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I can't say I've ever gotten myself into a situation like that. 😶 ❗ ❗ ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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12/9/2021 10:12 am |
Trying to stay ways from that
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I've not got into this situation. But if I started having feelings for someone while in a FWB or NSA relationship, I'd tell them about my feelings. If reciprocated, great we go exclusive. If not, we walk away from each other. 
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I am single looking for a single. The attachment are messy and not worth it, do they even think about what would happen if the spouse found out? Sadly most do not based on the email I receive...
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12/9/2021 11:01 am |
I'm a square, when in relationship, i'm loyal, but just dating, I got a ticket to ride!
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I'm single and just looking for some fun on here. Happy Tuesday my friend.
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Been there on occasion over the years. Each one ends differently. Knowing the situation upfront, everything is all good. Basically getting together time and time again for the pleasure and satisfaction that is shared. Someone will get hurt if you are not honest in the very beginning letting them know you are attached. I iwll say it again, in the beginning it all depends on how honest and consentual that you are which pertains to an ending result, good or bad 𝕋𝕙𝕒𝕟𝕜𝕤 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕪𝕠𝕦
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I think it's fine to admire or compliment a married lady. But, without Hubby's permission, That's all that will happen. I think life has it's on problems and I'm sure not looking for more by seeing a married woman. Thank You for all the Joy you share.
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Nunca estuve en una situación oculta pero no diría que puede suceder. La vida te da sorpresas, a veces buenas y a veces complicadas.
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When I was first active here, years ago, I met someone. It was supposed to be a one time thing but became a regular thing and a 3-year relationship, which was not at all what I was seeking. This time around, I'm much more open to it becoming or being a relationship, but I am first and foremost looking for sex.
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Only with singles my friend.
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12/9/2021 5:02 pm |
Coming from one who has made the mistake of reiterating my position but not cutting off the relationship, I strongly suggest other ways to meet your sexual needs--not remain with the other partner, even if they are great in bed! Sooner or later you will have to cut the relationship off and it only will be that much more difficult and give the impression you are using them, when really they tried to stretch the boundary.
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Interesting to read what others are saying. Well where to begin? So one of the traps of swingers is meeting someone playing with them often and becoming attached. I have been told it happens more often than you might think. We play against nature, but nature wants us to form bonds so that children survive. I know modern thought is that single parents do just fine, but if you were living 200 years ago, two adults would stand a much better chance of raising children.
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P.S. if this site was really about sex, I would be getting it at least weekly! Lol
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I'm big into honesty. I want to converse with a mans wife to be sure I have permission to play with her hubby. I will respect all rules. And I will love every one of them. I'm a smushy.
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First, my dear Joy, you must know that at least 33% of the regular bloggers on here and at least 25% of us irregular bloggers and the voyeurs are in love with you? I mean, you are articulate, honest, sexy, beautiful, and you have a smoking hot body.  Now let's say that the single one going into this with both eyes wide open knowing that the other comes with attachments, starts t o have feelings for you and wants more. What do you do? Do you reiterate your position but continue playing with the lovelorn single or do you immediately cut your losses and let them go? I am not responsible for how someone else feels about me. If one of my two fwbs (both single) started feeling more for me than what we've discussed and agreed upon, I would hope they would be honest and upfront about their feelings. We would talk about what they feel and why, and based on that conversation we would decide whether to continue being fwbs. If we continued, the dynamic would be changed as I would be more aware of what was said and done between us. That may or may not be a good thing. In my opinion, given that type of situation, I would cut my losses and say "Goodbye." Possible Fatal attraction in this instance and since you are fooling around o n the sly it is not a situation when married with attachments, I would want t o find myself in. My question t o you my friends is have you been in this situation yourselves? Did it get messy when you let them go? My husband knows about and is okay with me fulfilling my sexual needs outside our marriage; in fact, it was his idea. I tell him first names and cities/towns only, since he doesn't want to know who and he doesn't want details. I have not personally been in that type of situation, but if I were, I would definitely be like you and cut my losses and say goodbye. Have you ladies and gents while married, ever fallen in love with the person you are playing with? I've not fallen in love with either of my two fwbs, but I love one of them dearly, and he me. It's something neither of us expected to find or experience and we certainly weren't looking for it. We've been brutally honest with each other about our feelings, expectations, desires, life goals, etc., and we both are amazed and delighted at how much alike we are. We both know what we feel is under the friendship umbrella, so to speak, and not part of "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" umbrella. If you are married or attached would you not want t o find a lover who is in the same boat ? One who cums with attachments and knows first hand about discretion? It's rare to find a married person with a spouse that has given the okay to go play with others. I've encountered two since June 2021 when I first started actively looking for laid, and one of those I really don't count since he didn't want me to speak to his spouse for verification. To be honest, Joy, if I found a married man that could match me in the desire department and also match my schedule, I would consider hooking up with him regularly. Thanks for asking yet another great question!
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I've been on this site as a married man but I wasn't looking for sex or getting involved. That being said, I did cyber and my style of play online was very intense. Any time I felt a playmate was forming an attachment to me was the surest sign to leave. I was always very transparent and let everyone know I loved my wife and had no intention of ever meeting or hooking up or saying the dreaded L word. After my divorce, my needs remained the same but I did fall head over heels twice with two chatters on here. Both ended badly. The first person was hurt by me and I still carry the weight of that despite patching things up and remaining friends. The second lady was entirely different but she ended up leaving me twice without a word. Yes, twice. There was another more recently who came very close to capturing my heart fully. She caught my mind and my fancy, and I still hold hope we can be friends again but understand if she prefers to stay away from my unpredictable ass. We all come here with different objectives and I've seen some incredible love stories blossom as well as massively epic train wrecks. Lol. I don't judge married people who come on here to cheat or find what they are lacking. I respect people who choose not to deal with certain folks and their situations. Theoretically we are all adults and should act accordingly but you know that rarely happens. My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment
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I suppose that sort of arrangement is fine for certain situations but I would prefer not to go there after all sex is only a want not a need but then again we are all needy! xoxo
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1 post 12/10/2021 3:15 am |
Well put!
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I love your blog! I am separated, but still married. My wife knows about this account and when I meet someone....just like I know when she goes out to fulfill her own needs. We still care for one another, we just are not great together as a couple. I am honest with her, and I am honest with anyone that I meet here. Honesty expressed by all parties is critical to avoiding the attachments that you have described. As to what I would do... I think I would break things off. I could not in good conscience string someone along just for sex. I don't want to hurt anyone, and in the long run I think saying or doing nothing about the situation would lead to pain. It's best to nip that in the bud with a sting, rather than a gut wound months down the road.
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12/10/2021 6:43 am |
My wife moved me out of the bedroom in '96 while I was away on a business trip. In part it was because I went to bed so early and having to get up so early while she came to bed long after midnight. It wasn't an absolute arrangement. However ten years later, when I hurt my back and sleeping on the couch actually let me sleep, it became permanent. She takes all her vacations and trips with her gay brother. Sex with her was almost always only about her. And being waken at 2am when she came to bed only wanting me to digitally bring her to orgasm (which usually took at least 1/2hr) got old really quick. Yes, while on vacation in Puerto Rico I met an older woman while here. My stay went from three days to three weeks with two repeat trips of equal duration. She knew I was married and that because of my family, that I would never leave and she accepted that. But the third time I flew down, something had changed. Honestly, I think she fell in love with me. Sex three or four times a day suited her high sex drive. Me paying for everything including her water and electric bill and taking her out to eat often didn't hurt her feelings for me. In the end she wanted me to move there permanently. I guess all good things do come to an end. I tried remaining friends but she made a clean break of it. She was the closest thing to what I desired in a woman that I had experienced in 40+ yrs. She was FUN. And PR had sun and beaches when it was freezing cold here. She was always wet and always willing to have sex anywhere, anytime. We were a good match in that regard. However, when they say intelligence is sexy, they also mean that the lack of it can sour a relationship. Would I do it over again? Absolutely. I had forgotten what it was like to enjoy life again. I had been beaten down at home by mild bi-polar, manic depression. It drains me of my normal perky, fun love'n ways. Living with a constantly negative person does that. Hope springs eternal. I once thought I was alone in such a marriage. However, I have come to realize my situation isn't quite so unique and there are married women out there in dead marriages that they can't really free themselves from and they too are just looking for someone to come along side them for that occasional boost in life. It doesn't have to be sexual for women. Men often require it. But it is nice to have that friend who draws near, who encourages you while in turn you do the same to them without smothering them or invading their home life. Is this a difficult relationship. Duh! Yes. But it is not an impossible one when both parties are mature and see and accept the limitations, difficulties and dangers. It's a cold, cruel world out there and we are all looking for that someone who ... comes along side.
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well done written sort to speak, yes i was in that situation an many yrs ago. Its like that saying was you know now wish you knew then doesn't always mean its bad, good can be in between. As you mentioned too every ones different and different situations wether single, attached so forth. Some times you gotta think thing out to e fore reacting cause that can also bite you in the ass too. Pros and cons to what you wrote.
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Interesting read. I read your blog some months back about someone from your chat room experience who got involved with a married man and was crying the blues over it ending. I recall your comments about the situation. I always took that to mean that you would never be involved with married men. Of course I see you have developed many emotional affairs with married men on here but I wonder do you meet them and engage?
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There was no offense meant. Just trying to get a read on where you stand. Emotional affairs can be harmful to the person's partner, I speak from experience. I did not overlook the fact of what you were asking your readers I just chose to ask about you.
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Ms. author51, "1.My question t o you my friends is have you been in this situation yourselves? 2.Did it get messy when you let them go? 3.Have you ladies and gents while married, ever fallen in love with the person you are playing with? 4.If you are married or attached would you not want t o find a lover who is in the same boat ? 5. One who cums with attachments and knows first hand about discretion?" 1. Not the cheating part, but the lack of sex from my partner part, yes. 2. I never cheated so I never had to let a side partner go. Now my partner that I let go, yes it got messy when I ended it. 3. Nope, when you do not play around you don't have to worry about that. 4. Nope, I would end my relationship before I cheated, just like I will not get with an attached lady. 5. When you do not play outside a relationship, it is not needed. Now I am a strange person, I have a core set of values that I refuse to break, but that does not mean that I disapprove of people that don't have the same outlook. People will do what works for themselves and their relationship. I am always up front with any woman that I am with and let them know that I will always be true to them, but will walk away if they deem me not to be able to fulfill their needs and they want someone else. That is just me.
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