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Blogs > Smokeblower > Blowing Smoke

Why blog on AFF?  

Smokeblower 67M
140 posts
6/30/2014 10:19 pm
Why blog on AFF?

Seriously, I am wondering this...

I have a few friends for whom this appears to be their primary blogging outlet.

Now, I love sex. I love playing with myself. I love writing about sex. I especially love playing with others. And this is the biggest online community devoted to sex, so you have the biggest audience. yet...

This community is fragmented at best and hostile at worst. It's a microcosm of the general population, rather than a focused sub-culture. Sub-cultures tend to be supportive, whereas this venue seems to attract vultures and predators, to an even greater extent than the default world. What makes us want to even try?

Is it that, like Facebook, it's the lowest common denominator and biggest available audience? Is it that we blog because we hope we'll get dates and sex because we're bloggers?

Please help me understand why I'm here.

vonoberfen 57M
21 posts
6/30/2014 11:24 pm

 My best idea is that any other outlet would block us permanently for the content we freely peruse here. Of course, it never hurts to do stuff to improve our chances at actually meeting real people to do real things with.


Smokeblower replies on 7/1/2014 12:35 am:
Yep, vonoberfen, it's clearly the lack of censorship that appeals. But there's also a lack of self-censorship. I've mistakenly broken trust here. And there are those that deliberately break trust or worse, slanderously attack other members. And in the absence of a censoring body, those malevolent people get away with it.

And yes, i'm hoping that my blog makes me more real so I can get laid more often. But really I write because I have to.

hiddenmythology 44M
9643 posts
7/1/2014 8:51 pm

 I am here because I would never be able to blog anywhere else like I do here. Yeah occasionally things go a little south and I run my mouth off, but for the most part, I try to get along with everybody! At the end of the day, I wouldn't want to be anywhere else!
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openagenda 108M
6275 posts
7/3/2014 1:19 pm

 Where else can you blog such a question and get diverse answers?

(Good question btw)

With a bit of search, one can actually find blogs that do have great discussions about good information.

Yup, there are cliques who spend most of their "exclusive" blog space fishing for and exchanging meaningless compliments and awards, others for expressing their fantasies and others for posting oggle pictures.

Hint: Try delving into blogs posted circa 2011. There was several bloggers then who did value meaningful exchanges and discussions. Some of those discussions were heated by opposing views but no one was blocked or deleted because opposite points of view.
(For examples, click one of the lower ones in my signature.)

Btw The links you tried to provide in VM's blog did get censored (automatically). One has to be a bit more clever in framing urls here otherwise they become just blowing smoke.


Smokeblower replies on 7/4/2014 3:42 am:
Thank you so much for the advice and info, OpenAgenda. I was on this site back in 05, met some folks, then got discouraged. This is my second time around, chastened, a bit wiser and seeking deeper connection and community. And I feel that I'm slowly finding it, albeit with more care needed to stay safe than I would like. And I'll be more careful about links... That's frustrating.

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
7/3/2014 9:25 pm

 For me.. I'm an introvert. Most people only see the parts of me I think they can handle without hurting me or upsetting them. It's totally unintentional. Some few people I click and resonate with and they get deeper glimpses. But here: I can let it all out. The side of me that has no other outlet except a VERY select few friends or lovers over the years. I can write about anything: my sexual fantasies, my questions, sorrows, hopes, whatever, and feel safe letting it all out.

Or, as one friend has stated, I can keep myself protected in my little fantasy world.

Still: I love the community here. I've found, except for a brief bit of drama that I mainly just let go over my head, and the rare jerk with nothing better to than insult people, that people here ARE supportive of one another. Answering questions, supporting, offering a hand or a shoulder (figuratively and sometimes literally) for the rest of us in blogville.


Smokeblower replies on 7/4/2014 3:45 am:
That's great encouragement, DSK, especially from an introvert. Thank you!!! <3

Tastyddds 54F
266 posts
7/7/2014 11:39 am

 i tend to blog to share how if feel with hopefully other like minded people...no pro by any means..lol...more rants about bullshit..lol...or amazing sex...love the sex part...either way helps me get things off of my chest...lol..as you can see ..i got alot..hope you find your answer...kisses,T


Smokeblower replies on 7/12/2014 2:23 pm:
THanks, TastyDDDs

AmericanBaronin 59F   
12250 posts
7/27/2014 3:14 am

 I write a lot; I say fuck even more. Can't do that on fb. I am, therefore I blog; I blog therefore I am. That sort of thing. I have been here pretty much since a year after they started having blogs here; things change, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. I write for me; if others understand, get a connection, whatever, that's good of course, but even if they didn't, I'd still be blogging.


Smokeblower replies on 7/27/2014 7:43 am:
Thank you. I get the "I write because I must" statement. So, you've found your audience here? I guess that's part of my question - is there an audience in whose lives I can make a difference here?

AmericanBaronin 59F   
12250 posts
7/27/2014 7:52 am

 oh yeah, you find them or they find you...and assuming a f f doesn't 'glitch' like it has in the past and lose a good bit of your watched list, things get better...tho so many have quit blogging over the years or blog so seldom that sometimes it feels as if it's a ghost town kind of thing...but in the end, blog about what matters to you, and how you want to express it, and you should be happy regardless


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