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Back to basics - explained
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Back to basics - explained Occasionally, when I'm having a dissective conversation about aspects of my profile, women will touch on my approach to sex. This is summed up as wanting to do the basics, wanting to do them well and wanting to them a lot. This statement is an acknowledgement that it's realistic that only the basics are going to work well with someone at the start of a sexual relationship, and a powerful message that I'm not into weird/sinister stuff like golden showers or 'forced entry'. A lot of people will find a focus on the basics to be pretty boring - they think they've moved far beyond the basics. And in many cases they will, but they'll have lost sight of the fact that stepping out of their comfort zone and doing things for the first time - experimenting - often only happens with long term partners where you've built up a lot of confidence already. Another thing that is much harder to admit, is that if you have little or no interest in 'the basics' and you become sexually inactive for a while that your grasp on them starts to slip. I've met women from here who've made out their sex life was pretty wild in the past, and then they've kissed like a wet fish.  You'd be very hard to please as a guy if a simple knee trembler with Carmen Hayes didn't make you excited Getting the basics right shouldn't be difficult, sex is a natural activity right? There is no 'right' or 'wrong' way of doing it - it's just supposed to be fun and enjoyable and you find the method that works for you. However, executing the basics as well as you can I believe does take a bit of time and effort - and to reach the optimum is not something you can take for granted. Here's an example from sport that sums it up for me. Talk to athletics experts and ask them what is the most difficult running event - they'll all tell you it's not the 100m or the marathon, it's the 400m. One lap of the track is the hardest - it won't leave you barely able to walk for a week like the<b> marathon </font></b>but it's the hardest to execute correctly. 400m is a hybrid between sprinting and running - 200m is sprinting, 800m is running - the 400m is neither. Attempting to sprint, but only at 90% is fiendishly difficult - establishing the best rhythm and tempo is a bit like cracking a safe. Basic sex is not as hard as cracking a safe, or competing against Michael Johnson, however there are subtleties and nuances to it which mean you can't take it for granted. If you have much potential, the 20th time you do it with someone should be way better than the 1st - you really should start off at a level and then get better. There are no shortcuts to this, which is why I say I like to do it a lot - because it is fun and because it helps make it as good as it can be. So the basics - should be anything but boring unless you've become a hardcore fetishist. If boot licking, toe sucking and rubber mask wearing floats to the exclusion of anything else your boat then knock yourself out, just you won't be doing it with me   Cathy Barry - keeping it simple |
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9/20/2015 4:31 am |
I love it!! finally someone who agrees with us! I always feel a little boring when I say we are just into normal regular stuff..Isnt enjoying and hopefully being fairly good at sucking and fucking good enough!?
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No one should feel apologetic because they're into the 'regular' stuff - everything happens for a reason and if you have a healthy sex drive and putting tool A into slot B really does it for you then why change for change's sake? If you're on sites like this one, you become more and more aware that there are loads of people out there who secretly are into some unusual, extreme or wild stuff. I've got to give it to them - some of the scenarios are the product of very very creative imaginations. However there is nothing 'boring' about an earth shattering orgasm where your whole cock and balls feel like their about to explode, you get an all over body tingle and you start to see stars. If that comes from plain old missionary position does that detract from your enjoyment, I fucking hope not! 
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I think if you concentrate on the basics, as you rightly say Blunderlust, then it's the person that you're doing them with that is crucial. So it's the individual that is the key rather than the experience. Some people on here want to do weird/extreme stuff but they're not fussy about who they do it with - that's another reason to step back from the fruitloops and the nutjobs, IMHO.
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