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Some Thoughts About When I Converse with Couples
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Some Thoughts About When I Converse with Couples Getting straight to it, I outright do not believe you are a couple. You’re a married guy looking for a little action on the side. How do I know this? Because she is NEVER around. I have yet to speak to her. She’s always mysteriously away. She’s always at work. Always tired. Always sleeping. Always an excuse. So much so, that it is clear that if we were to ever agree to meet, I’m 100% certain you’ll find a convenient excuse as to why she can’t make it. In other words … you are not a couple. Maybe I’m way off base here, but there’s just NO WAY that if my husband and I wanted to spice up our sex lives in this way that I’d just leave it all to him and be a disinterested party. That just doesn’t pass the smell test. So this begs the question, if you really are a couple, how do you approach women? I can’t say this is universal, but these are my rules based on my experiences here (nearly all bad experiences). The woman MUST be the one who does the initiating If I see a couples profile pop up on my IM, see a woman’s pic next to it, you open by telling me your a couple … well … then … I’m expecting you to be a couple. I don’t know how that’s confusing to all you couples out there. It is entirely inappropriate to wait a dozen lines into the conversation you reveal you’re all by yourself at the moment. At this point, I’m feeling taken advantage of. The basis for my decision to talk to you has been taken away from me. It is manipulative. Please, save the excuses, you know there is no justification for this. Ditch the couple’s profile if the woman is not in the mix You’re just a guy. No matter what permissions you may have, this isn’t some unique situation. There are more than enough<b> open relationships </font></b>out there, especially on this site. This does not require a couple’s profile. Make a profile for a guy, and put Married in the box for Relationship Status. You’re going to do that because that’s what you are. Excuses in this regard come across as lame. It takes 10 seconds to create an account that accurately represents who you are. Even if you are an actual couple, you’re not some magical unicorn I don’t know if real couples are actually doing this or not, but the fake ones sure are … but please don’t think I’m so enthralled by the prospect of having a threesome with you that you’re somehow the shit. You’re not. Nearly every couple seems to think I’m frothing at the mouth wanting to meet them despite their dull and thoroughly uninspiring conversations. Same rules apply as for single people, if you’re dull and uninteresting online, I’m going to find you dull and uninteresting offline. Why would being a couple exempt you from that? You still need to have an interesting conversation to get me interested. Personally, just speculation here, but I think this is why so many solo guys are using couple’s profiles. They think it magically frees them from the constraints of social norms that apply to everyone else. They think I’m so interested in this rare offer that I will overlook lame conversation and any notion that we may not even be compatible. I’m not into couples. Despite how threesomes look in porn, they always struck me as awkward in reality. However, every once in a while some couple will message me and try to change my mind. Depending on my mood, I may give you a shot and converse with you. However, so many of you are solo guys that it often isn’t worth my time. These are all the issues that are dead give-aways that you’re not for real. |
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My husband and I tend to share the responsibility of reaching out to other couples, however I prefer to take the lead when it comes to reaching out to the single ladies. Why? Because if the two ladies don't get to know each other, the threesome would never work. There has to be chemistry or else it falls flat. Getting back to when we contact other couples, I will reach out to the female half and strike up a conversation. We will also voice verify over the phone with all four involved in the conversation. If that doesn't happen, the meet doesn't happen. We've had our time wasted more than a few times by dudes pretending they have a wife. It's truly frustrating.
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I used to be amazed at the number of "couples" where I never hear from the woman. The guy claims he makes the arrangements for them. Now why would I, a straight man, want to hook up with a couple where the woman has no say. Always comes off at he is the one who wants sex and maybe no she at all. IF, I was to join up with a couple she would have to be the one to ask me. You did nail the important points and Couples profiles are not used by guys looking for women. BTW I think that threesomes can be a great fantasy but like you I think they would be awkward and certainly not as good as the fantasy implies. If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well. 
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Just a rant about all these "couples" who try to approach me when I know from the beginning they're a solo guy.
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