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An Orgasm Meditation (OM) Community Personal Tour
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An Orgasm Meditation (OM) Community Personal Tour At the Zegg Forum Facilitation Training I attended the weekend of Feb 19-21, 2016, one of the participants introduced himself to the group as "Mr. Sex" and said he could give a class on pussy licking. I was intrigued since I'm a sex educator myself. I told him Why Men's Offer of Oral Sex Makes Me Yawn but added that what really put him on my radar was that he's living in a community where they practice --as a group-- daily Orgasm Meditation (OM), which is taught by the San Francisco-based organization called One Taste. His intentional community plans to add regular Zegg Forum sessions to help build trust and minimize conflicts within the residents, using the techniques I wrote about here: Poly Agony vs Poly Community . I talked my 20-year-old , who had already dragged me around to see various permaculture communities as part of our visit to NorCal and attendance at the Forum workshop, into hanging out at the OM Community Home near Santa Cruz...as long as no one was walking around naked or OMing while she was there. "Fair enough," I agreed. I know that the OM is a very specific practice and only those who have completed the workshop can engage in the practice in an "official" setting. I completed the workshop a year ago. (I'm a workshop junkie! "Grow or Die" is my mantra.) Currently, I'm considering a transition to living in an intentional community since my<b> twins </font></b>are about the leave the roost. They don't live with me but they're still here in town. Once they move, in the next year or two, it opens the door for me to fly freely so I'm checking out my options. Mr. Sex showed us around the 20 acres on a beautiful hillside with a 3 or 4 bedroom home, lap pool, jacuzzi and 3 yurts in various stages of construction with insulation to be added. He said 16-20 people live there, including some (who aren't there all the time) of divorced parents. The yurts are about 30 feet in diameter and three people live in each! Mr. Sex used to sleep in the 10' x 5' room with the hot water heater. Now he resides in an insulated tool shed which doubles both as his bedroom and storage for boxes of other residents' stuff. The idea of the twice daily OM practice, which is 15 minutes of very light clit stroking, was exciting but not enough to get me past my middle class capitalist mentality which says I need private space that is MINE, MINE, MINE. Honestly, I'm not sure I could live in such close quarters with so many people. The idea that shocked me the most was when Mr. Sex related that if someone started to get too territorial, they'd move her around just to keep them from getting too settled. The idea I did appreciate was that each resident would have "housewife" duties every 14 days, responsibilities that would include cleaning up the kitchen, shopping for and making dinner for all residents. To demonstrate that the housewife is important, if someone misses the scheduled day, it costs $200 to get another resident to do it. Then, Mr. Sex gave me a personal tour of his futon on the cement slab inside the metal exterior tool shed. The lighting was a single string of Christmas lights with power from an electrical cord run out 75 feet from the house! The pussy licking was brief, enjoyable but not enough time to change my opinion about pussy licking in general. I showed Mr. Sex how I use Reality's Female Condoms (removing the inner ring, putting lube inside and out and sliding them on the cock like male condoms). They're my preferred kind because they don't rub me raw (since they stay in my pussy while the cock goes in and out) and you can use with coconut oil, which is my fave lubricant. We fucked until the iPHone timer went off alerting us that Mr. Sex had to leave for an appointment. I was juicy and it was fun! It may seem geeky but I'm a fan of using a timer so I don't have to think about time constraints. I am also a fan of short sex dates for the first encounter. I admit I have certain intimacy issues. And I realize I had them BEFORE I got my heart smashed recently by serving it up to the thoughtless hammering by the guy who just wasn't into me. In fact, it's likely that my fear of intimacy is why I was strongly attracted to someone who was so clearly unavailable. Realizing that the unavailable man, aka my Former Partner in Crime (FPIC), doesn't share any of my interests like joining a free love community intent on modeling a new way of living together was helpful in starting to release me from my vain wish that he loved me. As Mr. Sex and I walked back to the parking lot, we found my talking with two of the other male residents. She seemed pretty cheerful and comfortable, so I'm guessing that --even though they were clearly friendly-- neither had tried to offer her a quickie. Being my , she's open-minded but she's intent on working things out with her boyfriend in a monogamous relationship. The OM Community Home near Santa Cruz might not be the ideal situation for me, but I'd like to visit and experience it as an "OM Tourist." And, hopefully, give Mr. Sex a chance to change my mind about pussy licking! If you're interested in the community, let me know and I'll put you in touch with Mr. Sex. {=}{=}{=} BiPolyBabe69 aka Angie |
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I've never had much luck with communal living arrangements, but Shakers and Hutterites have managed it, so I know it can be done. I think it takes a special person to do it. Convents and monasteries are more of less that, but of course there IS a hierarchy set up. It would be fascinating to read if you decide to do it and write about it. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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I'm a little late to this particular post but thanks for the tip on the reality condom! And it's nice to see another gal who thinks a short "first time" works best.... that whole "I can go for hours and hours, lemme show ya" gets OLD!
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