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Messages don't matter re-upload  

CeriosEros 39M
616 posts
7/19/2017 1:33 pm

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7/24/2017 12:51 am

Messages don't matter re-upload


I've read a lot of blog post recently that were about how guys send messages like horny six year olds. Like they're lucky to get a coherent sentence not to mention the sexist and or disrespectful ones. Which is horrible. Those guys should thrown into a pit with hungry alligators before their stupidity infects the rest of humanity.

Although after those thoughts subsided another thought took its place. What is a good message? So I asked the members of blog land most ignored me but thanks to pleasure_kitten for answering my query. She basically told me what I already knew. That a great message consists of a line or two that is in a profile that you elaborate on. I'm paraphrasing of course. Which I've always done in my messages sans two which I phoned in but there lies the inconsistency and inconsistencies bug me.

If I've been sending good messages this whole time, why haven't I been getting responses? I've sent hundreds of good messages you would think I would get at least 10 non auto replies. Off the subject auto replies should be banned. Auto replies just give you false hope. It's like if you jumped out of a burning building and just when you are about to accept your fate superman swoops in just to fly into the air to drop you from a higher. It's "Yes, that cute girl responded" to "Okay, no she didn't" Then you try to hide the fact you got your hopes and and now you're disappointed.

Back to my original point. Let me give you a example of my messages. About a year and a half ago I found my dream girl. She was thick ( for those who aren't familiar with hip-hop that means a girl is<b> overweight </font></b>but curvy with big tits and a spectacular ass) which like, wore glasses and was really dorky. She mentioned that her passion was the local roller derby team which she was a member. So of course I crafted my message toward her passion project. It helped that I was a supporter of the team not really a fan of the sport but I donated money to the Detroit derby girls and followed the team's progress in big tournaments. I forget what I said exactly but the team had won a national tournament and I suggested that I take her out to celebrate. Fucking crickets. That one stung but you move on.

But the inconsistency is still there and then it hit me. I'm not attractive enough! I'm not passing the first round of judgment. Let's face it women get a lot of messages per day. They need a way to filter out the guys. It should be obvious that the oned they find physically attractive would make the first cut. It's first "Would I fuck him?" Then "Can he read?" That's why women need up reading this one word messages and why they get so mad when they're rejected. These messages are sent from pretty boys who never had to try hard or develop a personality to get a women to have sex with them. Finally I have solved the inconsistency. It's not because they don't like who I am as a person. It's because I'm a ugly of a bitch. I feel so much better! Ok , let's go get some ice cream.

CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/19/2017 1:34 pm

This can also include my age, race, job or any other personal preference. With so many choices women don't have to settle on these things in a one way commutation.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/19/2017 1:40 pm

The first time this got taken down for hate speech because FriendFinder-x doesn't understand context. This is the exact same thing except with mass murder taken out


Cuddly_Kitten 54F
6354 posts
7/19/2017 2:22 pm

You are too hard on yourself... I personally think you are attractive.... Boom... I said it!!!!

THANK YOU GUYS FOR FOLLOWING MY BLOG


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
7/19/2017 4:26 pm

Was the roller derby girl during your cocky and vague profile phase?

Personally it's the profile that's the make it or break it for me... an initial email that says something along the lines of "Hi, I read through your profile and believe that I fit what you're looking for. Check my profile out and let me know if you're interested in talking more. " is usually all that it takes if it's indeed true that he fits what I'm looking for. (I'll respond to that message either way however, it's polite so I'll be polite even in declining.) A man's profile is how I "judge" potential meets and if he has a joke profile or a song-lyrics profile or a blank one, I'm usually not interested in trying to draw him out. I want to see what he has to offer and what he's looking for and I'd like to see it represented in an intelligent manner.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/19/2017 6:56 pm

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That's interesting, guys just send crazy messages to get a response. I didn't know that.

I can't give you a example of a message verbatim because the way FriendFinder-x's system is set up you only get to see what you wrote after you sent it until you get a response and I've only gotten auto replies which I delete right away because fuck those things. As for the ones that I received and I wasn't the first to message I've only received 5. Two from guys which I respectful declined. One from a girl who wanted to tell me to not be so hard on myself. One from a group that wants me to join and you're message to ask if I got the points you sent. I pretty much given up on sending messages. I haven't sent one in months but I kept seeing complaints about them and decided to have a autopsy of my failure.

Yes I followed up with people in the beginning but then I started to feel like a stalker so I followed up only with the special ons then I stopped all together.

You're probably right. I changed my profile so many times. First it was just honest, then I tried lying to make myself seem been, then I started to treat it as a joke, now I'm back to honest. Maybe I'm just not good enough.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/19/2017 7:50 pm

    Quoting Cuddly_Kitten:
    You are too hard on yourself... I personally think you are attractive.... Boom... I said it!!!!
Thank you but I wish I was in your league you genetically blessed so and so.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/19/2017 7:54 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    Was the roller derby girl during your cocky and vague profile phase?

    Personally it's the profile that's the make it or break it for me... an initial email that says something along the lines of "Hi, I read through your profile and believe that I fit what you're looking for. Check my profile out and let me know if you're interested in talking more. " is usually all that it takes if it's indeed true that he fits what I'm looking for. (I'll respond to that message either way however, it's polite so I'll be polite even in declining.) A man's profile is how I "judge" potential meets and if he has a joke profile or a song-lyrics profile or a blank one, I'm usually not interested in trying to draw him out. I want to see what he has to offer and what he's looking for and I'd like to see it represented in an intelligent manner.
No I wasn't in my vague, cocky phase. I was much more honest back then.

My humor probably turned a lot of people off but with no feedback I can't figure out what I did wrong.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/19/2017 7:55 pm

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I think you're dead on.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/20/2017 12:18 am

    Quoting  :

This was the last message that I sent.

Hi AllyMc5S's I read your profile and I see you're a relationship girl. I can respect that. I'm great at dating. I do this thing where I...well you have to find that out for yourself. Let's just say be prepared for wooing. One problem I had with your profile. You can't just put it out there that you're great in bed and have nothing to back it up with. Your just begging for a naked showdown. Lol. I hope to here from you soon.


CeriosEros 39M
642 posts
7/20/2017 12:27 am

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This is the second to last one.

Hi awkward azula. LOVE the username by the way. I'm a big fan of avatar and I caught the reference. One thing I didn't love about you're profile is there's not much there. I know about you is like me you're looking to gain some sexual experience and so am I. We have that in common but what else. I decided to ask you about yourself directly. So...tell me about yourself. I experience and you're a awkward fire bending prodigy.


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