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Starting Out  

Shesforsharing 62M/46F
6 posts
11/2/2016 2:00 pm
Starting Out
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Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
11/2/2016 4:17 pm

 Welcome to blog land!


Icould 65M
3988 posts
11/2/2016 4:27 pm

 be polit...be as friendly as you can ...but tell the truth. In the end it is pretty much always the best way.
There you go
That's all and none of it tragic.


boobwhisperer69 61M  
8322 posts
11/2/2016 6:15 pm

 I think we all want honesty!


Shesforsharing 62M/46F

11/7/2016 6:50 am

 So what we are saying is that those of us that have commented, we'd all prefer to be told directly and to tell anyone we meet / talk to the truth if we are just not attracted. Well I think that's really honourable but, it might indicate why so few have commented on this blog compared with the amount that have read it. Can we take it that the"others" are not inclined in the same way?


erandim2 65M/62F  
3 posts
6/29/2017 8:08 am

 We've tried most ways.
1) Been polite and honest- most times led to abuse!
2) Ignored the photo being sent- most times led to abuse!
3) Told them they weren't our type- led to abuse!

This is a personal site and obviously being told you aren't attractive by someone , people have a tendency to take it personally.
You can say more diplomatic things like " I don't think we match," or " There isn't chemistry", but it still boils down to how the other couple decides to take it.
There isn't an easy way to tell someone... if you care about hurting someone's feelings and you are genuinely nice people.
Sometimes, just saying you'd like to meet sometime and never do, is all it takes! x
Otherwise just be honest and realise you are highly unlikely to meet again so tell the 'tactful' truth!
Be careful you don't meet up in a club somewhere later though as we've done! lol


Shesforsharing replies on 6/29/2017 5:31 pm:
It is difficult, we believe that yes rejection is hard but honesty is the best policy. If it leads to abuse there is always the block option, and as you say you're unlikely to ever bump into each other.

up4fun751 54M  
44 posts
6/17/2018 3:52 am

 I would much rather here "thanks but no thanks" than be left hanging & wondering. We're all different & like different things/people. If someone says no thanks I tend to reply with "no worries & have fun" & move on. What's the point in sending abuse to someone? What a waste of time!


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