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Blogs > xacandxin > Adventures in the Poly Pocket

6 Couples We Avoid When Swinging (by Xin)  

xacandxin 46M/46F
82 posts
2/3/2016 2:04 pm
6 Couples We Avoid When Swinging (by Xin)

** SINGLE/POLY BI FEMALES AND COUPLES SEEKING THEM SHOULD COME CHECK OUT UnicornHaven**

1) ALL OF THEM, whenever there is a sexy single bi female around, lol
But seriously...

2) Couples that have been together for less than a year and have already decided that their fresh relationship is up for the challenge of swinging (unless they were both seasoned swingers when they met).

3) Couples that have been swinging for less than 6 months. These couples almost always break up, and when you are regular playmates with these people and this happens, you get sucked into the drama.

4) Couples In the club where the guy is clearly calling all of the shots. If there's a couple that you have your eye on, and the guy seems WAY more interested in swinging than his wife or girlfriend does, then you should avoid this couple as a courtesy to the lady. She is very likely being emotionally pressured into the lifestyle. She doesn't want to be there, but she is terrified that she will lose her man if she doesn't see it through.
She is saying yes to his idea of swinging with you because you seem like a cool couple and it is likely to be the least painful of all possible experiences for the evening. This is not the same thing as being up for it or having a good time, and it will show as soon as you start to engage with her physically.

5) Couples where the lady is only bi-curious and is heavily leaning on the side of being "party bi", which means she was the girl that made out with other girls in college because it got her more attention from guys. This lady will play the role of the bi woman all night long, right up until its time for our clothes to come off. Sadly, by then she will have<b> wasted </font></b>the entire evening.

6) Couples that clearly want to focus on the ladies for the blink of an eye before moving on to swapping partners. We are in this primarily for the F/F contact, so if the lady came planning to play with Xac more than me or the guy came in a rush to play with me or insisted upon playing with me first before I could play with his partner, then we are likely to insist upon F/F play only for a few dates before moving on to swap. If the couple won't commit to this, then either the lady isn't bi enough for my taste (pun intended, lol), or the man is way too pushy and in control of the situation, but either way, we aren't going to be interested.
Travel_Couple69 58M
1604 posts
2/3/2016 2:52 pm

 2 & 3 make alot of sense...we met on here, but took a year to build our relationship before we went on line as a couple. it would seem rare that the stressors of this lifestyle (and yes at times it can be stressful) can be overcome in addition to the dynamics of growing a new relationship.

4 as it happens, the male on this end takes all the lead. her personality is simply geared that way. its true as a general rule that this lifestyle suits those whom are outgoing, but us wall flowers like to walk on the wild side too. having said that , he will always address her directly and she does clearly indicate she is all in to those that we are planning to play with.

nice blog


xacandxin replies on 2/3/2016 5:22 pm:
Thanks, we appreciate the feedback. Actually, I too am like the woman you describe. I am very introverted and Xac does all of our intros when we meet in person out at clubs and stuff, but that is not what I am talking about with #4. The woman I am talking about is the one whose face shows hesitance around every corner, but she just keeps saying yes in the end. The man does most of the talking in either scenario (meaning ours vs. the one from #4), but only in one of the does the woman nod along or otherwise indicate her agreement. In the situation you want to avoid, the woman never looks like she is in agreement until the moment she puts on her necessary façade and says yes.

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