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I have changed my profile a few times and I am still not satisfied with it. Know matter what I am seeking, no one really reads them. I get messages all the time from married and the younger guys just wanting a hook up. I have meet many on here than I have on other dating sites that I have been on. There are not many locals I have found to want a long term relationship. The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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You know hun it seems some men just want to look at the pictures on our profiles. There are some that do read and I always thank them when they do, as it's so refreshing. As for updating profiles I find that's a good idea, because as time goes by our thoughts, needs and desires change. So I would change it up a bit just to see if you get more attention to your profile. I will be so glad when covid is behind us so that we can try to get back to some normalcy. I wish you the best sweetie, and I know there is that special man out there for you some where.. I hope you enjoy your evening..  Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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Not sure it matters. The pickins are slim. Unless you want the bored married guy.
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I've tinkered with my profile a lot (yes, even now that I'm mostly here to blog). I think I got the most responses when I tried to be clever. This was just after the PREVIOUS great recession and my profile said I was seeking a stimulus package  Gee, maybe that would be appropriate again...   
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I worked very hard, over the years, to make a profile that was positive and yet clear about my needs. I got a lot of attention - mostly from men that didn't read or didn't care about my preferences. I boiled it down once to "Looking for an unattached, local, 50+ male with a working brain and a working penis" Yeah - they didn't pay attention to that either. I suspect my success is from my smile and not my words. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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I haven't changed my profile in a while, but I really don't get many emails. I get a few who from people I chat with back and forth via email on occasion. I am very quick to discourage those who are disrespectful or otherwise undesirable. LOL my iggy bin is very large!!
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Hellooooo Dearie, please pardon the high pitched voice. This is Redna, not RedRock, and I briefly hijacked his account since you only wanted females to respond  Anywhoooo, a couple quick observations from yours truuuuly. 1. You’re in Oklahoma and wanting someone who has a 3 digit IQ – a lofty goal indeed. 2. You’re on A*F*F, it really should be ASF – Adolescent Sausage Finder. Well Dearie I have to run now, toodalooooo  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Just a thought from the other side.. Any guy worthy of your attention will only accept the real truth. Don't change, embellish or other wise lead one in a misguided assumption of your self..  Cute, witty, any thing that will catch the eye will work as a starter.. but it needs real truthful content. I know guys don't read!!  That is the reason for pictures in the assembly instructions for a book case.!! Guys just don't read, they think it is not necessary!!! ..The auto reply message as Miss K has is real good.. surely one would take head to it.. Hope you are doing OK with the virus, just be safe!! Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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every time when i tried to update my profile, the site denies the change...last time i tried it, back in July 2020, they nearly wiped out my account for the suspicion of me being "Underage", then followed by "Reason Unknown"? what i suppose to do, if they can't even figure out why they can't approve my update? seriously...silly site...i tell yah... i am sooo done about this stupid site...like you said, all the incoming messages which are getting few and far between, are crap... I actually met my new playmate in November...we have been chatting since September...but funny, he doesn't have much on his profile (he has just enough infor filled), and as you know, my profile is totally a joke...but we actually started to talk though blogging...so...i think there is a hope still out there...
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Hellooooo Dearie, please pardon the high pitched voice. This is Redna, not RedRock, and I briefly hijacked his account since you only wanted females to respond Anywhoooo, a couple quick observations from yours truuuuly. 1. You’re in Oklahoma and wanting someone who has a 3 digit IQ – a lofty goal indeed. 2. You’re on A*F*F, it really should be ASF – Adolescent Sausage Finder. Well Dearie I have to run now, toodalooooo
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ASF...awww...love it...sausage sausage everywhere...LOL . Gotta run now, toodaloooooWhen the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Maybe if every other line stated NO MARRIED MEN! I don't know how to make men read and think. They decline to read directions for assembly or to a new location. Then they wonder why we are so unhappy with them. Good luck LaLa! You are fabulous to all of us!
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1/12/2021 11:32 pm |
Happy New Years!!! I actually can read and I understand that you are looking for a more feminized prospective and I ever so briefly mentally wrestled with just reading and not answering, but the guy on the internet with a keyboard and something to say got the pin, so here we are. But the reasoning is that I have something to say is the strange coincidence that I have actually just re-edited my profile, in this case for brevity, I know almost funny given how most of the time you get the impression that I expect to get paid by the word or something. It is an annual thing that I do near my birthday and it represents a chance for me to take stock of where I am with the site and maybe just a little in life, and not so much because I expect it to influence anyone and would be somewhat surprised that anyone read it. My stance on the topic is, your profile is something you do, for you and about you, go with you gut, you are the expert on you, if you read it and fell that is not working for you today, change it. You can always go back. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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My profile has barely changed since I've been on this site (which often feels like forever). Local ladies that meet my criteria are thin on the ground where I am and I've often had to take flight!....to meet them. I'm an avid profile reader. 
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This could be turned into a competition.. Write Lala's profile ... give us a few markers and off we go 
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BiggLala replies on 1/12/2021 11:53 pm: You look familiar. Do you have a twin? Edna, perhaps? Ya know...I don't even think *I* have a 3 digit IQ, soooo.... Hellooooo Dearie, a twin broth named Ed. He is wanted by many - FBI, Interpol etc. I'm sure you've easily cracked the 3 digit IQ - you are a smart ass ya know. Well Dearie, like Ed I gotta run, toodalooooo When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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my suggesting to you is a new profile photo. i don't think the guys are often reading the profiles. once in a blue moon i get a message that indicated my profile was read. for blogging purposes i think you have an iconic profile pic. but if you're trying to catch and eye maybe it's time to change it? i have considered changing mine as my mail has slowed down. but i really like my profile photo... i think it's to the point what i look like for the most part. but i did get a lot more mail at 40 than i do now at 50. i've been logged off for almost a week and jumping on today i've been getting more messages than usual. but it's the copy / paste or limited hello with no indication my profile was read. i just don't have the interest in writing up a long profile.
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I’ve been on dating sites for about 18 years. This one almost 15. I’ve seen this online medium evolve. I’ve, read and written a multitude of profiles. I read your profile and think it is well written to attract the type men you are interested in meeting, Ten years ago it might have worked well here. Unfortunately, the dynamic of this site has changed and not that many men are here to find women to date, or even meet in person. Though many say they are. They mainly want masturbatory material. Nothing wrong with that. Once apps like Tinder and Bumble, etc. took over as ways to meet people, dating sites became less prevalent and more costly. AF F used to be more of a social networking site. There were lots of active local groups and chat rooms which also made it easier to get to know people that really wanted to meet. My only suggestion would be if you want to actually meet men and sex is not your primary goal, post a face pic or partial face, if you aren’t comfortable showing it all. I keep mine in an album that only those I “friend” can see. Don’t have your primary a sexually suggestive pic. Remove or have minimal body pics on your profile as well as blog. Depending on my mood and inclination, I used to change mine occasionally. During times that I was wanting to date and establish relationships, I took out all but a few modestly sexy pics. When I was feeling more like hooking up or just online sexual activities, to attract men I posted blatantly sexual pictures and even explicit videos. The image you project determines who is drawn to your profile. Even though I seldom log in anymore, and am no longer an active member, I am pretty sure this is not the place to actually meet someone anymore. Another thing to keep in mind, even if you reference your blog, many just use the app so will never see it.
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I am just wondering, what happens when you take the initiative yourself - look through a few suitable profiles and message them? I mean I get all the reasons why it isn't working waiting for men to have bothered to read your profile and get in touch - but do you need to wait for them to make the first move? Or am I missing something?
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Of course I didn't think for a moment you were the kind of woman who wouldn't want to take the lead, lol, but yes, maybe I did fail to register that you had said there were no new men in your area when you search, sorry. I suppose if they aren't there that could be why they aren't messaging you either? But it's a shame the site doesn't give you what you want. And it does seem to be a recurring theme for quite a few women that the men on the site are generally unresponsive, don't bother to read the profiles and get abusive if they don't hear what they want to hear. Obviously not all men are like that, but I suppose for men that are, this site makes them feel they can act rude without any real comeback.
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