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So damn good I bring out the guilt in people??
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So damn good I bring out the guilt in people?? Sorry, feeling the need to vent so I’ll post a story later to make up for it. Every once in a while it hits me…just how much the dating world sucks. My generation will probably agree that dating has taken on new meaning over the years. Dating was once considered one of three options – you were either in a relationship (we will call that committed) or dating (which was going out and hooking up but not making it official in any way) and then there was fucking (which just meant if you were a girl, you were a slut lol). Nowadays it is down to two options – committed, which just means you are in an official relationship and whether or not you choose to be faithful doesn’t factor into it – or you are fucking, which has also been deemed as FWB. FWB is a less vulgar term but I am petitioning to have it changed to what it really is – BR which stands for Benefits Reaper. Guys aren’t looking to be your friend lol. So being that I am a nympho and totally addicted to sex, I figured I could adapt to the new ways of the dating world and I have been managing so far. My attitude with it all is more of a guy attitude. If you call me for a booty call, come over, let’s do it, then get the fuck out. Don’t hang around all day and don’t expect to cuddle. Understand the concept of a booty call. I am a tough independent woman and I know what I want, what I like, etc. I tell it like it is, I hide nothing, and I guess my downfall is that I expect that from others. So as much as I would like to say I can play this game, I still really suck at it. I guess a huge gripe I have is don’t cyber sweet talk me to try to fuck me…I’m on this site for the same reason you are. What that means is if I say we are going to fuck then I mean it. You don’t have to message me all day and night on how you can’t wait to be with me and how you will rock my world by spending hours pleasuring me because that’s the kind of guy you are. I already know that according to you, you can go for hours and multiple times….blah, blah, blah. Then we hook up. I get told things like “Oh my God you are amazing”, “This is by far the best sex I ever had” and then it comes….”You wore me out Babe” and “Once I cum two or three times, I’m done”. So the timeframe you gave me that we would be together ends up being shorter. So don’t take the day off of work and promise to rock my world and take care of me for 8 hours and brag about how you can’t wait for those 8 hours when after 2 or 3 hours, you’re done and out the door. See, there is a difference between a booty call and your promises. I always always give the guy the opportunity to leave before anything starts. I’m not out to catfish anyone so if you walk in and I am not what you expected or what you want, I hold the door open and you can walk back out. But no one has yet. And I know it’s not that the sex is bad. And if that is the case, don’t over exaggerate your lies. Just simply say “yeah, it was good, I liked it.” And then a lot of the times, factoring into all of this is the fact that you either have a girlfriend or are married. That is your problem, not mine so I make it pretty clear that it’s just sex with us and I wouldn’t do anything to interfere with your decision to keep it that way. I guess what is really frustrating me right now and what I don’t understand is why a guy would turn around and use the girlfriend as a way to say it was a mistake. I am not a stupid girl. If I am the second girl you hooked up with and you are still online all the time, why do you expect me to believe that you are no longer going to be a because the guilt is killing you? At what point did you realize this? Was it when you said you wish you had this at home – which was right after you said this was by far the best sex you ever had? And then men wonder why women are fucked up. If you don’t want to hook up again because maybe you didn’t really like me or you thought it sucked then since there is nothing between us – just be honest with me. Don’t play the girlfriend card. As tough as I am or claim to be, sometimes it just sucks! If you made it through to the end of my rant – Thanks! |
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Women are fucked up because men are fucked up. They (we) can't be honest with themselves, much less you. I suspect you are fine, they just aren't as liberated as you and can't separate sex (fucking) from a perceived need for associated emotion. So just use 'em and cast them away like an empty bottle of wine. If you let it bug you, you might get distracted or not know how to react if a better one comes along.
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I'm sure you have more experience than I, but I do want people who read this blog to have at least one anecdotal counterpoint. You said: "FWB is a less vulgar term but I am petitioning to have it changed to what it really is – BR which stands for Benefits Reaper. Guys aren’t looking to be your friend lol." The FWB I met via Ashley Madison (per another comment) at one point had a terrible bout of medical luck, eventually landing her in the hospital. I visited when I could, brought her better coffee, better food, and just talked to her. So not all guys are just in it for the sex. As I mentioned in my other comment, it was a beautiful friendship, even aside from our sexual compatibility. So there really are unicorns, but you have to be a complete slut (not a virgin!  ) and have some optimism about humanity to find them.Nothing changes faster than the speed of love. - Rush
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