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One in a million
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One in a million Recently I had an all-too-familiar email exchange with a woman in West London who had booked a hotel room for the weekend but was finding it 'surprisingly hard' to get a meet. I wondered why this was the case as she was very attractive. As she had a very fit body and a great wardrobe I offered to join her and we started getting down the nitty gritty of what we were into. It became increasingly clear as to why she hadn't found a date yet. It's pretty standard on single woman profiles to see a list of demands, which when put together mean that well less than 1% of adult men tick all their boxes. It's not unusual to see women ask for guys that are over 6 foot, well hung - 8 inches or more, have a six-pack and have a muscular build. To take just one of those - the six-pack - perhaps 2 - 3% of men have one. I actually tried and failed to get one a few years ago - I did so many ab crunches my ribs hurt and I had trouble sleeping so I gave up - one of the few physical challenges I've ever set myself and had to abandon. Getting and maintaining a six-pack is hard, which is why so few people have one, though I suppose those asking for one have never tried so they don't understand. However asking for a six-pack alone means you are only open a very exclusive minority of the population. Anyway, back to my prospective date, she told me that guys had to be shaved<b> downstairs </font></b>- not a problem for me, but immediately I thought that's placing a major restriction, perhaps 10% of guys are shaven. I am, partly because I like to receive oral a lot but also because I don't like the look of my pubes - most guys aren't going to be fussed either way about how they look, so their motivation to shave won't be there. Then she started talking about sex, and it was a long list of negatives, she didn't kiss, she didn't swallow cum, she didn't want cum on her face . . . many of these are reasonable standpoints, however because it was just a long list of don'ts I found it impossible to visualise having sex with her and either of us enjoy it - her narrative turned it into a joyless experience, despite her attractiveness. The do's and don'ts continued like a flood 'I'm bringing a bottle of wine, I expect you to do the same' and 'I do poppers too, do you do them'. On the subject of poppers I was firm - I was losing my patience anyway - 'No I don't do poppers - I don't do any drugs'. She replied that poppers weren't drugs (clearly ridiculous) and that was pretty much a sign-off from her.  Jenna Jameson - she once said that only 1 in 500 men have what it takes to be a porn star, are you being even more exclusive? Being really particular about who you meet, what you do, what your customs and habits are together is understandable but getting into a comfort zone where everything is to your liking often only happens with partners over the course of many years - you grow together and have 1000s of shared experiences. To call the shots on a meet with someone completely new usually won't work. Yes there are loads and loads of guys on dating websites, yes there are far fewer women so those women aim high. You can aim as high as you like, however do you want guys to think 'Actually you don't really like guys much' because your criteria applies to so few of us. I feel the super-demands have warped how guys present themselves. I took a look at the profile of a close friend on here a while back - as I said earlier, perhaps 2 - 3% of guys have six-pack, on her profile 25% had them . . . had she found a parallel universe where loads more men were buff - or come across a bunch of guys who'd cut and pasted pics of male models having done a browser search? I have a list of do's and don'ts on my profile too, however none of them exclude 90% of the female population in one fell swoop. We all have a right to preferences, it's just how far we take them that will determine whether we effectively exclude ourselves from the fray. |
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Hey there Ginger - from my experience the pressure that guys feel from the super-demanding is not to improve themselves but to stretch the truth or start lying altogether - using pics of other guys with six packs for example. In A F F chat rooms when women ask what size a guy's dick is I've noticed the minimum answer is 7 inches - that's pretty remarkable given the average size is 5.25 inches. For some rare qualities, I notice the penny has finally dropped. It used to be common for women to ask for a 'Well endowed repeater' - to repeat is difficult, it's especially difficult if you have a big dick as the bigger it is the more effort/energy is required to get hard and stay hard. Maybe 1 in 5000 guys fits this particular bill? Women have realised this is so rare, they've stopped asking because they can't find one - good to stay rooted in the real world instead of looking for circus freaks . . .
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