to her in the end, but don't think it was really worth it. But like you said KARMA what comes around goes around. I hope you have a great weekend..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


scoupe42 replies on 5/4/2019 12:37 pm:
Hi Temp, thx for viewing and feedback, Happy Saturday.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
5/4/2019 12:14 pm

Who was more wrong?....

DJ did wrong by getting married. Marriage is not a good deal for men anymore, absolutely no benefit for a man. Hasn't been since at least 1980.

Did DJ do wrong "By being a bad husband"? ... Couldn't tell you, because I don't know DJ, I don't know what he was like before he got married, I don't know how long he dated Carol before getting married?

Absolutely DJ did wrong by not having a prenuptial. He did wrong by not familiarizing himself with the "Rules" of a marriage contract, in the State he got married [or move to and lived]. If men are going to be stupid by getting married, he should always have a prenuptial agreement, even if he has barely two dimes in his pocket. ... and talk with a lawyer about what the "Contract" entails , for that State, should he get divorced.

But Carol knew him. She saw the marriage wasn't working, in less than 5 years.

Ethically, Carol did wrong by staying. She sacrificed 16-15 years of her life to get more money. Financially, Carol did right for herself to get more money. Good whore move.

But like any woman who gets married, she is a whore, and "Money" always supersedes "Emotion" in the end.

DJ did more wrong, to answer your question specifically. He decided to get married without fully understanding what he was doing, and not fully acquainting himself with the laws of marriage for the state he got married, and the state he lived with Carol.

Real sorry for your buddy... that's just a sucky way to end life.


scoupe42 replies on 5/4/2019 12:20 pm:
My friend, I appreciate you! You always have awesome feedback and I also you actually reading what written. Happy Saturday and thx again!

Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
5/4/2019 11:29 am

Wow... 20 year plan. That's fucked up!


scoupe42 replies on 5/4/2019 11:34 am:
Just image what my friend DJ thinks! Thx for viewing

scoupe42 60M

5/4/2019 10:39 am

I know Karma a bitch! But who's more wrong?


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