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One Night Stand: Should you or shouldn’t
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One Night Stand: Should you or shouldn’t Like everyone, sex can slide down my list of priorities without me even realizing. I may effervess with lust, but inside I’m the sexual equivalent of daddy-long-legs that's had its legs pulled off. So you'll excuse me for brushing out the cobwebs accumulating in my mojo with a phallic feather duster from time to time. They sound like fun, and often are (but sometimes aren't). Do they really work? Is there anything called as One Night Stand (ONS)? How did people get hooked up without knowing anything about each other? I being a guy, Accidentally had a chance like this. It was only about kissing &<b> petting </font></b>& nothing much more than that. So I wonder does ONS really exist. As far as I have tried to understand a woman’s psychology, no matter how high she is, for sure, she is not going to open her legs for a stranger. Also on the other hand, guys, what do you think of a ONS? I, based on my mentality & knowledge of ONS have tried to put up some points here as best as I can: The Good Sides: THE excitement: Every one night stand is a first time, with all the excitement. You are seeing the person naked for the first time, you are exploring their body, every touch tingles. The lack of restraint: It is all about sex and fun. You are both eager and in the mood for an adventure. And it is much easier to live out your fantasies. It doesn’t really matter what the other thinks about you and your sexual appetite next day – you will be gone by then and probably never see them again. But do Men (I mean Gentlemen) want any of the above mentioned? I don’t think so? No matter how much ever the excitement be, a guy will not always prefer sex on the first date. I mean kissing &<b> petting </font></b>is ok, but SEX on the first date? What goes on in a Man’s mind regarding ONS: 1. Sex on a first date isn't a longevity plan though 2. If someone slept with me or wanted to sleep with me on a first date I would wonder if either they sleep around quite a bit or they're only interested in the physical aspect of a relationship 3. Sex on the first date/one night stands imply short term fun, not long term trust. The Bad Side: Nothing ruins the fun of a no-strings-attached rendezvous quite like your friends reminding you of all of the ways you could have been killed by the stranger in front of whom you just got naked. Nothing except feelings, that is. Bad aftertaste: Some people are hit by a bad conscience next day for having cheated on their steady partner. Others got the horrors when they wake up next morning, lying beside somebody they would never have gone near had they been in their right senses the night before. So if you have any of the above Good or Bad sides, then think again about the ONS. On the flip side, the ONS is becoming too common these days with the gap between puberty and marriage gets even wider, we're increasingly turning to casual encounters as a way to express and satisfy our sexuality. But again, note here that you are having a ONS with your buddy & not some stranger. Of all the ladies that I have met on a dating site, when asked for a ONS they were reluctant, where as their own profiles said that they prefer ONS. So what actually is a ONS? But I think a one night stand or casual sex is exactly as acceptable as you are comfortable with. That means if you're having fun and being safe, go for it. If it doesn't feel right to you, then don't do it. The same should go for guys So if any of you, the few, want to try out the ONS here are some Good & the Bad of it: Good/Better sides of ONS: No Emotional Involvement: One night stands are not always bad, in fact, you can learn a lot about yourself from them. If you are just looking for a night to not be yourself and not be emotionally involved, this is it! Not Awkward: How is this possible? Yes, it can be, what’s the harm when you don’t know & also don’t want to know who he / she is? Not only can you just have sex, but you don't even have to stay the entire night if you don't want to. Mind Blowing Sex: Well actually it might not be, but the thrill involved in it is for sure going you to give the Kicks that you wanted to have. Perhaps & probably this is might be your best ever sex had in recent times…. Ego Boost: It lifts your self-esteem as the person whom you are with, might have wanted to be with somebody & pulled him / her to you. What more confidence do you want??? Feeling Liberated: ONS can actually make you feel liberated after a hard days work or if you had a bad relationship or have been strapped to a Long lasting relationship for quite a long time & you want to have yourself set free for a moment at least. The Bad Sides: (CAUTION & PRECAUTION): Sexually Transmitted Diseases: Be very careful & use all the protection that you might need from all the angels. Restrict your Oral sex, penetration without a Good Condom is a strict NO Potential to Become Attached: You have had ONS with him / her, and suddenly the next day you start to feel that you have soft corner towards him / her. Usually this happens if it is the first sex or the first Best sex for him / her. Keep calm, you just wanted to have a fling, you had it & now chuck it. No hard or soft feelings. Never get attached to it. They Don’t Know You: This can be a good or bad thing. As the person you are with, really don’t know you & does not care for you. He / She does not know your fears, your emotions, your turn on’s as well as your turn off’s. Be careful to not to blurt out your very personal feelings. Habit: Sometimes, this cultivates to become a habit. Beware & be careful. Don’t make this as your habit as it can ruin your entire life. This habit is very hard to maintain & very difficult to handle. Potential to see them Again: How many of you, reading my blog, see the soap Sex & The City & remember Samantha from it. Yes, she is the character who bumps in with all those handsome guys she had ONS with and You are not the one to stop seeing them, especially if they are from the same city. Just you had ONS with the person does not mean that he/she should fade away from the surface of the earth. The chances of you bumping into them again & again increases if you make this as your habit. So stay away & let it get into your veins. Hope you liked this blog too as you liked the other one. Any suggestions, feedback are most welcome. Thanks for sparing your valuable time in reading my blog. Please go through my profile & if interested lets Hit IT. |
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