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Clear Communication  

Mrs_Seek 52F
61 posts
12/12/2016 7:24 am
Clear Communication

So, here's the recent situation that prompted this blog post. My BF, whom I have been with for a year, is great in bed. He's kind, respectful and a gentleman. We have a unique relationship, not love, but one of deep caring and respect. So, for our anniversary, I gave him another woman to play with. He did and said it was "respectable". Anyway, this woman proceeds to tell folks how my place at the "top of his totem pole" is going to "come to an end" and that he was going to leave my "fat ass on the curb crying." Hmmm, okay, lets look at this. My BF has several other play partners, I have always known this. We talk about it regularly, what can I say, he likes variety. However, he has in the past, and will continue, to give me priority with his schedule and he is basically at my beck and call. So anyway, I decided to let him know, just so he could be aware that she may be dealing with someone with issues. He then proceeds to tell me that its my call whether or not he sees her again. However, keep in mind, she has already told me that he has already asked her out for a second date. So, my question to him was, why tell me its my call when you've already made a second date. I was hurt, wondering if he was giving me lip service all this time just to get in my pants. I walked around pissed for about 24 hours. So we, met up and talked. He did not, in fact, ask her out for a second date. He reiterated to me that I was priority #1 and if I didn't want him to see her again, he wouldn't. Lets be clear, its not the fact that he fucked another woman, hell, I set it up knowing full well he was going to bang her. It was the fact that I felt devalued and lied to.

The moral of the story is, in this lifestyle absolute clear communication is critical. Don't wait until things fester and boil over. Talk, often, right when you're upset. Don't hold back any punches, say what you feel. Had I done that, I would have spared myself a days worth of hurt feelings and doubting someone who is very important to me. This is not the place for lies, trash talk or hidden agendas.

Fuck well and often!
~~Always Seeking!!~~

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