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"What a friend suppose to do"?
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"What a friend suppose to do"? What if you know that someone did dirt over the years and you have a friend that dating them. Would you tell them about their dirt? Y Many years ago there was a girl, I knew while I was in the military. She was cool and I seen her a round. She told me she was a . She had a no-good man, I guess he allow her to or maybe it was his idea? A couple of years later, a new troop was stationed on the base. This person got to be a friend. He also lived in the same barracks as me. After several month he start dating a girl. Guess who? My lady friend from the past, who onced . When I seen her, she was shock I was still stationed here, and she told me she's not tricking any more and now she's a good woman. He told me that he wanted to marry her, this was after 3 months of dating her. Marriage? Should I mention her past? My stupid ass, did just that! "What a friend suppose to do"? She was angry at me, for of course he said, "Drew said". But they got married anyway. He was abusive and always brought up her past. They both was miserable, and eventually got divorce. After a year or so later, I met a girl. I fell in love. She already had two , and soon she was pregnant with mines. I had friend, that knew her, but no one said a word. I married her, and I found out she wasn't a good person. After over 6 years of marriage, I left her. One of my friend, came back to NM after getting out. I talked to him about divorcing her. He told me she was a ! This is why I divorced her. I ask, why didn't you tell me before I married her? I would had never married her! But later I realized, by not knowing, I got to be and see my every day, and part of my 's and grand lives. My is my only . If I moved on, maybe no family, and no other . Me telling my friend about his wife past destroyed, what might had been a good thing. "What a friend suppose to do"? Nothing! And mind your own business!           |
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Mind ur own business keep quiet
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7/16/2019 12:14 pm |
I think if you are a true friend you will be the one to tell
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7/13/2019 6:43 pm |
"Hi, he was abusive because of her past. Maybe I shouldn't.t had said anything. I did what I though was right at the time." i am not saying what you did was wrong... you did what you thought was right. you said that she told you about her past. that makes me confused of the two which one was your friend? there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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What if you know that someone did dirt over the years..would you say anything.. ....Depends. Criminal past? Drug habit? Sure, I'd mentioned it. But I don't consider prostituting , as a crime, nor as dirt, so I would not have mentioned she was a prostitute. This is not something that would adversely affect their life together. He told me that he wanted to marry her, this was after 3 months of dating her. ... Sounds like shore-leave-balls. Attach himself to the first woman he sees. I would have tried to talk him into waiting another 2 or 3 years. Marriage? Should I mention her past? My stupid ass, did just that! .... Marriage after only 3 months, was the problem, not that she was a prostitute. The guy probably would have been abusive to her even if he didn't know about her past. After a year or so later, I met a girl. I fell in love. She already had two children, .... As a general rule, always a good idea to avoid a woman with another man's kids living with her. I would had never married her! .... Why? Because she was a prostitute? The only difference between a prostitute and your average woman, is that a prostitute gets money for sex, and your average woman gets drinks, food, and gifts, for sex......isn't really that much of a difference. ha.. and when you marry a woman, regardless of how beautiful she is, and the ceremony is, the man is essentially buying a woman's commitment to him, for sex. If married men and women are actually partners, then by law, there should not be any monetary obligation from the man, to her, when the marriage ends, with the exception of paying child-support, and that should be optional. Especially when she has another mans kids. Me telling my friend about his wife past destroyed, what might had been a good thing. ..... No.. don't lay that guilt trip on yourself. Your buddy was probably abusive, anyway, if he knew or not. Good men sometimes do marry women who were, or are, prostitutes. These men don't beat up on his woman , nor hold that over her. "What a friend suppose to do"? Nothing! And mind your own business! ..... No. There are exceptions.
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Tough one. Especially since you already know the result, right? I'd probably say something... once... And then keep my mouth shut. 😊 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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7/13/2019 12:02 pm |
what would i do? i would never break the convent of a confidence. but i would confront her to satisfy my need for her not being totally open with him. there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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7/13/2019 11:58 am |
i guess you are in a shit place... it seems you were told in confidence. now the question would be are there conditions where a confidence can be broken? "He was abusive and always brought up her past" so now you are stuck trying to figure out if you are the cause of his actions. or was he abusive from the start... but then the bruises would have shown during the engagement. there is a line between something learned in confidence... and being witness to an action that goes against one's morals. a true friend will go the hard way rather than the easy way there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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Interesting story, had the same experience while stationed at Fort Campbell. Back in the day we where about protecting the homies, so I spilled the beans over the girl that my homie was getting close to. You see I had screwed her with little to no efforted and I wanted him to know about it. He got mad, think he dated her anyway, but at least I took him what I knew about her.
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I feel you did the right thing telling your friend. Thats what true friend does. Sorry that happened to you. For yourself you did the right thing but it would have been nice if the person had told you because you could have still been in your daughters life without marrying the mother. There are alot of great guys out there that help raise their child with out been married. Sometimes its better for the child. LadyTeddieBear 
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You know my friend, I would tell my friend as you don't want them to find out later. Then they can make the decision based on what they feel is the best thing for them to do. I know it causes riffs between friends for being honest, but in the end you saved them from a lot of grief. I hope you have a wonderful day.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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7/13/2019 10:05 am |
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7/13/2019 9:45 am |
What would you do?
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