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The Lost Art of Seduction
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The Lost Art of Seduction I recently read somewhere that people, especially women, have mostly forgotten the art of seduction. Partially because women typically are the ones being pursued and because of sites like Tinder and FriendFinder-x, it's so easy for us to hookup nowadays. No work necessary. Someone mentioned listening to a radio show where women were invited to call in and attempt to seduce a man. The results were hilariously disastrous. This is partially why that "site for cheaters" was so appealing. It actually fostered seduction. Marrieds technically already have access to sex, albeit maybe boring sex. Instead they really craved the passion they once had. Because of the clandestine nature of the site, most communication was still via email as husbands couldn't risk receiving texts on their phone. Also everyone's reluctance to post profile photos meant a lot more effort and focus in the written prose. Contrast that with texting. While convenient, lends itself to feeling way too casual instead of intensely passionate. So how do you seduce someone? I think first and foremost it means being confidently sexy. I think many will agree that confidence is the sexiest quality of all. But I think you also need to show restraint and keep a air of mystery around you. I mean what's a bigger lure than a good enigma to solve? I've touched on this concept in a previous post. The difference as I mentioned is not revealing everything. Think lingerie ads vs. porn. For example, my profile photos look like boudoir shots more than anything. They are insanely popular. I have been known to get 500+ profile views per day. There is a fine line between teasing and appearing deceptive though. So for every carrot you dangle in front of someone, be prepared to reveal something equally tantalizing. I became really good at it. Sometimes it involved games of twenty questions. Sometimes little dares like "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." Sometime it was about exchanging erotic fantasies. It was thrilling to know that you could captivate someone to the point they couldn't sleep or focus on anything while at work... (And they would inappropriately send you proof of that.) But seduction takes a lot of work and does get tiring if you do it all the time. Luckily there's FriendFinder-x and Tinder to cure that problem. |
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your post is from the viewpoint of the woman. the male population has a vastly different viewpoint. the female members here definitely are ALL talk and dangling carrots. it leaves MY carrot stiff, throbbing. we need to put MORE carrots into the diets of women here, eat up ladies. less talk, more munching !!
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what harley said. Most are all talk, and when it comes to trying to TALK and get a better understanding of women.. you accuse us of being PUSHY, and ANNOYING. ~Linc was here.~
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Was just thinking about this today and I think it's a lost art for both sexes. Very few men have the skill to seduce a woman, so it seems in talking with those women who would love to be seduced. I wrote a blog post of my own on the topic and would hot link it if FriendFinder-x wasn't broken as usual. I'll have to admit to not giving much consideration to women losing the skill until I read your post. But, in thinking about my own personal experience (both here and on more vanilla dating sites), it seems that by the day, fewer women either have the skill or inclination to seduce a man. Gone are the days of well written notes designed to capture the attention and imagination of the recipient. They've been replaced with five word blurbs that would be pitiful as a text message. It's gotten to the point where I won't interact with a woman who can't seem to put two thoughts down on a keyboard. There have been two occasions where I've cast them aside with a comment to the effect of 'you've given me no reason to be interested in you. If you can't be bothered to communicate as the educated woman you are, then I won't be wasting my time.' And, to your point, FriendFinder-x is the worst for this. Hell, I'd be happy if a woman took the time to dangle a carrot in front of me! That would be much more interesting than communication from what seems to be legions of lobotomy patients!
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I'm sorry to hear if you are finding the women all talk here. I only speak for myself, but I'm not a flake and have met a number of people off this and other sites over the years. Part of it is pure supply and demand. Men way out number women on just about any dating site. Despite liberal progress, most women just can't do casual sex. (I have a theory why, and maybe that's something I'll go into in another post.) So given, the odds, only a few men are going to get lucky. And those are the ones that have the best game. There are other considerations too, like safety too, that will make a woman hesitant. It simply is a huge risk for a woman to meet strangers off the internet. I've had my own scary experience that almost made me stop. All I can say is, it is a competition. There are a lot of model handsome, rich, famous, funny, smart, hung, etc. dudes on here. If you aren't any if these things (and even if you are all the above and more), you need to be smooth as f*ck in your seduction. Good luck.
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1 post 11/20/2015 5:58 am |
LYS you have hit the nail on the head so to speak.Finding women who understand and want to actively participate in the art of seduction is like finding a needle in this pervy haystack. And your right, seduction does take a lot of work and gets tiring when constantly engaging in that art as I do on a regular basis but it's also well worth it and very rewarding. Wondering who your alternative profile is so that we can take an "art appreciation class together  )
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Thanks. I think, though, women do want to be seduced. They're just not used to it and don't know how to play the game back. It's up to you to maybe coax it out of them. So go forth and seduce! 💋 PS, even I told your what my other profile is, it wouldn't help, as I am thousands of miles away.
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