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4 Sure-Fire Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life
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4 Sure-Fire Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life 1. Novelty Let's first start with the importance of novelty in sexual play. Novelty keeps dopamine, the brain chemical associated with exhilaration and ecstasy, going. Dopamine is what’s responsible for a lover’s high and also for infatuation. So if you want to keep that buzz going do any or all of the following nine novelties: • Vary the places you make love • Vary the way you set the stage—lights candles or a draw a bubble bath • Use feathers for exquisite arousal • Use sex toys with each other or in front of each other • Put whipped cream on each other • Wear sexy lingerie or outfits • Vary your foreplay • Try new positions • Most importantly, make sure that both of you are fully satisfied 2. Sexual Trance Sexual trance involves an inward focus where each partner focuses on his/her own pleasure and sensations and creates a fulfilling sexual release. In win-win sex, both of you are pleasured and find a strong release in orgasm. Learn by experimenting so that you know what works for each of you. In order to learn what works for him, try touching, massaging, licking or stimulating all the different parts of his body. Observe and ask him questions about what feels good. Try different sexual acts, variations in intercourse positions and most importantly, oral sex. Virtually all men adore oral sex. If you have a problem with this, consider the fact that if your man showers,. 3. Partner Engagement Partner engagement is interactive sex and sex play. Your partner is seen as a separate person whose happiness and satisfaction are as important as one’s own. At the highest level of partner engagement there is rapture, bliss, plus a feeling of oneness with each other. In partner engagement you each are dedicated to the fullest sexual expression and fulfillment of the other. This is the arena where you stretch to accommodate what the other wants to do. But never go to the point of intolerable pain or trauma. Be adventurous and take the initiative at times with pleasing each other. A spontaneous ambush for a<b> quickie </font></b>is a great idea. There’s nothing like “surprise sex” to amp up your pleasure centers. 4. Role Play The last type of sexual intimacy comes from role play. The couple creates a kind of magic theatre where sex is a stage for each partner to share and enact fantasies with each other. About 95% of people report that they have sexual fantasies—so you’re not alone. Fantasies help each of you to explore all the different aspects of self which frees up energy and loosens you up. Plus it helps reduce the urge to cheat because you both are already having the novelty of a “different” partner. The excitement and newness of role play keeps the dopamine flowing, which keeps the passion going. Role plays often emerge from fantasies. The most common fantasies involve an imaginary romantic lover, being overpowered or forced to surrender, reliving a sexual experience or pretending they are doing something wicked or forbidden. Most common roles include, naughty doctor and patient, naughty cop and lawbreaker, master and slave, and fantasy forced submission. One last word about sexual issues... If you or your partner has sexual issues first use some of the techniques I have described to try breaking through the barriers on your own. If he has erectile dysfunction there are medications available that have been very effective for men. They’re still working on approving meds for arousal problems in women. But other physical problems could be affecting you, like anemia in women or hormone abnormalities. For men, low testosterone levels have become very common and can have very negative consequences on both libido and erections. Medications you are taking can have libido-depressing side effects. For example, tranquilizers are notorious for interfering with your sex drive. Don’t let a physical problem prevent you from having sex, so check with your doctor. If your issues are not simply physical, then by all means seek out a sex therapist or a couples therapist who specializes in sexual dysfunction. Treat this problem as you would diabetes or any other serious illness. It will be well worth it. |
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