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Idle minds  

guy_smiley37 42M  
3 posts
2/22/2018 1:15 am
Idle minds


You know the feeling when you start to feel bored and restless? Like there's nothing that you really want to do but know you need to do something? I get that feeling fairly regularly. It also seems to usually happen later at night. You know, at the time of day when are in bed and getting out of the house is out of the question. So what's a guy to do? I've been attempting to use FriendFinder-x's chat/IM...... I'll just leave that at that. Though the whole idea of reaching out to a total stranger armed with nothing more than "small talk" is brutal for me. I'm a fairly introverted type. I enjoy being social and even meeting people and talking to new folks.... but I usually have a wingman of somesort to take point. I'm perfectly capable and usually comfortable enough on my own soon enough. It's just that initial point of contact that is a lost art to me.
Online chat is like that for me.
It's a big room, full of no one I know (faces I may recognize), people I'd love to talk to, and really no idea how to find the middle ground between "hey" and wielding my whole vocabulary like a war hammer. Sputtering unintelligence or over-the-top, untampered, weapons grade superlatives and flagrant adjective abuse! Take your pick lol.
Part of the issue for me is identifying what he hell it even is I'm looking for. Being driven by boredom is entirely directionless.
FriendFinder-x; where many folks are looking for leads on sex or exhibitionists just wanting an audience or whatever it is that everyone else is interested in, I picture as a (very) strange bar. A weird establishment where I find myself alone in, attempting to strike up a conversation with the attractive lady sitting alone at the bar, with no direction. No plan. No opener. No headline... and not really any interest in a new hook-up or FWB or anything of the sort. *admittedly, I'm actually pretty happy with what I have right now.* I'm well aware that I'm a bit of a weirdo, and I'm quite ok with that. But given the sheer volume of other (often bad and creepy) weirdos around that all you ladies have to sift through, I'm an easy one to get lost in the shuffle. I'm a big boy, and not upset at anyone or feel particularly slighted or anything. It's simply the way it is. lol I just remembered an old friend of mine. This was the BEST opener! His opening game was strong, but was terrible after that.... he went home alone a lot. He would have women eating out of his hand for about 15-20 mins, then it all fell apart for him.... terrible closer. I'm nearly the opposite. I'm praying that I can last through the first few mins of conversation lmao.
And the mind starts to wander further.
Writing is fun like that. You can open with a completely absurd statement, a total non-sequitur, and it'll be ok. There's no social aspects to mind. Nothing but a few blots of ink to seize the readers interest. HEADLINES! TITLES! BOLD FONTS! after that is the easy part (for me). All the writer has to do is write with a little meandering pace that doesn't stray too far, too fast, and the reader will follow that little babbling brook to its final destination... Wherever that may be.

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