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Is dating a thing of the past?  

rm_frnd4urbed 49M
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4/24/2015 12:17 pm
Is dating a thing of the past?

So I have been in relationships, long & short, and I was married once. The relationships faded for several reasons and the marriage was just a convenience for the other person.

I am going to talk about the relationships I have been in. To start, I am not perfect and I may have contributed to some of the faded relationships but That is not the focus of this.

I have looked back on lots of those relationships because as of 5 years ago I no longer date for a "relationship" I just date. My intent is to have companionship for that moment, long or short term, and the occasional fuck.

Over the years I dated several women. Some I slept with others I didn't. Some slept with me on the first or second date. These girls seemed to have planned this to imply a start of a "relationship". To me this "agenda" seems like a ploy or trick making sex a contract.

Some others will made me wait because they "don't want to seem like a slut" but in fact want to fuck me and did at a later date. Mean while they have had 8-10<b> sex partners </font></b>in the past couple of months. They have also slept with guys on the first night. WTF! To me having several partners doesn't constitute being a slut.

I just want to date. Meaning find someone who I can have a nice conversation, enjoy some event, show, band, or just get drunk and fuck all night. Yes sex is my end game. I believe that is everyone's end game.

My opinion: any relationship, short term or long term, is based on sex. If the sex is off or not good then people look for good sex. Yes personality, chemistry, intelligence, similar interest and values are many important factors as well. But if your not getting sexually satisfied then you tend to want someone or, for some, some thing to fill that sexual void. Friends and family can satisfy all those other things. But sex is one that can only be full filled by your chosen partner.

Yes there are "exceptions to the rule" but I am not talking about that small percentage.

Now am I alone on this. This is why I joined this site. As an entrepreneur and single parent I have a little bit of time to fully commit to a traditional dating relationship. I also, because of past experiences, I no longer have a desire to purposely seek a relationship. As any person, companionship is desired. Both physically and mentally. But to go through the game of dating is no longer desirable.

What are your thoughts?

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