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Fun Type 1 & Fun Type 2
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Fun Type 1 & Fun Type 2 Last year I was watching the BBC's cycling programme Bespoke. They showed coverage of a sportive, cycling's equivalent of a 'fun run' - 130 miles across the Lake District. One of the hardy souls involved explained that the ride was an example of 'Fun Type 2' - that is something that can only viewed as fun in retrospect. There is nothing fun about riding up a long and steep climb 120 miles in, with the wind and rain lashing your face. Once you've completed such a challenge you can derive an immense amount of satisfaction, perhaps even to the point where you weave it into conversations, however inappropriately. One of my bosses has become a massive Fun Type 2 flagwaver, having completed a half Marathon in Death Valley last December, I've only heard about 15 times since  I often think that pushing the boundaries of sex is a case of Fun Type 2 - it's not more exciting and you're not going to cum harder than normal sex but it's more difficult, you're jumping through more hoops, it requires more thought and effort, and you're more likely to mess it up. To my mind there are two main reasons why you really want to push sex boundaries - you are a naturally adventurous and thrill-seeking person who relishes new experiences and conventional one-on-one sex with your regular partner has become stale and boring.  Bradly Wiggins at the end of Paris-Roubaix, a classic Fun Type 2 experience People who want to push the boundaries of sex with you from the internet overlook a few important things - 1) if you've become bored of normal sex that happened with OTHER people, not with you, and 2) If you want to push someone's boundaries where it's effectively 'Fun Type 2' that's only palatable if you balance it out with lots of 'Fun Type 1' also. The guys that ride 130 miles around Helvellyn and Scafell Pike balance it out by doing 5 - 10 mile rides tootling down country lanes in their own postcode. If cycling was only about 130 mile hell rides a lot of people would never bother getting on a bike. Over the years many women I've talked to online have lost their sense of perspective - sex is supposed to be fun and that starts off with stuff that's simple and easy - stuff that's just instinctive, you don't even have to think about it. Often the online dynamic involves talking about normal sex and then progresses to scenarios that are more daring, more personal. Then the extreme stuff kicks in, they want to tie you up, blindfold you, use handcuffs - I tell women flatly I won't do that, they are shocked, 'Awwww come on it will be fun' they say, 'Errrr we haven't even met yet, I don't trust you' I reply, to put my foot down - having to remind them that certain levels of trust can only be gained proper face to face intimacy, not by talking around the subject endlessly. How do others feel about getting out of their sex comfort zone - is it Fun Type 2 for you too? Let me know what you think . . . |
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Hi there Ginger, Happy Easter to you - rather jealous of your location as the rain lashes down today! I very much believe in the dictum 'don't run before you can walk' and that applies to pushing the boundaries with sex - yes you can try things but ultimately your sex life won't be any better off if you're not ready/capable for things currently at your limit. Personally I think the best mix involves doing mostly things that are easy and straightforward, and the occasional foray into new territory - that really should keep things fun 
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