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A Dom verses A Top  

CurvyLisaO 52F  
19 posts
6/15/2020 4:47 pm
A Dom verses A Top

Far to many men who self -identify as Dominants are really Tops. They lack the physchological make up and inner landscape to be a Dominant. They mainly just like roughing up and ordering women around in bed or getting women to do things they wouldn't normally do but like the cachet of saying I'm a Dominant.

Same with Bottoms, far too many are confused women who like rough sex and saw 50 shades and proclaim to be like Eureka...I'm a SUBMISSIVE !!!! The reason this is problematic is it is hard to separate the wheat from the chaff. I know several SUBMISSIVE women who fell hard for someone they thought was a Dom but turned out to be just a bedroom Top. It works the same in reverse.

Many Doms has been fooled into thinking that a Bottom was a genuine SUBMISSIVE, but just wanted to feel special, wanted and taken care of by a strong and dominant man. Another unfortunate thing is there tends to be a certain ill-concealed elitism among true Doms and Subs when it comes to Tops and Bottoms I won't lie I am occasionally guilty of it myself speaking contemptuously of he/she is just a bedroom kinkster (my terms of Tops and Bottoms).

I've noticed on other site that men think they are a Dom just cause they are kinky and only talk about sexual activities. That contempt is really unfair there's nothing at all wrong with being a Top or a Bottom as long as they don't try to Gussy it up by trying to claim they are a Dominant and a SUBMISSIVE. There will be a communication and expectation gap and misunderstanding that can lead to hurt, pain or regret.

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