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READ* Stepping Down* New Year* New Changes* With the New Year, New changes are coming in. Life keeps moving and we have to move along. Sometimes we need to stop being the student, and become the teacher. that is life. is like when we stop being to become a responsible adult looking after our own . I think that blogging is a wonderful thing, is a way to meet people, I recommended to anyone and everyone that is reading this. blogging can help us grow. but you have to be careful, cause the attention can also bring out the worse in us. Perfect example of that was SSD. But she was not unique, there are still around a few crazies like her, but in a lower level, they will do anything for that little extra attention. that was a painful experience, now I been watching closely. Hard work pays off, back in March, when I got on top of that list, and become the top blogger. I earned. contrary to what a few tho, there was nothing or nobody behind my blog or my success, but me and only me. regardless what anyone will say or tell you. NO ONE gave me readers, I can freely and openly say this in here, that is the honest truth. I earned every comment or reader by myself. because of my hard work and time that I was putting in to the blogs. it was my reward. With all that being said, I was attacked when I got there on that list, I didn't care, cause I was blogging for me, I was enjoying my time here. being me. major attacks were made on me for months. culminating with the petition against TS's. we all know the results of that painful war. I am still here, but not the creator SSD, that alone is a victory. SSD was not the first one to start the gender bashing attacks, when I got around the top places of that list, it was another female blogger, she is still around. I blocked such person from my blog at that time, for blogging about me, when I had never done anything to her, but help her out in one occasion, anyhow, she blog asking men what they would do, if they think someone is a female but then find out is not, making reference and hints to the top blogger, instigating people to be insulting and violence, she tho that by doing that men would run away from my blog, it didn't happen. cause most men and women already knew that I am not a natural born female, it was never a secret, I have always said that I am not a natural born female, I also have ALWAYS had that very clearly written in my profile. but for some reason jealousy blind her, she tho that she was the only who knew, not sure what made her think like that. cause it has always been openly displayed and clearly stated in my profile. but in her little narrow brain, she was going to open the lid to take me down. that is when gender bashing start it, from there on she continue with the nonsense about "I'm special cause I have a pussy look at me". then SSD pick on it and they both start it working together on gender bashing, shamming people for it. but it backfire on her this and on her that, I went up higher, she went down. then they blame me, when they actually did it to themselves. I love the fact that I still see her around here. I want her around, cause I get the opportunity to show her that success is not about gender, is about you as a human being. that we are way more than just a "pussy". that when you have a positive attitude, and you are loving and caring for others, you can have or get wherever you want or you desire, you don't even have to take drugs to change your voice, most Men and Women in general want to be in your world. that is my case here in the blogs, I always have the best people coming to my side. because they can see me shinning from far away. I meet people from here all the time, I am not here to just talk garbage about others or to ruin their time here. I am here to build friendships. to work with others when they need me. same applies outside from this site in my real life. I always find myself surrounded by friends, especially men, my lots of posts and pictures give testimony of that. men come to me because they see what they see, and what they see is a beautiful human being inside and out. that is why they follow. when you shine with your own light, you illuminate the road for others to find you. otherwise, is dark out there, light up. I am mentioning all that stuff, to make an example of the abusive past, that should never happen again to anyone. no one should go thru that again, no one should be insulted or publicly shame for who they are. because FriendFinder-x and their abuse department should be on top of any kind of abuse or bullying. we cannot change the past, but we can work for a better blogging future, making sure we leave a system in place for future bloggers that will be coming in. we will not be here forever, we should build some type of positive structure to leave in place for when we are gone. When all that was going on, I promised to myself to never become anything close to what those people were to me. to never do to others what they were doing to me. that I was gonna be as positive as I could. same as I am in my real life. to combat any name calling with a big smile. that they were not gonna make me stop smiling. they were not gonna make my laughs go silent. that I was gonna used that title for good things. I wanted to be a positive role model on my way of blogging. I think my God listened to me. because he never let me fall, I was brought back here to let me finish where I start it back in March. On the top. Ironically, due to that bullying and gender bashing incident, A lot of new connections came to my life. lost of new doors opened. such doors and connections, are now giving me the opportunity to put in practice what I promised one day. helping out others, by putting my bad experience to work, creating awareness that FriendFinder-x is not longer tolerating bullies or abuse of any kind. hoping that FriendFinder-x will always enforce the rules when people gets out of hand. I don't want to stop others from becoming better bloggers. I don't want to be on the way when other people is trying to be successful. I don't want to do to others what was done to me. I rather give them a hand if they need me, I want every woman and man that blogs in here. to enjoy her and his time with out fears, I want the blogs to be equally fun for ALL, not matter the gender or sexual orientation. That is why I am going to be stepping down from my blogging process. I want to give the room and the spot light for others to shine. starting the new year, I will slowly start to pack from the top, to move down to the middle of the pack. but I am NOT leaving you. I will be doing other things around the blogs. I will be going around, being there for whoever needs help or advice. new blogger or not. building a process against abuse and bullying. building a bridge between FriendFinder-x and the blogging community, to make sure that no one will ever become the next SSD or CRB. Also that no one will become a target of abuse or insults as I was. making sure that respect, fairness and transparency will always be showcase in here. the old days with bloggers like CRB or SSD are gone, we got to get current with times. we have to send the message that everyone is welcome and respected, Men, Women, TS's. CD's, Gay, BI or Straight. sexual preferences should be respected at all times. no one should try to shame someone over that or shame people that talk to them. everyone is an independent adult. no one owns anybody in here. everyone should talk to whoever they want with out being question why or trying to shame them for it. live your life and let other live theirs, everyone should have the chance to shine, without being aggravated or attack for being successful, If you don't like someone, simply, avoid each other. we have to be adults about it. don't interact with each other, directly or indirectly. handle it with class, even when in not speaking turns. I have learned a lot from the blogs and FriendFinder-x as a whole. I have grown as a person as well, that is why I want to take this opportunity right now, because I feel that is now or never. I better jump on the opportunity while the door remains open. looking out for others that need a helping hand, if they are having problems, personal attacks or simply needing info about blogging. working for the whole entire blogging community. helping to STOP people that have the potential to have SSD or CRB abusive mentality. especially when it comes to that "List". All tho, the list is not the problem. we are the problem when things get out of hand in here. we get hungry for a top spot or attention, by putting that list first before the feelings of any fellow blogger. we give the effect that we want to that list. whether is positive or negative. without our actions, that list is dead. I will be stepping down, to be a perfect example. that we can do that, that we don't have to lose our friends or integrity over that. I want to live by example. I don't want to become what that other person was in here, a hungry attention seeker. bulling or fighting anyone for that top spot. I personally rather help on ways to make this community a pleasant place for everyone to blog. We should play fair with each other, we owed that to ourselves. we have to practice FAIR PLAY. No cheating, Not fighting or bothering others just cause they get on top of us, of course, as long as they did it the honest way. the problem is not in the competition, the problem is when we are a bad sport. or a sour loser. but if you get that way, you are going to lose double. I will be around here, will still blog, cause I have friends here, I also love my followers, got it stayed in touch with them, besides, I am a blogger after all. but will be focusing on other things, that at this point, are more meaningful for me to be doing in here. Missy, Hotmamamm, Rachel and SpankandSquirt, Ladies, I am talking to the four of you, cause you are the ones following me, please be opening room for me there, because I will be landing somewhere in there pretty soon, that way we can all take turns to the top sometimes. I want to level the field so others can also have a shot to be where I am today, I hope you understand my point, because it has a purpose, the message is to NEVER get nasty with each other or anyone over that spot, is not worth it. knowing you, I doubt that will ever happen. I hope same applies for the ladies coming right behind you. We all need to remember to never lose a friend or your integrity over the list. I sincerely hope, that many will follow my action. never become consumed by a higher spot. If I can step down and say no with dignity. you all can do it. we have to change that nasty tradition that has been associated with the list. we can make history here together. I know we can. To my very few haters: I was listening to Tina Turner song. "Simply The Best". when I was writing this post. I was smiling all along. I figure I should let you know that  To my friends and others that one way or another gave me their support and continue doing so. thank you for everything that you gave me this year, is time for me to give you a little bit back. by working in here along with you if you have a problem. Do me a favor, If you ever see someone making fun of me, or claiming that I am going down on the list. PLEASE, feel free to jump in to respectfully correct them. No, she is not going down, she is stepping down with dignity. moving up in other areas, make it known to them, that is my choice, that I still have your love. that I am simply exploring new options, in order to become more relevant and productive to this blogging community. Again, I am NOT leaving You, You will still see me around, The crazy Thalia will still be seen around smiling, showing her pictures, sucking cock or having sex, telling you her crazy life or crazy stories, I will continue to blog. I will still bother you, you are not getting rid of me Haha, I will still be a part of you. but I am not sure to what extend. I will know more by the next 2 weeks, for right now, I will have to play by ear. if things don't work out in my new FriendFinder-x adventure, I can always come back to you, blogging as I been doing, being crazy and chasing the guys  Before you tried to make excuses and smooth things away. saying that was not a big deal, why even talk about it. You were not in my shoes. you were not being insulted and shame every day for months by a number of people, you don't know the extend of the pain that can cause, just because I didn't break, that doesn't mean I was not in pain. it took a lot of time, work and effort to make that bullying situation go away. that was not a piece of cake, many people had to get involved. none of those professionals that got involved saw it as a game, they saw a very serious situation taking place in this blogging community. when I show them all I had, one person even got up from his seat to give me a hug, that should tell you something. I still have every single comment that was made tours me, by SSD or other of her helpers. I had over 300 disgusting remarks about me that I present, when I show them, they knew something need it to be done and quick, they were upset that someone can do that to another person simply over her gender and jealousy, to be getting away with it or being applaud by others. if you think it was nothing. then, let me tell you, they did not agree with you. they saw someone crazy that need it to be stop. I also don't agree with you. because I was the target of every insult, day and night, for over 6 moths. this is very personal for me because I felt the pain on my skin, bones and soul. No one can see the scars of that, not even me, but I feel them. That is why I am still talking making awareness about, still working on it, because I am trying to prevent anyone else from that pain. You tell me why that is wrong. That is why I am so thankful to FriendFinder-x for taking steps to protect all of us in here. SMILES MY PEOPLE!!! I am NOT leaving the blogs. I will still be around. but I will be doing other things besides blogging. p.s. Before you criticized my writing. English is not my first language. Another, for the ones that still debating over the T or F. Well, Physician's, Courts, Lawyers and Jury, They all found me to be legally female, and a beautiful one for that matter  . therefore I should have my F. You lost the war, get over it   |
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This is my first post of 2017. I figure I saved it for today. because I am proud to start my new year with new projects
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This is totally understated my dear Thalia!! There is a lot more than can be said about what you went through and endured BUT re-hashing the bad will not make the GOOD become better. Those of us who watched you stumble, fall, and then right yourself have the utmost respect and love for you as a person. Your 2017 statement should be praised and followed by every blogger on here. Do Unto To Others As You Would Have Others Do Unto You. Peaceful and Exciting 2017 to you, our little beacon of love and fairness (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Thanks for all you do to help people here! I'm a newbie and you even helped me my 2nd day! This site needs more like you. Jim
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I'm sorry that you're stepping away because I'm gonna miss your style and sense of humor. But, more than that I'm sorry for the shallowness of some people on this site. We were all put here for a purpose and certainly bullying and abuse is not one of them. I knew from day one you weren't born female. It's written plain as day in your profile. And why should it make any difference to anyone. We are all human beings and should be treated with dignity and respect. Goona miss you but good luck with whatever, wherever. I may email you occasionally to keep you updated on my/our growth. Take care.
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1/1/2017 2:44 pm |
Very well said, we should enjoy your post as they are awesome, no need to hate, maybe they should write a blog and see what it feels like to have someone write nasty comments on their post. HNY
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1/1/2017 2:51 pm |
Dear Thalia. I do enjoy reading your blogs. My only regret is that our paths didn't cross earlier. I do look forward to reading more of your post.. Just keep being the sweet wonderful you. Those that hate on you just jealous and lack self respect so they think it is best to take it out on you and try to bring you down to their level. They will never be able to rise your level. Hugs to you my friend.
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As I am newish I avoided the sh1t that you speak about thankfully. I does sadden me that such wasters are about. I have enjoyed your blog since I came onboard and shall miss the daily contributions. I have been considering doing one myself but who knows. Wishing you a kind and prosperous new year.
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Thalia - You are a class act and I applaud you. With all the shit you went through, you have stood tall and gracious and held your ground. You have been hurt, and still came back and continued to be yourself. I love that about you and thank you for your support. These blogs have been a wonderful place for me to be myself and open up things I haven't been able to talk about or share with even my ex that I was married to for over 21 years. It's an outlet to share myself and learn more about others. We were able to cross paths and get to know each other. Thank you for your thoughtfulness, insight, and kindness to myself and all others on this site. You have been an advocate for those that have been attacked, bullied and picked on and i stand with you on that. I look forward to what you will be doing elsewhere on the site and maybe you can show me other things to do on here as well! Hugs to you!!   Rachel Mae
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Thalia thank you, for being a Wonderful Friend May 2017 bring you Health, Happiness and Lots of Sex Visit my Blog Older but no Wiser and find out more
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Thalia, you are one of a kind and the dearest of friends. Knowing you has made me a better man, and made my life richer. Thank you! Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Dear Thalia, First of all I wish you a very happy, peaceful and sexy new year 2017 (and beyond!). I am proud to have you as a friend and will always be on your side. Whatever your future plan will be and wherever you path takes you, I shall be with you. Let's keep in touch ... 
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I applaud you for making being top blogger more than just about posting selfies or photos of nudes. Your blogs often had substance and interesting content that made me think. People don't realize how exhausting I am sure it is to keep the top spot. Past top bloggers have been motivated by narcissism but not you. You will most definitely be a hard act to follow. I wish you all the best in your new pursuits. xoxo, myelin
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1/1/2017 4:44 pm |
 Wish You a great 2017You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!
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This is totally understated my dear Thalia!! There is a lot more than can be said about what you went through and endured BUT re-hashing the bad will not make the GOOD become better. Those of us who watched you stumble, fall, and then right yourself have the utmost respect and love for you as a person. Your 2017 statement should be praised and followed by every blogger on here. Do Unto To Others As You Would Have Others Do Unto You. Peaceful and Exciting 2017 to you, our little beacon of love and fairness Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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i'll read this after the wine runs out have a wonderful day. mine already went south. one of my friend got a BF and she but me on hold. til she figure out if he is a keeper.
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I am proud to be your friend, Thalia. Hugs. We will all see you when we see you and will miss you when we miss you Have fun and keep us informed of your sexy experiences Read RESPECT WE all NEED to do Better and Re Petition to Stop Transsexuals from Using Female Profiles
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Wow well congratulations on staying positive when others were trying to bringing you down. At times we can get caught in what is going on that we, end up being like is attacking us. Far as your gender, it is not anyone's business that doesn't know you personally. Just a side note I had no idea. LOL Never questioned it. I will continue to follow you because you make be chuckle. Good luck to you on your future endeavors. This is a Copy of My Profile Want to know even more about me? Read my Introduction Post. Feel free to drop me a line here: Give me All the Messages. Don't worry it is private! Check out all my rambles here, BlackRayne74!!   Desire becomes surrender, surrender becomes power. -Joker
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1/1/2017 6:11 pm |
Wonderful post. It is good that you can stay positive my dear. Happy 2017! "May all of your most sensuous, luscious, erotic desires and sexiest dreams come to pass in the ethereal moments of the new year!"_scott6250 "Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250
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In my vanilla world, I have learned and understand a lot more from this site and a lot from you. Your gentle nature and strength shines.
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well said my friend. whether you are at the top or middle I will still look forward to every post. I wish you are great year Thalia, so glad to know you.
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I am sorry that you have had to put up with all of that negativity and BS. I enjoy your post and photos. You always have been a lady and always will be in my book. Happy New Year and God Bless, Tedbear
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Thalia, I do agree with what pocogato12 said. I think by standing up for yourself, and they way you handled yourself taught not only yourself that you are a strong woman but others that it's ok to stand up for yourself when someone is bullying you. Thalia, you are a very kind, and caring woman I have learned from what you have said. I get a laugh at time from what you say. But most of all I respect you for you, and standing up to those who try to bully you. I don't read your blog because it's the number one. That really doesn't mean anything to me it's what the blog is about, and what is said that is important to me. This is a wonderful post that all should read. I am proud to call you my friend, and I wish you the very best in 2017. Happy New Year Thalia. John We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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I don't comment much but I'll miss your frequent posts.
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Do whatever you feel like my lady - we wil miss you, but we understand , and we'll be here Cheers - P
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i understand that overwhelming odds and pressure can take its toll. I'm sorry you feel you have to cave to that. May I suggest a short break and take time to regroup. Then return with the fire that lies stoked in your belly and share your adventures, thoughts, and feelings with us again. An Irish blessing to you
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