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What is Great Sex?  

Nonsatiable 50M
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10/30/2016 3:43 pm
What is Great Sex?

Great sex is a unifying force. Everyone I know is for it. Never met anyone that said they didn’t want it. Of course, it is highly unlikely that we are all envisioning the same thing when we say or think about it.

I believe that great sex is like Justice Potter Stewart’s response to what pornography is, we know it when we see – or “experience” – it. What I once thought was great sex is just sex now. It went from just having it, to different varieties of it. For some, it is<b> candles </font></b>and massage oils; for others, shackles and paddles.

And for others, it is somewhere in between.

From my perspective, it is not the physical that makes great sex. We (mostly) have the requisite body parts, which of them is immaterial, since we have all kinds of combinations of the letters here – from M to F to T to Q. Stimulation of the nerve rich areas of our bodies tends to make us responsive.

But sometimes people just are not in sync. Chemistry matters. Two somewhat perfect bodies can have a hard time making it work, while two more average ones can set off fireworks. It can take appreciating the other person, their wants and even their kinks. Trying something you never thought you would enjoy, just because the other person wants to give it a go.

I think it even means being able to laugh when the inevitable imperfect moment happens, that errant sound that bodies can make together displacing air. Or someone gets there just a little too soon. Perhaps not soon enough…

That is why, to me, great sex happens between the ears and not between the legs. The ability to relax and enjoy being with someone can enhance the physical act. You don’t need 12 inches or double Ds to be great in bed. You just need to be willing to be there, in the moment and into the person you are there with. Be willing to try, to listen, to explore.

There is much more to great sex than simple mechanics. In my humble opinion anyway…

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