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Blogs > Nonsatiable > Lucid Ravings

True Lies  

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4/30/2016 9:15 pm
True Lies

“Was it good for you?”

“You always do it for me.”

This one is an oldie but goodie from some work discussions. One of the things I find hard to believe about intimacy between partners is the inability to be honest. I have discussed this on my blog before. No, not about the basics (although that happens) but about what feels good and what doesn’t.

Why is it that people fake it? Fear of hurt feelings or ego? Rejection? Soreness, perhaps?

Would it not be better to just say “I didn’t get there this time but I enjoyed doing it with you and making you happy?” Or if that isn’t the case, “maybe we should try it like this next time,…”

I am well aware that male egos are linked to the penis, being a guy. But most men I know would rather do whatever it takes to actually fulfill our partners than hear a lot of fake moans and platitudes. Perpetuating the problem is a sure fire way to dysfunctional sex.

Let’s face it, men think the big O is the be all, end all and we should be able to get you there each and every time. But it isn’t realistic and all the fake gyrations and screams aren’t going to help. Help us help you. Really.

Talk it over. No need to make it about ability (which does bring the ego into it), but more about what actually feels good. It might not happen from penetration, but there are other things that bring it on. Explore them.

Let’s talk about sex, baby.

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