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Dear Auntie Cytolene  

Ctyolene 59F
12 posts
4/24/2017 8:22 am
Dear Auntie Cytolene


Dear Auntie Cytolene,

I’m a guy who is a bit shy and socially awkward. I want to meet women for casual, friends-with-benefits type relationships. No commitments or expectations. Just lots of great sex. But I'm striking out. Can you help?

Shy Guy



Dear Shy Guy,

This is a bit like saying, “I want to learn to ski, so I’ll practice by building snowmen.” Casual hook-ups and FWB relationships require a different skill set from meeting women with a view to a possible longer-term relationship.

There are a LOT more men than women who are interested in casual hook-ups, so the odds are against you. If you want to score, you’d better be really good looking, have awesome game, or both.

Also, bear in mind that the women who are interested in a no strings attached sexual relationship are in it for great sex, and will be expecting that you are really good in bed. If you don’t have that down pat, you’re going to be facing a lot of wipe-outs. If you have anxiety dealing with meeting women socially, how will you feel knowing that if you don’t wow your NSA date, she’s going to be moving on after one night with you?

No pressure there.

It’s a myth that all women are looking for marriage, and happy ever after. There are plenty who are looking for a good time with a man they like. But they don’t want to think of themselves as disposable.

Frankly, FriendFinder-x is a terrible place to meet women. The women here (and on Tinder, OkCupid, Plenty of Fish or similar sites) get bombarded with dozens of messages a day, and have learned from experience that if they reply to the duds saying, “No thanks”, they will probably get an abusive message telling them they are fat and ugly. So they don’t reply.

If you are not in a position to meet women in person, then make sure you read their profile and send them a personal message that is interesting but not<b> creepy. </font></b>Don't lead with your dick. Get to know women as people before you hit on them. Make friends first, or you never get to friends-with-benefits.

Loosen up your expectations. Don’t march in determined to walk out with a hot woman. Have fun, and see who wants to have fun with you.

s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
4/24/2017 1:29 pm

These young guys need good teachers.It's very admirable to use the experience and teach them what they don't see in porn.The demand to exploit older women
and fill a lot of empty mantles is the hottest ticket in porn so why not.
Right place right time.I applaud your efforts!

Using more than all the road!


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