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Talking to Unicorns Rule #7
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Talking to Unicorns Rule #7 This week has been a bit busier so we are posting late this week. If you have been enjoying reading our blog “Talking with Unicorns”, check out our favorite group on FriendFinder-x Land of Unicorns. It’s a fun forum to talk about and with Unicorns. Rule 7 deals with something that everyone is going to struggle with from time to time. Whether you are a couple or the Unicorn, it doesn’t matter, the fact that you are human means that you will slip up from time to time. Rule #7: Communicate Clearly You may not want to accept that your going to make mistakes when it comes to communicating, but you will. I see this keep coming up in message board posts. And unfortunately in my personal life as well. Making a faux pas doesn’t mean that you can’t communicate. I depend on communication for my career, and I enjoy writing. Yet I still will mis-communicate from time to time. But I’m not speaking of being analytical and barking orders at people, or translating ones thoughts into a legible story. This is about personal communication. In the digital age we live in communication can be everything. It’s said that communication is now so much easier. I would have to disagree. The way we communicate is easier, but this has actually made communicating more difficult from my perspective. Everyone has seen two people sitting at a table, neither one talking to the other. Instead both are staring at their phones and texting someone, rather than engage the person sitting three feet in front of them. We are slowly losing the ability to carry on a conversation. Now, I’m not saying that texting doesn’t have it’s place in a friendship or relationship. But the problem with the written word is that it is very open to interpretation. When you read a text, you can’t hear the inflections in someone’s voice, or notice the gestures their body makes while talking that could add clear meaning to the words. Outside of a well placed Emoji or LOL, a seemingly innocuous text can become fully loaded if the receiver is in a different frame of mind than the sender. When you do get out on that first date, do yourself a favor. As you sit with your potential new Unicorn or couple, put the phone in your purse or jacket pocket. Fight the habitual urge you’ll have to check your messages every fifteen minutes. At all costs if your text notification goes off, DO NOT REPLY!!!! Remember there is now a living breathing person sitting in front of you that wants to get to know you. Engage your new friend or friends in actual conversation. Because if you keep looking at your phone instead of them, your body language may send the message that you aren’t that interested in them or find them boring. Rule #7 will be unique in that it will be our first rule that actually has a sub-rule also. If you do find that you make a communication blunder. Sometimes, depending on how foolish what you just said is, the worst thing you can do is try to fix it. Rule #7.2: Know when to shut the fuck up This, as many of you readers may know, is something I just experienced. There will be occasion that you say something so foul, that you know instantly, you just turned a conversation sour. You’re natural reaction might be to try to say something to clarify or “fix” what you just said. STOP! You will run the risk of digging that whole deeper. Sometimes the fix will be even worse that the original statement, and then you start the<b> snowball </font></b>rolling down the hill. You keep saying dumber and dumber shit, in an effort to find the one thing that will nullify everything else. And that<b> snowball </font></b>will keep growing and become more menacing, until it becomes a full blown avalanche and buries everything in it’s path. The problem is that once something is said, it can’t be unheard. There are times that the best approach is to cut your loses and shut the fuck up! Let them have a little time to digest what was said, there is a good chance that the original blunder will be just shrugged off in time if left alone. |
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2/5/2016 5:09 am |
I know how rude it can be when you are out with someone and they reach for their phone in the middle of you talking to them. What is even worse is if they take the time to answer a text. People you took the time and effort to meet please give the other person your whole attention.
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Cell phones are an ego trip and are looked at by people that have a hard time staying a conversation so they use it as a crutch.People make ten times more useless phone calls on cell phones than before we ever had them.It stays in my car. Using more than all the road!
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