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The Top 10 Advantages of  

bipolybabe69 62F
404 posts
5/31/2016 9:33 am
The Top 10 Advantages of

Yesterday I was feeling a bit sorry for myself, thinking about all the fun I'd had with two couples on Sunday.

Fun? So what's to feel sad about?

After four hours of pretty much non-stop fucking, sucking, petting, stroking and licking and two hours of "get-acquainted chat," much of it post-sex, I was the only one who went home alone. (Though I know both couples from past encounters, I brought them all together as I thought they'd be compatible. I was right. It was hot, hot, hot! More about the details on our encounter, including something I've fantasized about for a long time and hadn't tried until then!)

This morning I was thinking of the friends who envy me because they'd like to dump their partners. Then I thought of all the advantages of being a polyamorous person who is single aka "solo poly." First let me distinguish the difference, from my perspective, of being polyamorous versus being a swinger. I've got nothing against swingers. In fact, one of the couples --who include my BiBFF and her Boy Toy-- identify as swingers. As swingers, they enjoy the free-wheeling environment of "no holes barred" sex parties where you need not know anyone in order to have sex. The quarry merely needs to nod "yes." I prefer deeper relationships and getting to know my sex partners on more than just a superficial level. Oh, and #1 principle of poly, aka ethical non-monogamy, is honesty.

These terms don't mean a lot, though, because I have a friendship with BBFF and BT (we met nearly a year ago and I've grown close to both of them) and I've been known to enjoy the swinger environment, like at Sea Mountain Inn, and fuck just for the fun of it, taking no names and making no promises of any future contact.

So, back to the advantages of solo poly:

1) As a single female, most sex parties are happy to have me there while single men are generally prohibited.

2) I qualify as the highly sought after "unicorn," the mythical female who, unencumbered by boyfriend, or pets, delights in bringing joy to couples in FMF 3somes. It's nice to be desired.

3) As a unicorn, I get a lot of appreciation from my coupled friends when I bring my joy and enthusiasm to play with them.

4) I never have to negotiate my plans with a partner. If I want to, I just do it!

5) I never have to have uncomfortable conversations to address jealousy or insecurity (mine or his). Having these conversations with the guy I dated in an open relationship got to be so uncomfortable, and his jealousy so predictable, that I started cheating, that is, not telling him my sex date plans until after I'd done it.

6) I get to choose if I want someone to sleep over or not. So I'm rarely awakened by someone else snoring, stealing the blanket or throwing an elbow into my nose.

7) I know that the delicious left-over Thai food I've been fantasizing about will be there in the refrigerator when I get home.*

I don't have to clean up anyone else's mess nor do I have someone nagging me about mine.*

9) After spending time socializing and being with people, I enjoy solitude and quiet.*

10) I'm sure I'll think of one more once I post this

* These have to do with the downside of living with someone. I'm not sure I'd choose to live with a partner again. Until Woody Allen decided "the heart wants what it wants" and ran off with his stepdaughter, I thought he and Mia Farrow had the best possible situation. They lived in apartment buildings that faced one another, close enough that they could walk to dinner together, come running in an emergency but with enough distance to have their private space/time.

10) Yep, I thought of another one. It's better to go home alone than go home with the WRONG PARTNER. For me, the right partner is the one who desires to make me happy.

If you've been single and you've been partnered, which do you prefer? Why?

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BiPolyBabe69

1bighammer1000 59M
4304 posts
5/31/2016 2:32 pm

 I do enjoy the single life, I spent alot of time working, I guess you could call it that, I farm and have a small construction business. It is no 8-5 job. I enjoy the building part, and farming is relaxing for me. I eat when I am hungry, go to bed when I am tired.and sleeping alone is the best way to rest up. The only downside is sex is far and few between. I also prefer to have a connection with the gal to make sex more than just fucking.
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bipolybabe69 replies on 5/31/2016 4:23 pm:
If you owned a pussy(rather than a Big Hammer), you'd have access to more sex than you have time for.

And then if you want to get to know the person...well, that's downright impossible!

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