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For Pam The 24th Virtual Symposium- What we are thankful for I have many things to be thankful for and the many friends I’ve made here stand out among those things. I hope I do an adequate job of showing how much I appreciate you. But I would have none of that without the one thing I’m most grateful for- my wife Pam. She both literally and figuratively saved my life. I had a botched surgery several years ago and the hospital staff threw me out of the hospital, afraid that I might die and anxious that I not do that in their hospital. In fact I was quite ill and did nearly die but because of my wife’s attention and because she rushed me to another, better hospital, I survived. This was a tough time for her. I was unconscious or heavily medicated with narcotics most of the time, so my recollection of events is murky. But I do recall that whenever I came to my senses, there she was. It put me in mind of what Gabriel Oak had promised Bathsheba in “Far From the Madding Crowd”: “And at home by the fire, whenever you look up there I shall be— and whenever I look up, there will be you.” Pam was loathe to leave my side. As I began to recover I insisted that she go home and sleep. It’s hard to rest in a recliner in a hospital room. A couple of times she did do as I asked, but only after I was out of danger. She nursed me there and put up with my opiate ramblings and inanity. I was sick and grumpy and she endured it all. When I was finally sent home she continued to pamper me and cater to me…and care for me. In a very real way, if not for her I might not be alive. Pam figuratively saved me when I met her and she restored my hopes in life, and resurrected my belief in love. We were a couple of three time losers and were, I think, looking for some kind of friend with benefits. She said she wanted someone to go to the movies with and maybe have sex with her now and then. I was trying to find someone to talk to! I had had luck getting laid, but that only goes just so far. I was tired of splitting up the Ponderosa and tired of hookups. We met online in a now defunct but then well known dating site. I sent a message, mostly just out of curiosity, not really even expecting a response. So many never respond at all. I told her it sounded as if we had a lot in common. The next day I got a pert message: “Yeah? Like what?” So…I told her like what and we began to correspond. It became fun very quickly. In a few days I was rushing home to talk to her again online. She told me I was the one guy who actually talked to her, and listened! It was easy to listen. With her second email she had at my request sent a short story she had written, The Loosestrife Man. It’s posted in this blog. I loved her writing and I began to love her. We met one sunny March Day in a park by the river in Niles, Michigan. Both our lives were changed that day. For myself, I confess to having had some rescue fantasies. She was broke after her last divorce and stuck in a shabby second floor walkup. I could take her away from all that. She had a bad run of luck with men, and I KNEW I could do better by her. And I did, but the one who was rescued was me. No woman had ever made me smile like Pam. The joy I felt in her presence was like a drug, and we were like in love, in our fifties. She helped me to love again, and love life again. I have heard people say that they will never be tied down by marriage or a monogamous relationship again, but with my wife I’m finally free to be me. She accepts me for what I am, and who I am. How many of you know wives who would tolerate their husbands having other women as best friends? How many wives would have the trust required to give their partner free rein to blog, flirt and raise hell on a dating site that highlights sex as its main draw? Pam and I are monogamous and sexually exclusive, by agreement. And she trusts me to honor that agreement. I have never enjoyed that kind of trust before, or that kind of maturity in a partner. So if I’m thankful for my wonderful friends, and for my freedom, I have also to be most thankful for my wife, who made it possible for me. I have the best of both worlds, and the very best of partners. I love you, Pam. Ed: We've written about how we met and posted the stories from both points of view here. About The How We Met posts, Unknown and How I Met PD Become a member now and get a free tote bag. |
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You are one hell of a special person Kzoo! This is a beautiful post and you and Pam were meant' for each other. There are some people in this world that are "perfect" for each other, and that is you two! I absolutely adore you and your story. Thank you for sharing that...   Rachel Mae
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You are one hell of a special person Kzoo! This is a beautiful post and you and Pam were meant' for each other. There are some people in this world that are "perfect" for each other, and that is you two! I absolutely adore you and your story. Thank you for sharing that... Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Annette, thank you. She makes everything possible again. I had about given up. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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that was a very heartfelt post Kzoo. Pam is lucky to have you, as are you to have her. She has to be special to let you wear that lingerie AND post pictures!!
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Beautiful Post Bill. I remember one night, when talking to you. you said those words to me about your wife Pam. I can totally understand why you feel that way. cause she sounds like a wonderful lady to you. I wish you two many more years of sharing together p.s. You are wonderful man. A beautiful human being. in a way you are only getting what you deserved. a wonderful lady to walk along your path in life with you. you both deserved. I am thankful to know you and to have gotten closer to you these past months. is an honor to talk to you and be a part of your life in some way.
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As usual, I could listen to this story, over and over again. I love this story. And I love both of you. Even though I have never met either of you. sigh. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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that was a very heartfelt post Kzoo. Pam is lucky to have you, as are you to have her. She has to be special to let you wear that lingerie AND post pictures!! Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Beautiful Post Bill. I remember one night, when talking to you. you said those words to me about your wife Pam. I can totally understand why you feel that way. cause she sounds like a wonderful lady to you. I wish you two many more years of sharing together p.s. You are wonderful man. A beautiful human being. in a way you are only getting what you deserved. a wonderful lady to walk along your path in life with you. you both deserved. I am thankful to know you and to have gotten closer to you these past months. is an honor to talk to you and be a part of your life in some way. Like any couple we have our quarrels. But we always keep in mind what's important- us. We talk things out and resolve problems. Sometimes that means apologizing when you don't think you were wrong. It means bending to accommodate the one you love. We've both had to give to make it work. It's a labor of love. In truth, I'd be lost without her. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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You are very lucky to find her. She is also very lucky to have found you. Through our conversations we have had you give me hope to be able to find love again. I respect you in every way. I feel blessed to been fortunate to have met you. Thank you for being my friend and I am so happy to have met you Happy Halloween!!!
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Thank you for sharing your story. Very beautiful! You're both very fortunate people to have found one another! Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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i always heard its when u give up that u find what u lookin for,glad to hear that happens for real.. woop woop
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As usual, I could listen to this story, over and over again. I love this story. And I love both of you. Even though I have never met either of you. sigh. Kk  This is heartfelt though and you know that. Without her I wouldn't have you. Either outcome would be tragic for me. We're going to remedy that never having met bullshit soon. I'll be talking to you about that later. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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You are very lucky to find her. She is also very lucky to have found you. Through our conversations we have had you give me hope to be able to find love again. I respect you in every way. I feel blessed to been fortunate to have met you. Thank you for being my friend and I am so happy to have met you Happy Halloween!!!Pam and I also recently talked about this again...dating, and searching for that special someone. Neither of us at face value would have been picked to succeed, or to be compatible. But we kept open minds even if the statisticians did not. We were open to each other and when we clicked we never looked back. This works because we WANT it to. We both had to give things up to be together, And we gained a hell of a lot more than we gave up. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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i always heard its when u give up that u find what u lookin for,glad to hear that happens for real.. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Thanks, Missy. We've had our rough times, but we never lose sight of what we want, which is each other. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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I agree with KitKat....I could hear you tell you and Pam's story a million times and still love every word of it. Thank you for sharing it. Read RESPECT WE all NEED to do Better and Re Petition to Stop Transsexuals from Using Female Profiles
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I agree with KitKat....I could hear you tell you and Pam's story a million times and still love every word of it. Thank you for sharing it. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Way to make it sappy.  It's ok. I never get tired of "happily ever after" stories. .. They give me hope.
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It's totally yours and Pam's fault that I got addicted to reading romances! Your story did something I never thought was possible until we talked and I read your posts about how you two met - You and Pam restored my faith in love. Your story is extraordinary but so are you and your wife. What you have is very special. As Kitkat said, I'll never get tired of it. And I love you both even if I never met you.  Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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Way to make it sappy. It's ok. I never get tired of "happily ever after" stories. .. They give me hope. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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I got it. Sometimes if you want to happy you just have to seize and make it happen. We had help from fate, but we did what we had to do to make it stick...we still do, every day. Once we were face to face, there was no uncertainty and no ambiguity about what we wanted. I never was able to find any red pumps that fit, anyway. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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It's totally yours and Pam's fault that I got addicted to reading romances! Your story did something I never thought was possible until we talked and I read your posts about how you two met - You and Pam restored my faith in love. Your story is extraordinary but so are you and your wife. What you have is very special. As Kitkat said, I'll never get tired of it. And I love you both even if I never met you. I feel very lucky, and you are a big part of why I feel so fortunate, Pet. How did the stars so align that we met here, and grew so fond of each other? Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Sappy to oblige! Furbal, I was the LAST fucking guy anybody would have picked to be happy ever after. There's no justice in the world, and in my case, that was a good thing.
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Reminds me of a letter written by some deep thinking priest in the 16th century. .. It's title was "Life is not fair". .. And it's not. .. His point was that if it was "fair" that it wouldn't be any fun. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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