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Blogs > secret_lade > Ramblings of the depraved.....

The Ex  

secret_lade 49F
14359 posts
12/19/2019 4:12 pm
The Ex

My gets off the bus every day at my Ex-husband's house, which means, every day I have see him when I pick her up after work.

Most of the time it's not a big deal.

He's an asshole, I'm a bitch, we discuss anything that needs be discussed in regard holidays, birthdays, and weekend plans. Then she and I are on our way.

I know it seems like a bad situation, but for her, it's ideal. She gets see her dad every day.

Then there are days like today....

He'd had a few beers by the time I got there to pick her up.

She was sitting at the counter and he was teasing her about being skinny, telling her she wouldn't be cold if she put a little 'meat on her bones'.

She replied back, stating she couldn't help it that she had a metabolism.

His response?

"You should have seen your mom when she was your age. She was JUST like you. Now at her."

What an asshole, I wanted punch him in the nose.

"Thanks for calling me fat. That was fantastic."

"You will always beautiful me."

Ok..... That was unexpected.

He then told me how he was craving little debbie snacks the night before and decided to make brownies. He cut a piece of brownie and held it me asking if I wanted try it.

"You JUST called me fat and now your feeding me brownies."

What the heck is going on here?!?

I ate the brownie, and dammit, the thing tasted amazing. I wanted it be terrible and dry, but it wasn't.

"That's pretty good."

"You'll never guess when the expiration date was. August 20."

Good lord....

He ended up sending me home with the last brownie, expired or not, it still tasted good.

We were on the way home when my told me that she and her dad had been having a conversation a while ago and he told her he still loved me.

I was quiet for a minute, not quite sure what to say. There are parts of him that I do still love, myself. The problem is, so much of him has changed as a result of his acoholism.....

And that outweighs everything.

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 11:44 pm
    Quoting easy_going2014:
    thanks for sharing this one

    alcohol and substance abuse are permanent life issues that have to be managed

    good luck
You're right, and he's been this way for a long time. I gave him the chance to quit drinking when I first left him. I'm not the one who filed for divorce, it was actually him. I told him I wouldn't come back home until he started working on things.... He chose to find a girlfriend and file for divorce.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 11:34 pm
    Quoting mc_justmc:
    dammit! I thought this was gonna have a happy ending.
No, not today. Sorry


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 11:33 pm
    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    The date could have been July!! Glad it was not harmful , I wish you luck, sometimes time will repair this but it takes a lot of work..
No amount of time can repair this.... I'm sorry to say.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 11:30 pm
    Quoting positively4you:
    A father who ridicules his daughter’s appearance is just setting her up for problems. Shame on him. Dads are to be supportive, not derivise.
He wasn't intending for it to be a negative thing, he was teasing. But, you're right. My grandpa used to call me Olive Oil when I was growing up, I always felt awkward about being thin. Definitely not my issue anymore....


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 11:25 pm
    Quoting h4rry66:
    One should always work acts relationship even after its broken down to see if it could be mended. So he lied about making the brownies? Otherwise they wouldn't have an expiry date.
I'm pretty sure the box of brownie mix was expired. He doesn't normally lie about things.


donjuanamigo 54F

12/19/2019 9:42 pm

 BEST regards


h4rry66 57M

12/19/2019 9:30 pm

 One should always work acts relationship even after its broken down to see if it could be mended. So he lied about making the brownies? Otherwise they wouldn't have an expiry date.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
12/19/2019 7:39 pm

 THAT, is true.
There is NO, 'erase button' , that does a complete job. If there was...
I understand.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
12/19/2019 7:13 pm

 A father who ridicules his daughter’s appearance is just setting her up for problems. Shame on him. Dads are to be supportive, not derivise.


lonlyforlove2 81M  
32704 posts
12/19/2019 7:09 pm

 The date could have been July!! Glad it was not harmful , I wish you luck, sometimes time will repair this but it takes a lot of work..
Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


easy_going2014 57M
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14366 posts
12/19/2019 6:31 pm

 thanks for sharing this one

alcohol and substance abuse are permanent life issues that have to be managed

good luck
To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog:

Good luck!!!


mc_justmc 63M

12/19/2019 5:53 pm

 dammit! I thought this was gonna have a happy ending.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 5:49 pm
    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Wow... Yep. I can relate to so many layers of this little slice.
    It does, outweigh everything, doesn't it? 🤔
    IF... is a big word.
    How big is it... for you?
We've been divorced for 7 years now... A lot had happened in that time. Some things just can't be taken back or forgotten about.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
12/19/2019 5:30 pm

 Wow... Yep. I can relate to so many layers of this little slice.
It does, outweigh everything, doesn't it? 🤔
IF... is a big word.
How big is it... for you?


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
12/19/2019 5:28 pm

 Expiration Date August 2015!


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