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Something I Felt Needed to be Shared
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Something I Felt Needed to be Shared We are not actively seeking single men, mostly because we have found very few, with notable exceptions, that actually acted like gentlemen, but I found a profile of a single gentleman that had some sage advise on it, so I decided to pass it on, altered somewhat according to our experiences with single males and couples on this site. Besides, it is good advice for everyone  For the Single Gentlemen First and foremost single males are a dime a dozen on FriendFinder-x. If you are homo-phobic do not contact a couple. If you cannot perform with another man being present do not contact a couple. If your initial contact is 5 lines or less, chances are you will not get a response. In your initial contact, do not tell a couple what you want to do to the lady, instead tell them a little about yourself. Be respectful, humorous, and compliment them on the things on their profile that interested you. Be honest, remember you are hoping to meet them. When meeting, remember that you only have one person's schedule to plan around. A couple has themselves plus their 's schedule to think about, so be patient. Be discreet about meeting, but do not ask to meet in your car, or a parking lot, or on a street. Instead try a bar, restaurant, or coffee shop. Let them know that the only expectation you will have of them is meeting. Show up, show up, show up. If you are delayed or an emergency happens, notify them immediately. If you do not notify them, the only way you will get a second chance is if you have a death certificate. Upon meeting chances are you will be nervous, so will they. This is normal. To overcome this have a drink, be humorous talk about things other than the lifestyle. Once everyone is relaxed and comfortable try flirting. Do not ask for their address or where they work. They will tell you only if they want to. Make sure to engage hubby in your conversation. After all he is part of the experience and represents 50% of the decision. Ask them if they are interested then leave and go to the washroom or somewhere. This gives them time to discuss it privately as opposed to putting them on the spot. Always respect their decision and do not attempt to change their minds. If you are interested let them know and if everyone is interested suggest a possible location If/when you get an actual playdate, ask them for their do's, dont's, and maybe's. Inquire about what their fantasies with a single man are. Most times you will be required to make the first move to get the action started. Try standing behind the lady rubbing her arms and caressing her neck. Remember you are there to compliment hubby in pleasuring the lady--not to compete with him. For hubby it is a celebration of his security with his lady. You are not there because he needs help. Never assume that you can do everything to the lady that the husband does to her. Do not try and convince them that they should try something if they already told you no (eg anal). Bring your own condoms, latex free, just to be safe. Try your best to not climax before the lady. If you are enjoying it let hubby know how lucky he is to have such a lady (but not to the point that it is annoying, he is aware how lucky he is) If hubby wants to watch or participate respect his decision. Try your best to sense what really turns them on and focus on that. When playtime is over, and if you have had a good time, let them know if they would like to get together again for them to contact you. This leaves the ball in their court and prevents them feeling that you are clingy. It also gives them a graceful out and reassures that you are not trying to become a part of their lives uninvited. Never,ever, ask the lady to meet you alone, behind hubby's back. Remember the lady may have had sex with you, but it is hubby she wants to wake up to. Let them know that if you see them in public with their friends that you will make eye contact, but will never approach them. This will prevent placing them in an awkward situation with their friends. They can approach you. Ask them before you write a testimonial, even if it is only to vouch for their character so that others will know that they are real and not game players. Do not be offended if they say no. Some people like to keep their activities private. Finally remember the first advice--We are a dime a dozen. ETIQUETTE FOR COUPLES: Couples: We know we are a dime a dozen, but that does not mean that we will sit around waiting for you to respond indefinitely. We have to pursue other options until someone is committed to meeting us. If we contact you on Monday for a Saturday meeting, and we have received no response by Wednesday, even though you have been online, then we will contact others. If we contact someone and they have committed to meeting us and then you contact us on Friday saying that you want to meet on Saturday, do not be offended if we tell you that we have committments that we have to honour. If we contact you very respectfully and politely (If your profile says that you are looking for men) and you do not respond at all (even if it is a polite "no thank you, we are not interested") then we are left to believe that: (A) You were raised by wolves and have no manners (b) You are a lazy person--too lazy to respond, or (C) You are game players. If you possess any of these qualities then we do not want to waste our time pursuing you. If you are not interested, a quick, polite reply would suffice. We then add your handle to the Block list so that we will not bother you again. Believe me we will respect you more for that. If you are interested but cannot committ to meeting on a certain day, then please say so and we will understand and perhaps try and work around your schedule. Think of it like being at a dance and you have asked someone to dance. How would you feel if they just ignored you and did not respond? It is simple courtesy folks. You advertised yourselves as wanting attention from us and we are responding respectfully to your ad. If you were a business and you did not respond to a customer, then you cannot blame that person for going elsewhere. When contacting us, do so the way you would like to be contacted. Do not contact us if it is just hubby who wants to see his wife with another man. It has to be 100% from both. Let us know your schedule so that we can work around it. Let us know beforehand if you want to take pictures. Do not bring out a camera in the middle of playing and start taking pics. If we meet at a bar/restaurant and you know that there is absolutely no chemistry tell us immediately. Believe me we will appreciate it and respect you even more. I am writing this because I think it is important that we all look at it from everyone's perspective, that way meeting can be more rewarding. Couples, once again we know we are a dime a dozen, but then again so are you when you try and pursue that elusive single woman. Treat us the way you would like that single woman to treat you This was obviously written by a single gentleman with some experience in the LS, and from his perspective, but I agree with all of it (obviously, or I wouldn't have shared it LOL  ) FYI for all the interested single gentlemen, when we are ready to bring a single gentleman into our playtime, this is the behaviour we would expect from you, and us
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"Think of it like being at a dance and you have asked someone to dance." A good metaphor to describe the situation, and yes, manners are very important. Thanks for re-sharing Drop in and visit my blog sometime, but you'll probably regret it
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5/7/2016 6:39 am |
That's great advice, even thou I am not looking for a couple...It has crossed My mind at times.. You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!
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Sage advice indeed, a gentleman should use that advice no matter who he is hoping to meet. Even us women wish they had more than a line or two for an initial contact email.
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5/7/2016 11:01 am |
interesting ideas / opinions
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