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Finding Friends: Not easy but very fun..and worth it.
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Finding Friends: Not easy but very fun..and worth it. A wise man once said "You can never judge a book by its pictures...unless it's a comic book because then you totally can." And I'm sure that wise man also had a wife who rolled her eyes, shook her head and thought for the 100th time "why me?". But I digress. One thing I'm sure we're all very guilty of here is judging a person’s (or peoples..."peoples"? Is that even a word?...yeah, it is) profile by the pictures they have up...or even by what they don't have up. We are guilty of that as well but I want to tell you a story, not of a man named Jeb, but of one time, that judgement was off...waaaaaaaaay off. Now that everyone has the theme song to Beverly Hillbillies stuck in their heads, let me tell you about my wife and me. We're a great couple...just ask us...but we have certain body image issues. We're cute as the dickens but we do have a few extra pounds and we're a little self-conscious about it. We're trying to lose the pounds but the damn things just keep finding us again. Anyway, because of these body image issues, we've more or less kept our contacts to people who were more like us...people with good bodies but may have some extra floating around, which is actually really nice too. We avoided people with the really classic "great bodies" because...well...we always figured that they wouldn't be attracted to us. I know, I know...it's stupid but hey, never once said we were smrt. But honestly though, how many times have we read on profiles of peoples (yes, I'm going to keep using that word) who are fit and toned, etc who are "looking for the same" One day, I was happily perving the profiles of all the sexy people on here and I came across a new couple, so in I went to investigate. I soon realised that the woman had amazing…assets…and the guy had a package that would, could and likely has, made a jealous. They were slim, fit and clearly put the "sexy" in...well..."sexy". I likely had a little of the Puff the Magic Dragon that evening (strictly for medicinal purposes) and was feeling emboldened so I wrote them. I was surprised when they wrote back...very surprised actually but hell, I'm really charming so can't really blame them. We were just starting to message back and forth when an opportunity of a group get together at a local bar came up and they were going as well. We figured this would be a great opportunity but were very nervous. We headed to our group get together pretty nervous. Despite being on this site for over 2 years, we had never actually socially met anyone from here. When we got the invite, we were happy to be included and thought it would be fun. Besides, there was a woman going that I have been a big fan of through her page...her pics are very hot and I figured it would be a great opportunity to meet and see what's what with her. When we arrived, there was a large group at the end of the bar and yeah, the nerves kicked in and we almost bolted but we nutted up and stayed. We were greeted by our gracious host who was very friendly and put us at ease. He took us around to the rest of the gang and introduced everyone by name and they all were as friendly as our host. I finally met the woman who pictures I had admired for some time, which was very nice...funny, when I shook her hand, I got an image of her stark naked...is that normal or am I just a perv?...probably the perv thing. Anyway, everyone was very great and it was nice to finally meet people from the site in person like this. Lastly, we made our way over to the couple we were both eager to meet...and the next 3 hours were just the 4 of us. When we meet them and began chatting, we quickly found out that these people with the nice bodies also had something else we weren't expecting...AWESOME PERSONALITIES!! First of all, their faces matched their bodies. Very attractive people from head to toe (and I’m not even a “foot” person) but that wasn't what got us...it was how quickly they warmed up to us and we immediately (well, almost immediately...I had to stop staring at her boobs first) started talking about all kinds of stuff. The best way to describe this couple is simply like this...they appear to be people you would perhaps meet at a ComicCon (Google it, for those who don't know), than at a swingers get together. Let me clarify, there's NOTHING wrong with that...going to a Comic Con is on my bucket list...it's just to say that these two appeared to have that sweet, innocent quality to them that one does not often find with people in our lifestyle. It wasn't long before we all realised that we have so much in common...our beliefs, views and opinions of the real world were in sync. We laughed at the same things, we wanted similar things from this lifestyle and most importantly, we love our partners very much. They were both very respectful of not crossing any boundaries or making assumptions of how to act given how we met and our interests in our lifestyle. We hardly talked about the lifestyle at all, we mostly talked about ourselves and it was wonderful. I do have to admit though, that the guy, while attractive, didn’t appear to be the type of guy who sports a package that he appeared to have in the profile pics (what is a guy with a big dick supposed to look like, anyway??) During our “civilized” conversation, I kept thinking about what my wife would be able to do with what he has…it made me smile from time to time. At the end of the night and 3 hours of steady conversation, we said our fare thee wells, hugged (I know what you’re thinking…I only went in for the hug to feel her boobs against me...and just so you pervs know, that’s totally why I did it…good call.) and promised to keep in touch. It wasn't long after getting home that we found them on FB and the chatting began again. So I mentioned that we may have mis-judged them on their pictures...great bodies but they also had awesome personalities. Even though we liked them a lot after meeting them, there was that thought that perhaps they were somehow "too sweet and innocent"...that maybe they wouldn't be outgoing and would have a hard time talking sexy talk. Well, that thought too was a swing and a miss. Not only do they fluently speak sexy talk, they speak it exactly like us! We enjoy the subtle, gentle sexy talk...the innuendo and the humor of it all. We were amazed to find these people not only spoke our language but did it with the same accent...it was great. They enjoy the talk and picture sharing as much, if not more, than we do...never thought I'd see the day. They have complete trust in each other and aren't afraid to be out there and sexy. We’re looking forward to our next meeting and if it ends up in playtime, that’s fine but if it ends up with 4 people having lots of “normal” fun and enjoying each other’s company, that’s great too. I guess the whole point to all of this is: 1) Don't judge profiles by their pictures (or lack thereof) 2) Don't even judge after meeting them once. 3) Don’t expect sex or go into things with that as your main goal…things will happen as they happen. Enjoy meeting new people, exchange thoughts, ideas, laughs…and THEN maybe fuck their brains out!...ooops sorry, got carried away there. Remember that on this site, people are usually reserved at first, they have to feel each other out and in the case of couples, they likely have to get together after the meet and make sure they're on the same page...or at least they should. Also remember not to sell yourselves short. Say “Hi!” to that attractive couple even if you think they’re out of your league...what's the worst that can happen? And if they don't respond to you, so what? There's lots of people out there, take that chance, get out of your own heads and live life...you may find yourselves pleasantly surprised. |
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Well said. The same thoughts have been bouncing around in my head just didnt know how to put them down into words like you did
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Good read. And spot on with approaching a first meeting with no expectations besides seeing what they are like as "people". If you don't click talking, odds are you won't click elsewhere. Good to hear your nothing ventured nothing gained worked out well for you and continues to work out well for all 4 of you. Cheers! [image] And Comic Con is on my list too lol Drop in and visit my blog sometime, but you'll probably regret it 
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was this an entry in that contest they had awhile back about why we love FriendFinder-x?if not....it should have been..gr8 story!! woop woop
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u r right, people do judge people with out giving them a chance. I am not that way think God
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heyy
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8/16/2016 4:36 pm |
good stuff
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Great read! Loved it!
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Very Good!! Especially the last paragraph!! You have a cool blog, I will become a watcher
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Well said !
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8/16/2016 5:34 pm |
Liked it. But "whew"sometimes its easier said than done. As in pulling up ones big girl panties and saying Hi. I have a touch of that shy thing going on.
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I guess the whole point to all of this is: 1) Don't judge profiles by their pictures (or lack thereof) 2) Don't even judge after meeting them once. 3) Don’t expect sex or go into things with that as your main goal…things will happen as they happen. Enjoy meeting new people, exchange thoughts, ideas, laughs…and THEN maybe fuck their brains out!...ooops sorry, got carried away there. I think this is less about judging people by their pictures and issues wth your own body images. While there are super fit people and couples who are very specific about finding the same, there are those who don't. Go back and look at this post, you devoted a longish paragraph tap dancing around your bodies. I always feel kinda sad when someone includes some variation on, "We're trying to lose the pounds" because that's really just an apology and you should *ever* feel that you have to apologize for who you are. You've got a picture (pictures) on your profile so there was never any jig to be up, the couple you were corresponding with had a sense of what you looked like. I've got to break with you on #2. People are on their best behavior the first time you meet them. If they are boring, sketchy, too chatty, too silent, etc, etc, etc... it's to going to change. If you have a bad feeling, follow your intuition. And yes, it's so much more enjoyable to get to know the whole person and not just their sex organs.
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Excellent post. Spot on
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Very Good!! Especially the last paragraph!! You have a cool blog, I will become a watcher
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