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Still separated
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Still separated Today marks 2 months apart and 5 weeks in my new apartment. I'm adjusting to living alone surprisingly well, I had thought that I would be lonely after all of the years living with someone. Last week was our 31st anniversary, we marked it with an exchange of emails... (sorta sad) We are talking and seeing each other frequently but I don't think we are making any progress in any direction. I'm sure it would help if I would pick a direction, lol. I guess my biggest problem is that I can't see myself retiring and spending 24 hours a day with her but I can't imagine me or her changing very much at this age either. In some respects I think we should have done this 10-15 years ago, was all that time wasted? I'm still not sure how I want this to turn out... but as I write this I can't see how we can get back together. How F*^KeD up is that? |
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These are pretty normal feelings, in my opinion.  blog on!
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Rockpebble I have been in your shoes...I was the one who walked then I had second thoughts. So I suggested marriage counseling, which we did for an extended period of time. We said and did all the right things behind the closed door with the counselor, However, once we got home and back to real life, the same shit went on. We didn't apply what we learned and it all fell apart. Nothing but a competition; he said it was black and I said it was white; we were like oil and water and so unhappy with each other. So, in 2007 after 19 years of marriage we divorced and it was the BEST gift I gave to myself. I was his wife #2 and currently he is married to wife #4. I am still single and doing just fine. Maybe he will get it right this time, I don't know. So, just decide what it is you want in this life and if you can't see yourself with this woman the rest of you life then my suggestion is to get out there and find what you want. Or, if you really love her tell her and get some counseling....and USE it! Both of you have to work hard at it.... Best of luck to you - {=} {=} KCClaire0923 
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These are pretty normal feelings, in my opinion. blog on!
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Rockpebble I have been in your shoes...I was the one who walked then I had second thoughts. So I suggested marriage counseling, which we did for an extended period of time. We said and did all the right things behind the closed door with the counselor, However, once we got home and back to real life, the same shit went on. We didn't apply what we learned and it all fell apart. Nothing but a competition; he said it was black and I said it was white; we were like oil and water and so unhappy with each other. So, in 2007 after 19 years of marriage we divorced and it was the BEST gift I gave to myself. I was his wife #2 and currently he is married to wife #4. I am still single and doing just fine. Maybe he will get it right this time, I don't know. So, just decide what it is you want in this life and if you can't see yourself with this woman the rest of you life then my suggestion is to get out there and find what you want. Or, if you really love her tell her and get some counseling....and USE it! Both of you have to work hard at it.... Best of luck to you - {=} {=} KCClaire0923 Thank you for your support it does help.
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