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Rejection  

Jadzia11 55F
145 posts
3/29/2021 2:26 pm
Rejection


Do all men think a woman cannot handle rejection without going 'psycho'?

I have recently met in real life 2 men that I have talked to on this site and there was no connection in person. I had a nice talk with them but there was no real interest on one or both sides, so we part after a nice conversation and call it a day. I say thank you and have a nice time and that is all for me.

I do not stalk them and get that not everyone that meets is going to want to continue contact. I respect space and accept this is real life.

What I find amusing is that I see them online (their profiles are on the whose online section at that top of the landing page) and I make no contact. There is no need. They are doing their thing and I am doing mine.

One recently sent me a message saying that to avoid me he was deleting his profile. LOL ok dude, I had not reached out to you and you have not contacted me either until that message. I saw no need for you to do that, I had not so much as viewed your profile since the night we met.

I think it is sad that there are so many crazy women out there that it seems men think we are all going to<b> behave </font></b>like that.

Maybe its an age thing, I am too damn old to put that kind of effort into someone who is clearly not into me. And especially not into someone that I am not into.

I promise you, if we meet in person and I know there is no connection between us, we can part ways with a friendly goodbye and go our separate ways. I will see you online and you will probably see me, but there is no reason for either of us to take drastic measures to avoid each other.

I can handle rejection and I would rather a polite no thank you than someone who fears talking to me, to give me that courtesy or someone who feels they need to delete a profile to avoid me.

But hey, I get if that is all you have experienced, that is what you are expecting. What can I say, I am different. I have not stalked anyone and do not plan on starting now. I have no time to waste on fruitless efforts.

CoffeewBaileys 66M  
81 posts
5/18/2021 5:16 am

Its a strange place here with strange people, Jad... I am sure you know this by now!
People have their own agenda and most of the time, that agenda is quite latent.
Theres no reason you should feel rejected, especially if it was a mutual.. ummm... unattraction? LOLOL Its just his way of passing his feelings onto you, cuzz you dont treat him like a king.
Ya, others need to get a clue.
Its rarely all about them

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Coffee~w/Baileys


Jadzia11 replies on 5/25/2021 5:11 am:
I was not taking it as rejection per se, but my thoughts were on how that particular man responded. He felt the need to avoid me and that made me laugh. There was not really a need that I saw for such drastic action, but clearly he felt there was.

1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
5/31/2021 8:49 am

Sadly lots on here do not handle rejection well, some refuse to accept " I am not interested, thank you"


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