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Blogs > gymrat1974 > ManwranglerJen

My 17-year-old self still wishes she could have had him  

gymrat1974 49F  
1057 posts
8/31/2016 8:11 am
My 17-year-old self still wishes she could have had him

I have come to the conclusion, for the second time today-the first time when I made a grown man cry-that I am a horrible person. I realized that I often pity men more so than I do women. What kind of woman does that make me? At any rate, I discovered today that a teacher from my 's school, who had been charged with having a sexual relationship with a student, was sentenced to five years in prison. And to be honest, I felt sorry for him for that. Five years? But that's not really what raised my awareness of my condition. No, that occurred when my mentioned that she felt sorry for her friend, who is now reliving something that occurred two years ago, and I failed to even consider that until she said something. I honestly felt like she was in complete control of the situation. My feels bad that everyone knows who she is, but they only know because her friend made no secret of the fact that she was having a relationship of sorts with a teacher. And, no, maybe she didn't have the foresight to know what could happen because she was young, but that doesn't mean she didn't know she was playing with fire. When I was 17, the age the girl was when this happened, I'd have done just about anything to have one of my high school teachers. Trust me when I say that I was relentless in my pursuit of him. Teenage girls might not be old enough to give consent legally, but they do give consent and even take what they want on a regular basis. Nevertheless, he didn't go to prison for the actual relationship with her; he didn't go to prison for having sexual relations with a minor because she was 17, which is above the age of consent in Alabama. He ultimately went to prison for having pornographic images of her on his phone. And while I guess he should have known better at his ripe old age of 25, I'm pretty sure she actually did know better. She just didn't seem to care. Yes, he's going to prison; he ruined his life. He fucked up. And maybe she's embarrassed and ashamed for one reason or another, but there were men before him; there were men after him; and there will be plenty more men to come. Who can say that it was this teacher who damaged her psyche, if it is even damaged? Who's to say that there ever even is or was a lesson learned by anyone but a young man who will spend the rest of his life in one form of hell or another?

I suppose it wouldn't hurt to point out that I'm definitely not one of those who thinks boys will be boys. I'm certainly not that. In my opinion, the young man from Stanford, who got all but completely got away with attacking that young woman on<b> campus </font></b>can rot in jail for the rest of his life as far as I'm concerned. But this is different. That young woman was attacked in a most brutal fashion by a predatory animal. This is a matter of a young woman being of sound mind and body, choosing to share herself with another human being. And had they met under different circumstances, they might have embarked on a relationship that wouldn't have created any cause for concern.

1bighammer1000 59M
4304 posts
9/1/2016 9:36 am

 I have read up on some law, mostly dealing with constitional issues, your blog here raised a question for me. Dealing with age. I think the age of consent here in Missouri is 17. What determines age, if a person is 17 years and 1 month old are they older than 17? Or does the law consider under the age of 18 to be 17. I am a firm believer in the prosecutors and judges stretching the law in ways that it was not written. I believe this would be a possible violations of due process since the law would not be applied as it is written.
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gymrat1974 49F  
557 posts
9/1/2016 11:37 am

 I guess in this case, it's irrelevant. He wasn't charged/found guilty of anything but child pornography due to sharing photos via his phone. The FBI got involved because of those photos. But you are right. Laws affect people differently. Crime and punishment is clearly not the same to all.


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