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FWB - Am I doing it wrong?
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FWB - Am I doing it wrong? Did I understand FWB wrong? Friends with mutual benefits is what I thought this to be. I'm horny, you're horny, have condoms will fuck. What's the problem? I don't want a relationship but a connection is nice. That way, when I want to have sex it's real desire and not just animal instinct. Apparently, a connection is more of a liability in a FWB situation. I guess I'm not cut out for it. My heart feels just like my body feels and though I don't dream of marrying or finding a knight in shining latex here, I sincerely want just one man that I can have sex with. Why is it so hard to find him? I've let down my restrictions and tossed my schoolgirl virtue to the wind so why isn't this easier. I'm not going to have sex with just anyone but human is nice. It's such a catch 22; I don't want to know someone like a girlfriend but I want to feel like their woman when I'm with them. I don't want to fall in love and get married but I want to feel loved and like my loyalty is appreciated. No games or trickery but I like you, you like me and every minute we spend together will be phenomenal and then we go home, full stop. When you contact me it should be to give the location of our next meeting, don't ask me about anything that you truly don't care about. Gifts and sex. Again, I'm not trying to win a sexual award or break any records, I want sex just not with everyone that emails and chats with me. I'm not here to fuck everyone (anyone) on FriendFinder-x. I want to be made to feel special in every sense of the word on a regular basis. |
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3/21/2016 8:09 am |
I believe you have the right attitude
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 i hear what your saying, but what you want is a relationship. the terms means , you do things together, go out and and have fun. sex is the benefit. after that you go about your business until next time. you want connectionat least that 's what i hear. you want the best of both worlds... 
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Yea your wrong.. you described a boyfriend. a SIGNIFICANT OTHER. uNFORTUNATELY, you may have to lower some standards like some of us have to do on here. ~Linc was here.~
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I hear you 100%, you're on the fence between two objectives
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It amazes me when I see someone attractive who can't find a regular person to hook up with. Honestly there's only so much compromise that any person can do. Ideally you'll find someone that you connect with on at the least a friend level and from there you eventually come to find a sexual spark. On here you probably have to find someone that you're attracted to and hope that as you get to know them that you also like them as a person. I sincerely hope that you find a situation that you are comfortable with and really take some pleasure in.
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oh well what the hell
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It's a rare match up that allows two people to care about each other deeply, but understand that marriage isn't in the future. Far too many of us are programmed to think that love, lust and marriage are all intertwined. They are not. "Love is not sex and sex is not love, but sex with the one you love is the best." is one of my personal quotes. If both can understand this idea, then the balance can be achieved without the socially obligatory next step. I've experienced this balance once and I would give anything to get it back. 'Purrfect' and I were the perfect FWB couple until my career forced me to move too far away to continue the relationship. FWB, or "Friends With Benefits", should focus on the 'Friends' part first, the 'benefits' part second.
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Wish I could experience that ....even on this forum
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That's a troublesome subject. To be friends With Benefits. Does not only mean having sex. You can do thing together an still have your own lives. Sex is the bonus of the friendship, But if one feels uncomfortable someone will always lose.
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It does seem like a tightrope kind of thing...
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WOW !! I have the a FWB !!!! We do things and go our separate ways; back to my boring married life !!! ;(
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