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pleasuresuckn4u 58M
51 posts
2/7/2020 10:01 am
Who else?


A question I ask myself frequently when on this site is … Do others on here think desperation is more than a little pathetic?. Admittedly so,I see it more often in the men on here. Constantly asking friend requests and stroking peoples egos. Realistically how is it even remotely possible to meet someone who's 2500 klms away? Or,hey I'll be in your area in a month?,wanna hook up LOL. Sure! I'll jump right on that immediately!!!. Also when posting on here words go MIA. Happy Friday Peace Cheers.

pleasuresuckn4u 58M

2/7/2020 10:07 am

I seriously can't be the only one to think this?,can I ???


stilshoots 77M
41 posts
2/7/2020 10:21 am

I constantly get " Flirts" ,views and "Hot Listing " from 20-30 yr from hundreds o miles away ????


pleasuresuckn4u replies on 2/7/2020 9:36 pm:
Yes,I think everyone does too. Guess were all that damn attractive huh! Cheers.

superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
2/7/2020 10:23 am

I wonder in a similar way, every time I get an email …. Is he desperate or hoping I am?

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


pleasuresuckn4u replies on 2/7/2020 9:37 pm:
Yes .. > Nah,were all that damn good looking ! Cheers

Hawkfan533333 34M
688 posts
2/7/2020 10:44 am

I agree with you, and some of the men on here make us look bad as a whole.

Feel free to message my private mailbox


pleasuresuckn4u replies on 2/7/2020 9:38 pm:
Well I was actually meaning both genders but see it more so in the men on this site. Bruin Fan here LOL Cheers!

Hawkfan533333 34M
688 posts
2/7/2020 11:02 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I wonder in a similar way, every time I get an email …. Is he desperate or hoping I am?
A lot of guys on here are hoping the women they message are desperate, and with a few messages, you will be jumping in your car rushing over for to get with them, and if you dnt respond to there irresistible dick pics, and well thought out messages, its obviously you that's the problem.

Feel free to message my private mailbox


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/7/2020 12:11 pm

Do others on here think desperation is more than a little pathetic?. ....Well the definition of "Desperation" is a state of despair, typically one which results in rash or extreme behavior.

And the definition of "Pathetic" states: arousing pity, especially through vulnerability or sadness.

Admittedly so,I see it more often in the men on here. ... You do? You recognize them trying to get some action, on clearly a site to find action, as desperate? I don't.


asking friend requests .... That's not pathetic, not desperate. The site provides this to be used. Nothing about that is saying , if you send a friend request, you're desperate and pathetic.

and stroking peoples egos. .... How so? Like if a rolypoly [aka fat] woman says this is curvy, and guys agree with that? Yes, that's desperate and pathetic. ... Or like complimenting someone on their looks.... "You're so hot"... yes, that is desperate and pathetic.

Realistically how is it even remotely possible to meet someone who's 2500 klms away?......It's possible, but it's not reasonable. Reaching out to someone, that far away, to be on someones friends list , is not "Pathetic"... I'd say , "Weird".

Or,hey I'll be in your area in a month?,wanna hook up ... .That is not pathetic nor desperate, either. Mind you , this is a hookup site. You invite someone, you found on here, to do that, you're really inviting them to a meeting. That's a "Duh" situation. Whether anything would happen from that meeting is unknown.

And really, it's reasonable. Both have profiles on a hookup site, so that means they both understand that they could be invited to hookup for a one night stand. All you have to say, is , "Yes" or "No", or nothing at all.

LOL. Sure! I'll jump right on that immediately!!!. .... Why not? You're showing off your penis. You are saying you're open for whatever..... Surely you should understand that kind of invitation is not "Pathetic", but very "Reasonable".


pleasuresuckn4u replies on 2/7/2020 9:17 pm:
Hey thanks for trying to use your words for what I was trying to convey,awesome effort. swing and a miss though. Cheers.

Rochblue 46F

2/7/2020 12:55 pm

Heathen_G, I disagree with your comment.
"Admittedly so,I see it more often in the men on here. ... You do? You recognize them trying to get some action, on clearly a site to find action, as desperate? I don't."

That's where you're wrong. It's not clearly ONLY a site to find action. This site is a place for all kinds of activity, both designed for in-person meets, as well as online only things. The only thing that's "clear" about that is what the very corporate page of this site describes itself. Let's be honest here, 700+ million people on this and the Friend Finder network are not all here solely to "find action". In fact, what I have found is that the vast majority of real and legitimate females on here are only on the site without intent to meet. For the ones who are, most are completely flaky and could care less to follow through with anything with this 'back burner' level of priority.
The guys are trying to find action on a site that's designed for multiple purposes (which most don't understand that fact to begin with) and then they get desperate when it sinks in eventually that next to no real women exist on here (for good reason), almost none care or bother to chat with men (for good reason) and next to none have any desire whatsoever to meet men at all, especially for sex (for good reason). Guys have the wrong mentality of what this site is to begin with, which is 90% of the problem from the start. It's not solely a 'sex site'....the site is designed for a wide range of different people who all seek a wide range of different things for both online and/or offline purposes. I think if men would first comprehend that simple fact alone, then this site would be in much better shape to begin with.


pleasuresuckn4u replies on 2/7/2020 9:21 pm:
Thank you for responding,you put it into perspective much better than I could have! Cheers.

Rochblue 46F

2/7/2020 1:01 pm

Koffla, nicely put!
"We all get them! They are planted by the site to entice men to continue spending their money"

Absolutely true! This site is nothing more than a profit generating machine. Nothing more! It's headed by those behind the curtains to create an illusion of abundance in women around here via bogus profiles, false notifications and sexually tempting marketing techniques for the pure sake of men buying into the games and gimmicks to shell over their wallets month after month in a corrupt game of illusion and lies to get filthy rich off of, knowing damn well that likely 1% or less of it's population here aren't finding any level of success at all.


nuotatore69rt 54M

2/7/2020 1:03 pm

    Quoting  :

Definitely! wasn't hard to figure out


Rochblue 46F

2/7/2020 1:16 pm

Heathen_G, I disagree with your comment.
"Admittedly so,I see it more often in the men on here. ... You do? You recognize them trying to get some action, on clearly a site to find action, as desperate? I don't."

That's where you're wrong. It's not clearly ONLY a site to find 'action' or a "hookup site". This site is a place for all kinds of activity, both designed for in-person meets, as well as online only things. The only thing that's "clear" about that is what the very corporate page of this site describes itself. Let's be honest here, 700+ million people on this and the Friend Finder network are not all here solely to "find action". In fact, what I have found is that the vast majority of real and legitimate females on here are only on the site without intent to meet. For the ones who are, most are completely flaky and could care less to follow through with anything with this 'back burner' level of priority.
The guys are trying to find action on a site that's designed for multiple purposes (which most don't understand that fact to begin with) and then they get desperate when it sinks in eventually that next to no real women exist on here (for good reason), almost none care or bother to chat with men (for good reason) and next to none have any desire whatsoever to meet men at all, especially for sex (for good reason). Guys have the wrong mentality of what this site is to begin with, which is 90% of the problem from the start. It's not solely a 'sex site'....the site is designed for a wide range of different people who all seek a wide range of different things for both online and/or offline purposes. I think if men would first comprehend that simple fact alone, then this site would be in much better shape to begin with.

"LOL. Sure! I'll jump right on that immediately!!!. .... Why not? You're showing off your penis. You are saying you're open for whatever..... Surely you should understand that kind of invitation is not "Pathetic", but very "Reasonable"."

Just stop already and read the corporate page. There will will find the clear description of "social media and social networking". A photo of someone's "junk" or anything at all is considered media. A pic of someone's junk isn't an invite to anything. It's merely a pic of someone's junk and that's all. We have a profile description for a purpose and by design, and THAT is what explains why we're all here and for what we all seek. A pic is just media. Nothing more! You don't look at a pic of a pyramid in Egypt and assume it's telling you that you should climb it. You don't look at a picture of a pizza and expect a knock at your door from the pizza delivery man. Yet this is the sort of logic you're going off of. A pic is merely an extension of one's profile for the purpose of advertising physical looks and attributes. It's not inviting you to anything. It's merely showing any reader here what someone looks like (or their junk) so that you can either like what you see or pass them by if you're not interested in merely looks. Kind of like looking through paint swatch samples. No sample is inviting itself to be a color on your wall. It's merely advertising itself in case you take an interest in that specific color.

"Or,hey I'll be in your area in a month?,wanna hook up ... .That is not pathetic nor desperate, either. Mind you , this is a hookup site."

Again, not true. This site CAN be a hookup site, but it's NOT solely a hookup site. This is precisely where all of the confusion always stems from when almost all men on here think the site is designed for one and only one purpose for sex ONLY. It's not at all!


Rochblue 46F

2/7/2020 1:23 pm

Heathen_G, I disagree with your comment.
"Admittedly so,I see it more often in the men on here. ... You do? You recognize them trying to get some action, on clearly a site to find action, as desperate? I don't."

That's where you're wrong. It's not clearly ONLY a site to find 'action' or a "hookup site". This site is a place for all kinds of activity, both designed for in-person meets, as well as online only things. The only thing that's "clear" about that is what the very corporate page of this site describes itself. Let's be honest here, 700+ million people on this and the Friend Finder network are not all here solely to "find action". In fact, what I have found is that the vast majority of real and legitimate females on here are only on the site without intent to meet. For the ones who are, most are completely flaky and could care less to follow through with anything with this 'back burner' level of priority.
The guys are trying to find action on a site that's designed for multiple purposes (which most don't understand that fact to begin with) and then they get desperate when it sinks in eventually that next to no real women exist on here (for good reason), almost none care or bother to chat with men (for good reason) and next to none have any desire whatsoever to meet men at all, especially for sex (for good reason). Guys have the wrong mentality of what this site is to begin with, which is 90% of the problem from the start. It's not solely a 'sex site'....the site is designed for a wide range of different people who all seek a wide range of different things for both online and/or offline purposes. I think if men would first comprehend that simple fact alone, then this site would be in much better shape to begin with.

"LOL. Sure! I'll jump right on that immediately!!!. .... Why not? You're showing off your penis. You are saying you're open for whatever..... Surely you should understand that kind of invitation is not "Pathetic", but very "Reasonable"."

Just stop already and read the corporate page. There will will find the clear description of "social media and social networking". A photo of someone's "junk" or anything at all is considered media. A pic of someone's penis isn't an invite to anything. It's merely a pic of someone's junk and that's all. We have a profile description for a purpose and by design to be READ and filled out, and THAT is what explains why we're all here and for what we all seek. A pic is just media. Nothing more! You don't look at a pic of a pyramid in Egypt and assume it's telling you that you should climb it. You don't look at a picture of a pizza and expect a knock at your door from the pizza delivery man. Yet this is the sort of logic you're going off of. A pic is merely an extension of one's profile for the purpose of advertising physical looks and attributes. It's not inviting you to anything. It's merely showing any reader here what someone looks like (or their junk) so that you can either like what you see or pass them by if you're not interested in merely looks. Kind of like looking through paint swatch samples. No sample is inviting itself to be a color on your wall. It's merely advertising itself in case you take an interest in that specific color.

"Or,hey I'll be in your area in a month?,wanna hook up ... .That is not pathetic nor desperate, either. Mind you , this is a hookup site."

Again, not true. This site CAN be a hookup site, but it's NOT solely a hookup site. This is precisely where all of the confusion always stems from when almost all men on here think the site is designed for one and only one purpose for sex ONLY. It's not at all! This very blog is positive and absolute proof of that.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/7/2020 7:20 pm

    Quoting Rochblue:
    Heathen_G, I disagree with your comment.
    "Admittedly so,I see it more often in the men on here. ... You do? You recognize them trying to get some action, on clearly a site to find action, as desperate? I don't."

    That's where you're wrong. It's not clearly ONLY a site to find 'action' or a "hookup site". This site is a place for all kinds of activity, both designed for in-person meets, as well as online only things. The only thing that's "clear" about that is what the very corporate page of this site describes itself. Let's be honest here, 700+ million people on this and the Friend Finder network are not all here solely to "find action". In fact, what I have found is that the vast majority of real and legitimate females on here are only on the site without intent to meet. For the ones who are, most are completely flaky and could care less to follow through with anything with this 'back burner' level of priority.
    The guys are trying to find action on a site that's designed for multiple purposes (which most don't understand that fact to begin with) and then they get desperate when it sinks in eventually that next to no real women exist on here (for good reason), almost none care or bother to chat with men (for good reason) and next to none have any desire whatsoever to meet men at all, especially for sex (for good reason). Guys have the wrong mentality of what this site is to begin with, which is 90% of the problem from the start. It's not solely a 'sex site'....the site is designed for a wide range of different people who all seek a wide range of different things for both online and/or offline purposes. I think if men would first comprehend that simple fact alone, then this site would be in much better shape to begin with.

    "LOL. Sure! I'll jump right on that immediately!!!. .... Why not? You're showing off your penis. You are saying you're open for whatever..... Surely you should understand that kind of invitation is not "Pathetic", but very "Reasonable"."

    Just stop already and read the corporate page. There will will find the clear description of "social media and social networking". A photo of someone's "junk" or anything at all is considered media. A pic of someone's penis isn't an invite to anything. It's merely a pic of someone's junk and that's all. We have a profile description for a purpose and by design to be READ and filled out, and THAT is what explains why we're all here and for what we all seek. A pic is just media. Nothing more! You don't look at a pic of a pyramid in Egypt and assume it's telling you that you should climb it. You don't look at a picture of a pizza and expect a knock at your door from the pizza delivery man. Yet this is the sort of logic you're going off of. A pic is merely an extension of one's profile for the purpose of advertising physical looks and attributes. It's not inviting you to anything. It's merely showing any reader here what someone looks like (or their junk) so that you can either like what you see or pass them by if you're not interested in merely looks. Kind of like looking through paint swatch samples. No sample is inviting itself to be a color on your wall. It's merely advertising itself in case you take an interest in that specific color.

    "Or,hey I'll be in your area in a month?,wanna hook up ... .That is not pathetic nor desperate, either. Mind you , this is a hookup site."

    Again, not true. This site CAN be a hookup site, but it's NOT solely a hookup site. This is precisely where all of the confusion always stems from when almost all men on here think the site is designed for one and only one purpose for sex ONLY. It's not at all! This very blog is positive and absolute proof of that.
That's where you're wrong. It's not clearly ONLY a site to find 'action' or a "hookup site". ... I said nothing about , "Only". This is a hookup site. Those who don't want anything to do with hooking up have other optional sites, such as "Friendfinder" or "Eharmony" or just plain chat room sites, or even penpal sites.

But again, the topic was about these guys on here being desperate and pathetic reaching out to add people to a friends-list, or arranging a meet-hookup in place they'll be visiting.

About pictures? Pictures are invitations, says, " I'm on this site, come check me out". A picture of a pyramid can say many things to someone, as well as a picture of a pizza, but bottom line, it's an invitation to the person viewing the picture.

So again... the guys [he noted] sending typed or pictorial or both is an invitation. Definitely an invitation because noted are the words, among other words, "....wanna hookup".

Yes , you can complain this isn't "ONLY" a hook up site.... but when people do internet searches to find some action.... this , among others, shows up in the list.

You want the non-sexual level of chatting , I would then suggest going to , "Friendfinder".... not "FriendFinder-x"...... Don't worry, on "Friendfinder" you still have to be 18 and over to participate.


Rochblue 46F

2/9/2020 10:56 pm

HeathenG,

"I said nothing about , "Only". This is a hookup site."

Wrong again. I know you didn't say "only", I did...or to say differently I said " it's not clearly ONLY". You are claiming that this site is JUST ONE thing, meaning "ONLY". That one thing you claim it to be is a hookup site. You're missing the point I am making. It's NOT JUST/ONLY a hookup site. This site is also a place for online only things, such as chatting, mingling, voting and everything else referred to as social media and social networking. This very blog that you are having a debate about it with me is solid proof that this site offers more than just "hookups". Have you come to the blog section for a hookup? No, of course not! Your profile states this about you:
"Interested in: Women. Just here to find some women for the usual fun."
That being said, do you not only wander on to the blog section, but on to a blog from a male user from Ontario (if you are straight and live in Washington) if in fact (judging by your very logic) that this site is strictly just one thing....a hookup site? Of course not! You're overlooking the fact that this blog that you come to and write on is proof that this site is way more than just a hookup site. It's a combined social media outlet and the corporate page clearly outlines that fact, as does everything you can easily view and access on this site, which pertains to online-only activity.

"Those who don't want anything to do with hooking up have other optional sites, such as "Friendfinder" or "Eharmony" or just plain chat room sites, or even penpal sites."

This sentence is a mess, so let me break it down. That's partly true. In life there are plenty of options and plenty of places we each can choose to go to. That's our freedom to do so. People come to specific sites for specific and/or different reasons. Here are the site differences:
Eharmony - This is generally a site where people go to find relationships, love and to date.
Various penpal sites - sure, I can imagine general Platonic chat/penpal sites exist out there for just that sort of thing.
Friendfinder - You're a little confused on this one. Friendfinder is the head company (Various, Inc.) called the Friend Finder Network. In that gigantic network exists a whole series of sister sites. FriendFinder-x is the biggest sister site within the Friend Finder Network (the site that you are on and don't even realize you're on Friend Finder, how ironic!). There are tons of sister sites under the Friend Finder Network, including FriendFinder-x, Cams(dot)com, Alt(dot)com, OutPersonals, AsiaFriendFinder(dot)com, Amigos(dot)com, SeniorFriendFinder(dot)com, JewishFriendFinder(dot)com, BigChurch(dot)com, MillionaireMate and perhaps others. Again, that's all described to you on the corporate page of this very site you belong to.
Then there is FriendFinder-x - It's a combination adult personals site, as well as an adult social media outlet (yes, refer to corporate page and everywhere you look around you here, including this blog).
Adult based personals site can mean you seek anything for an in-person experience....including friendships, dating, romance, intimacy/sex, FWB's, NSA's, swinging/gangbangs and things like that.
Adult based social media site can mean that people can come here for online-only things...including socializing (email/IM/chat rooms), web camming, blogging, groups, sex academy, profile reading/viewing media content (pics/videos), blinging, photo contests, adult magazines, adult videos, erotic stories, etc... You do realize that ALL of that stuff is NOT "hookups", correct? People who come here for online-only things come here for the adult aspect of it all, whether that be to let go and chat in a naughty manner, or to join sexy/nude pic contests, or to be an author/reader of the newest amateur erotic story, or to complain on a blog about the latest dipshit who wrote to her, or to describe on a blog the craziest night of sex someone has had. Whatever the reason for online-only intent, this is most definitely the appropriate place to come to share all of that sort of thing (as opposed to some Platonic or vanilla designed site in which one cannot express yourself in that way)...and the reason there are options on this site to do that is precisely because this site is designed for it, which disproves your fabricated mentality that this site is merely a "hookup site" and nothing more. Total nonsense! That's why millions of people exist on this site, not solely to hookup, but rather engage in what this site offers in many, many other ways.

"But again, the topic was about these guys on here being desperate and pathetic reaching out to add people to a friends-list, or arranging a meet-hookup in place they'll be visiting."

I'm not disagreeing. From my experiences in piecing the mentality together from what I observe, it seems that men have no desire at all to read profiles, learn basics about why a woman is here, determine basic compatibility levels from profile details and write to her if there seems to be a reasonable level of similarity in what he seeks per what her profile describes she seeks. That's the entire problem...ignorance and laziness! Instead, men will simply set up a thousand fishing poles, cast out their bait blindly to as many women as they can with cheesey, vague or copy/pasted comments and then pray that one lonely and desperate woman out there who is horny, lacks morals, self respect or has low self-esteem will chime in and be interested. That's not how the game works. We have profiles for a reason.

"About pictures? Pictures are invitations, says, " I'm on this site, come check me out". A picture of a pyramid can say many things to someone, as well as a picture of a pizza, but bottom line, it's an invitation to the person viewing the picture."

A picture is essentially an advertisement, it's NOT NECESSARILY an invitation. A picture can be many things. It can simply mean that someone is a show-off (yes, that muscular body builder who lathers up his abs with baby oil in an attempt to lure the women in by advertising that he's physically in shape more so than those beer belly male counterparts)...or the attention whore who feels the need to post 42 selfie photos of herself and of the group of bimbos she hangs with down at the local corner bar every Friday night. Some people simply seek attention for the pure sake of filling a void of not feeling accepted in society, others are trying to lure in sexual partners. Then others yet simply have photos up which are simply for their very own fun and personal reasons to simply accent their profiles, which don't suggest anything sexual, flirty or nude at all. It could merely be media used for the sake of art and expression. So, long story short, a pic is an advertisement or expression of one's self. It's not necessarily inviting others to say "come and get it" as it is to just merely advertise "this is what I have/look like/do/enjoy".

"So again... the guys [he noted] sending typed or pictorial or both is an invitation. Definitely an invitation because noted are the words, among other words, "....wanna hookup". "

Right...for the guys whose written profiles actually say they are here seeking something sexual (and show pics of their junk), then I agree. However, there are plenty of people who are usually women on this site who simply come here for fun and innocent online reasons just to tease, flirt or to express through some sort of erotic art as their pics. And if you read many of these women's profiles, you'll see that the pic will be contrary to some of them whose purpose here has nothing to do with them seeking sex hookups or anything like that. They don't match. Proof that profile descriptions have their dedicated place in the game, whereas a profile photograph of anything at all is merely media which doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that.

"Yes , you can complain this isn't "ONLY" a hook up site.... but when people do internet searches to find some action.... this , among others, shows up in the list."

I'm not complaining. I'm telling you the truth about the collected facts that I read and observe on this site and FROM this site. The corporate page will describe these facts to you, as well as the other collected facts I've described to you above regarding web cams, chatting, blogs, contests, erotic stories, etc... So sure, I'm not disagreeing with you that plenty of people DO come here for sexual intent and that's perfectly acceptable because the site offers a personals section on this site which is dedicated for such adult related searches. What you're not understanding are two things:
1.) Double purpose - That this site is equally an adult based personals site (in person purposes) as well as an adult based social media outlet (online purposes).
2.) The site is ONLY a business - When people do online searches on the internet to find adult action, enormously wealthy and popular corporations are the first on the lists because they spend a HUGE amount of money and resources into the marketing campaign to be at the top of those browser searches. Once you are on the actual FriendFinder-x site, you also see an enormous amount of effort being put forth into advertising and marketing "sex" or sexy sort of stock photos and photo/animated banners of advertising everywhere you look here to give users the illusion of "sex" or "abundance". Why? Because this is a business. It only has one mission; to generate as much profit as it can through lies, manipulation, corruption, fake profiles, temptation and so forth. It could care less if any man or woman gets laid or finds success. In fact, their mission does it's best to restrict people from finding success because the longer they can lie, manipulate and trick suckers into staying here and paying month after month in what's almost entirely a game of illusion, the richer they become.

"You want the non-sexual level of chatting , I would then suggest going to , "Friendfinder".... not "FriendFinder-x"...... Don't worry, on "Friendfinder" you still have to be 18 and over to participate."

Again dumb dumb, you are on the Friend Finder network yourself and don't even realize it! FriendFinder-x is a part of the Friend Finder Network and is their biggest sister site. Duh! Don't attempt to put me down, when in fact you are clueless on the very site you belong to. Just because I have my own personal reasons in which I choose not to talk sexually to others on here, doesn't mean that I don't engage in adult related things on this site, which gives me every legitimate reason to be on this site. You have this really shallow-minded level of mentality to think that just because I choose not to talk dirty to the endless parade of losers who contact me, that I'm some saint that belongs on some other vanilla site, when in fact I partake in plenty of adult (18+) related content around here. Smh.

FriendFinder-x®, Adult Friend FinderSM, FriendFinder-x®, FriendFinder NetworksSM and the FriendFinder Networks logo are service marks of Various, Inc.


Rochblue 46F

2/9/2020 11:33 pm

HeathenG,

Breaking down the corporate page. It reads this:

"WHO WE ARE
FriendFinder pioneered and continues to innovate some of the most popular and widely-used dating and entertainment websites in the world. We run the world’s first and by far the largest adult dating network with one goal in mind: bringing in like-minded people together for fun, intimacy and love."

Read it over? I quote: "bringing in like-minded people together for fun, intimacy and love. "
Am I here for love? No.
Am I here for intimacy? Nope.
Am I here for fun? YES!

'Fun' is defined as such: "enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure."

There you have it. I belong on a site for fun reasons of enjoyment and amusement because this site specifically offers and outlines it's very purpose and design for those who come here for that.

It continues...:

"Every day we’re finding new ways to help our members engage, communicate and connect with people who are looking for exciting experiences both online and offline."

It specifically outlines COMMUNICATE and for purposes for both online and OFFLINE!! What part of my existence don't you understand yet in which you attempt a mockery of and fail, by the very description I'm copying/pasting here directly from the site we're both on here??

Moving on...the page also reads this:

"THE PIONEER IN ONLINE DATING
FriendFinder originally started as a mainstream social networking site when it was founded in 1996 by Andrew Conru, then a Ph.D. student at Stanford University. Over the next few years, the company quickly adapted to consumer preferences and branched out into over twenty different social media and dating-related verticals. In early 2005, the company merged with Cams.com, a live webcam model site, originally started by Lars Mapstead in 1999. Since then, Cams.com has become one of the largest providers of live model webcams in the world."

It gives a brief bio of it's history and how the company started, how it grew and how it branched out into TWENTY DIFFERENT (yes FriendFinder-x is included in the Friend Finder Network by their very description...how about that proof that you tried to put me down for??). TWENTY...Yes TWENTY sister sites under the Friend Finder Network. Chew on that one.
It also goes on to say that out of those TWENTY sister sites, it branched out into "social media and dating-related verticals". Yes, SOCIAL MEDIA, which is why I'm here!!!

It continues by saying these final words:

"Today, FriendFinder’s award-winning portfolio of services synergistically combines the technical and brand assets of online personals, social-networking, live video chat, recorded video, online chat rooms, webcams, instant messaging, photo and video sharing, and premium content. With over 700,000,000 (not a typo; that’s 700 MILLION!) people engaged with at least one of our websites, and a track record of over twenty years of positive customer experiences, we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."

See where it says it offers services of "PERSONALS", SOCIAL MEDIA", "SOCIAL NETWORKING" and other forms of social media??? Again, I'm perfectly within my boundaries to be here for such reasons!! It describes the Friend Finder Network to have OVER 700 million members...do you honestly think every single 700+ million members are coming here specifically and solely for "hookups", as you've described? Too funny! Furthermore, it says"we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."...catch that part once again about it's definition of SOCIAL MEDIA technology?

The sheer gall and ignorance to point the finger at the innocent, when in fact you belong to a site in which you don't even understand it's many purposes which accommodate for many people of all walks of life who come here. Icing on the cake is when you attempt to refer me to another site (Friend Finder) and don't even realize that you, yourself belong to to Friend Finder Network yourself if you exist here on FriendFinder-x. Now that is a backfire! Smh!


Rochblue 46F

2/9/2020 11:38 pm

HeathenG,

Breaking down the corporate page. It reads this:

"WHO WE ARE
FriendFinder pioneered and continues to innovate some of the most popular and widely-used dating and entertainment websites in the world. We run the world’s first and by far the largest adult dating network with one goal in mind: bringing in like-minded people together for fun, intimacy and love."

Read it over? I quote: "bringing in like-minded people together for fun, intimacy and love. "
Am I here for love? No.
Am I here for intimacy? Nope.
Am I here for fun? YES!

'Fun' is defined as such: "enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure."

There you have it. I belong on a site for fun reasons of enjoyment and amusement because this site specifically offers and outlines it's very purpose and design for those who come here for that.

It continues...:

"Every day we’re finding new ways to help our members engage, communicate and connect with people who are looking for exciting experiences both online and offline."

It specifically outlines COMMUNICATE and for purposes for both online and OFFLINE!! What part of my existence don't you understand yet in which you attempt a mockery of and fail, by the very description I'm copying/pasting here directly from the site we're both on here??

Moving on...the page also reads this:

"THE PIONEER IN ONLINE DATING
FriendFinder originally started as a mainstream social networking site when it was founded in 1996 by Andrew Conru, then a Ph.D. student at Stanford University. Over the next few years, the company quickly adapted to consumer preferences and branched out into over twenty different social media and dating-related verticals. In early 2005, the company merged with Cams.com, a live webcam model site, originally started by Lars Mapstead in 1999. Since then, Cams.com has become one of the largest providers of live model webcams in the world."

It gives a brief bio of it's history and how the company started, how it grew and how it branched out into TWENTY DIFFERENT (yes FriendFinder-x is included in the Friend Finder Network by their very description...how about that proof that you tried to put me down for??). TWENTY...Yes TWENTY sister sites under the Friend Finder Network. Chew on that one.
It also goes on to say that out of those TWENTY sister sites, it branched out into "social media and dating-related verticals". Yes, SOCIAL MEDIA, which is why I'm here!!!

It continues by saying these final words:

"Today, FriendFinder’s award-winning portfolio of services synergistically combines the technical and brand assets of online personals, social-networking, live video chat, recorded video, online chat rooms, webcams, instant messaging, photo and video sharing, and premium content. With over 700,000,000 (not a typo; that’s 700 MILLION!) people engaged with at least one of our websites, and a track record of over twenty years of positive customer experiences, we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."

See where it says it offers services of "PERSONALS", SOCIAL MEDIA", "SOCIAL NETWORKING" and other forms of social media??? Again, I'm perfectly within my boundaries to be here for such reasons!! It describes the Friend Finder Network to have OVER 700 million members...do you honestly think every single 700+ million members are coming here specifically and solely for "hookups", as you've described? Too funny!
Furthermore, it says "we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."...catch that part once again about it's definition of SOCIAL MEDIA technology?

The sheer gall and ignorance to point the finger at the innocent, when in fact you belong to a site in which you don't even understand it's many purposes which accommodate for many people of all walks of life who come here. Icing on the cake is when you attempt to refer me to another site (Friend Finder) that you think is more vanilla than FriendFinder-x and you don't even realize that you, yourself belong to to Friend Finder Network yourself if you exist here on FriendFinder-x. Now that is a backfire! Smh!

FriendFinder-x®, Adult Friend FinderSM, FriendFinder-x®, FriendFinder NetworksSM and the FriendFinder Networks logo are service marks of Various, Inc.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/10/2020 12:31 am

    Quoting Rochblue:
    HeathenG,

    "I said nothing about , "Only". This is a hookup site."

    Wrong again. I know you didn't say "only", I did...or to say differently I said " it's not clearly ONLY". You are claiming that this site is JUST ONE thing, meaning "ONLY". That one thing you claim it to be is a hookup site. You're missing the point I am making. It's NOT JUST/ONLY a hookup site. This site is also a place for online only things, such as chatting, mingling, voting and everything else referred to as social media and social networking. This very blog that you are having a debate about it with me is solid proof that this site offers more than just "hookups". Have you come to the blog section for a hookup? No, of course not! Your profile states this about you:
    "Interested in: Women. Just here to find some women for the usual fun."
    That being said, do you not only wander on to the blog section, but on to a blog from a male user from Ontario (if you are straight and live in Washington) if in fact (judging by your very logic) that this site is strictly just one thing....a hookup site? Of course not! You're overlooking the fact that this blog that you come to and write on is proof that this site is way more than just a hookup site. It's a combined social media outlet and the corporate page clearly outlines that fact, as does everything you can easily view and access on this site, which pertains to online-only activity.

    "Those who don't want anything to do with hooking up have other optional sites, such as "Friendfinder" or "Eharmony" or just plain chat room sites, or even penpal sites."

    This sentence is a mess, so let me break it down. That's partly true. In life there are plenty of options and plenty of places we each can choose to go to. That's our freedom to do so. People come to specific sites for specific and/or different reasons. Here are the site differences:
    Eharmony - This is generally a site where people go to find relationships, love and to date.
    Various penpal sites - sure, I can imagine general Platonic chat/penpal sites exist out there for just that sort of thing.
    Friendfinder - You're a little confused on this one. Friendfinder is the head company (Various, Inc.) called the Friend Finder Network. In that gigantic network exists a whole series of sister sites. FriendFinder-x is the biggest sister site within the Friend Finder Network (the site that you are on and don't even realize you're on Friend Finder, how ironic!). There are tons of sister sites under the Friend Finder Network, including FriendFinder-x, Cams(dot)com, Alt(dot)com, OutPersonals, AsiaFriendFinder(dot)com, Amigos(dot)com, SeniorFriendFinder(dot)com, JewishFriendFinder(dot)com, BigChurch(dot)com, MillionaireMate and perhaps others. Again, that's all described to you on the corporate page of this very site you belong to.
    Then there is FriendFinder-x - It's a combination adult personals site, as well as an adult social media outlet (yes, refer to corporate page and everywhere you look around you here, including this blog).
    Adult based personals site can mean you seek anything for an in-person experience....including friendships, dating, romance, intimacy/sex, FWB's, NSA's, swinging/gangbangs and things like that.
    Adult based social media site can mean that people can come here for online-only things...including socializing (email/IM/chat rooms), web camming, blogging, groups, sex academy, profile reading/viewing media content (pics/videos), blinging, photo contests, adult magazines, adult videos, erotic stories, etc... You do realize that ALL of that stuff is NOT "hookups", correct? People who come here for online-only things come here for the adult aspect of it all, whether that be to let go and chat in a naughty manner, or to join sexy/nude pic contests, or to be an author/reader of the newest amateur erotic story, or to complain on a blog about the latest dipshit who wrote to her, or to describe on a blog the craziest night of sex someone has had. Whatever the reason for online-only intent, this is most definitely the appropriate place to come to share all of that sort of thing (as opposed to some Platonic or vanilla designed site in which one cannot express yourself in that way)...and the reason there are options on this site to do that is precisely because this site is designed for it, which disproves your fabricated mentality that this site is merely a "hookup site" and nothing more. Total nonsense! That's why millions of people exist on this site, not solely to hookup, but rather engage in what this site offers in many, many other ways.

    "But again, the topic was about these guys on here being desperate and pathetic reaching out to add people to a friends-list, or arranging a meet-hookup in place they'll be visiting."

    I'm not disagreeing. From my experiences in piecing the mentality together from what I observe, it seems that men have no desire at all to read profiles, learn basics about why a woman is here, determine basic compatibility levels from profile details and write to her if there seems to be a reasonable level of similarity in what he seeks per what her profile describes she seeks. That's the entire problem...ignorance and laziness! Instead, men will simply set up a thousand fishing poles, cast out their bait blindly to as many women as they can with cheesey, vague or copy/pasted comments and then pray that one lonely and desperate woman out there who is horny, lacks morals, self respect or has low self-esteem will chime in and be interested. That's not how the game works. We have profiles for a reason.

    "About pictures? Pictures are invitations, says, " I'm on this site, come check me out". A picture of a pyramid can say many things to someone, as well as a picture of a pizza, but bottom line, it's an invitation to the person viewing the picture."

    A picture is essentially an advertisement, it's NOT NECESSARILY an invitation. A picture can be many things. It can simply mean that someone is a show-off (yes, that muscular body builder who lathers up his abs with baby oil in an attempt to lure the women in by advertising that he's physically in shape more so than those beer belly male counterparts)...or the attention whore who feels the need to post 42 selfie photos of herself and of the group of bimbos she hangs with down at the local corner bar every Friday night. Some people simply seek attention for the pure sake of filling a void of not feeling accepted in society, others are trying to lure in sexual partners. Then others yet simply have photos up which are simply for their very own fun and personal reasons to simply accent their profiles, which don't suggest anything sexual, flirty or nude at all. It could merely be media used for the sake of art and expression. So, long story short, a pic is an advertisement or expression of one's self. It's not necessarily inviting others to say "come and get it" as it is to just merely advertise "this is what I have/look like/do/enjoy".

    "So again... the guys [he noted] sending typed or pictorial or both is an invitation. Definitely an invitation because noted are the words, among other words, "....wanna hookup". "

    Right...for the guys whose written profiles actually say they are here seeking something sexual (and show pics of their junk), then I agree. However, there are plenty of people who are usually women on this site who simply come here for fun and innocent online reasons just to tease, flirt or to express through some sort of erotic art as their pics. And if you read many of these women's profiles, you'll see that the pic will be contrary to some of them whose purpose here has nothing to do with them seeking sex hookups or anything like that. They don't match. Proof that profile descriptions have their dedicated place in the game, whereas a profile photograph of anything at all is merely media which doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that.

    "Yes , you can complain this isn't "ONLY" a hook up site.... but when people do internet searches to find some action.... this , among others, shows up in the list."

    I'm not complaining. I'm telling you the truth about the collected facts that I read and observe on this site and FROM this site. The corporate page will describe these facts to you, as well as the other collected facts I've described to you above regarding web cams, chatting, blogs, contests, erotic stories, etc... So sure, I'm not disagreeing with you that plenty of people DO come here for sexual intent and that's perfectly acceptable because the site offers a personals section on this site which is dedicated for such adult related searches. What you're not understanding are two things:
    1.) Double purpose - That this site is equally an adult based personals site (in person purposes) as well as an adult based social media outlet (online purposes).
    2.) The site is ONLY a business - When people do online searches on the internet to find adult action, enormously wealthy and popular corporations are the first on the lists because they spend a HUGE amount of money and resources into the marketing campaign to be at the top of those browser searches. Once you are on the actual FriendFinder-x site, you also see an enormous amount of effort being put forth into advertising and marketing "sex" or sexy sort of stock photos and photo/animated banners of advertising everywhere you look here to give users the illusion of "sex" or "abundance". Why? Because this is a business. It only has one mission; to generate as much profit as it can through lies, manipulation, corruption, fake profiles, temptation and so forth. It could care less if any man or woman gets laid or finds success. In fact, their mission does it's best to restrict people from finding success because the longer they can lie, manipulate and trick suckers into staying here and paying month after month in what's almost entirely a game of illusion, the richer they become.

    "You want the non-sexual level of chatting , I would then suggest going to , "Friendfinder".... not "FriendFinder-x"...... Don't worry, on "Friendfinder" you still have to be 18 and over to participate."

    Again dumb dumb, you are on the Friend Finder network yourself and don't even realize it! FriendFinder-x is a part of the Friend Finder Network and is their biggest sister site. Duh! Don't attempt to put me down, when in fact you are clueless on the very site you belong to. Just because I have my own personal reasons in which I choose not to talk sexually to others on here, doesn't mean that I don't engage in adult related things on this site, which gives me every legitimate reason to be on this site. You have this really shallow-minded level of mentality to think that just because I choose not to talk dirty to the endless parade of losers who contact me, that I'm some saint that belongs on some other vanilla site, when in fact I partake in plenty of adult (18+) related content around here. Smh.

    FriendFinder-x®, Adult Friend FinderSM, FriendFinder-x®, FriendFinder NetworksSM and the FriendFinder Networks logo are service marks of Various, Inc.
The men wanting to hook up with you for sex, are clearly on the correct site to do so. Are any of those guys pathetic or desperate? Maybe. But without details, I have to say, "Not pathetic , not desperate".

You are on a predominate sex site. You want friends to chitty-chat with, there are better sites to find that.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/10/2020 12:34 am

    Quoting Rochblue:
    HeathenG,

    Breaking down the corporate page. It reads this:

    "WHO WE ARE
    FriendFinder pioneered and continues to innovate some of the most popular and widely-used dating and entertainment websites in the world. We run the world’s first and by far the largest adult dating network with one goal in mind: bringing in like-minded people together for fun, intimacy and love."

    Read it over? I quote: "bringing in like-minded people together for fun, intimacy and love. "
    Am I here for love? No.
    Am I here for intimacy? Nope.
    Am I here for fun? YES!

    'Fun' is defined as such: "enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure."

    There you have it. I belong on a site for fun reasons of enjoyment and amusement because this site specifically offers and outlines it's very purpose and design for those who come here for that.

    It continues...:

    "Every day we’re finding new ways to help our members engage, communicate and connect with people who are looking for exciting experiences both online and offline."

    It specifically outlines COMMUNICATE and for purposes for both online and OFFLINE!! What part of my existence don't you understand yet in which you attempt a mockery of and fail, by the very description I'm copying/pasting here directly from the site we're both on here??

    Moving on...the page also reads this:

    "THE PIONEER IN ONLINE DATING
    FriendFinder originally started as a mainstream social networking site when it was founded in 1996 by Andrew Conru, then a Ph.D. student at Stanford University. Over the next few years, the company quickly adapted to consumer preferences and branched out into over twenty different social media and dating-related verticals. In early 2005, the company merged with Cams.com, a live webcam model site, originally started by Lars Mapstead in 1999. Since then, Cams.com has become one of the largest providers of live model webcams in the world."

    It gives a brief bio of it's history and how the company started, how it grew and how it branched out into TWENTY DIFFERENT (yes FriendFinder-x is included in the Friend Finder Network by their very description...how about that proof that you tried to put me down for??). TWENTY...Yes TWENTY sister sites under the Friend Finder Network. Chew on that one.
    It also goes on to say that out of those TWENTY sister sites, it branched out into "social media and dating-related verticals". Yes, SOCIAL MEDIA, which is why I'm here!!!

    It continues by saying these final words:

    "Today, FriendFinder’s award-winning portfolio of services synergistically combines the technical and brand assets of online personals, social-networking, live video chat, recorded video, online chat rooms, webcams, instant messaging, photo and video sharing, and premium content. With over 700,000,000 (not a typo; that’s 700 MILLION!) people engaged with at least one of our websites, and a track record of over twenty years of positive customer experiences, we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."

    See where it says it offers services of "PERSONALS", SOCIAL MEDIA", "SOCIAL NETWORKING" and other forms of social media??? Again, I'm perfectly within my boundaries to be here for such reasons!! It describes the Friend Finder Network to have OVER 700 million members...do you honestly think every single 700+ million members are coming here specifically and solely for "hookups", as you've described? Too funny! Furthermore, it says"we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."...catch that part once again about it's definition of SOCIAL MEDIA technology?

    The sheer gall and ignorance to point the finger at the innocent, when in fact you belong to a site in which you don't even understand it's many purposes which accommodate for many people of all walks of life who come here. Icing on the cake is when you attempt to refer me to another site (Friend Finder) and don't even realize that you, yourself belong to to Friend Finder Network yourself if you exist here on FriendFinder-x. Now that is a backfire! Smh!
And the men here , looking for sex, are perfectly within their boundaries.


Rochblue 46F

2/11/2020 1:50 pm

Heathen_G,

"The men wanting to hook up with you for sex, are clearly on the correct site to do so."

I agree. They are on an appropriate site to do so. Again, what part am I not making clear to you yet that this site IS a combined adult personals site as well as an adult social media outlet? I have already gone above and beyond to prove that to you through facts and through sources on this site and elsewhere that clearly states those facts to you.
So yes, I respect the fact that a lot of men here are on the site for sex. That's not the issue at hand. The issue is that these men are irrelevantly contacting me (and plenty of other women) on this site for sex, when in fact our profiles clearly outline the contrary of our purposes here (i.e. to socialize or to use this site for any number of social media/networking purposes). THAT'S THE PROBLEM! I respect why THEY are here if they seek sex. THEY are NOT respecting why women like myself ARE here. You still don't seem to understand that part, no matter how many times we go over it.

"Are any of those guys pathetic or desperate? Maybe. But without details, I have to say, "Not pathetic , not desperate"."

I do see a lot of desperate men on here, but who knows how many. Overall, every man generally joins this site with the same level of odds and opportunities as the next guy. It's all in his actions and choices which will ultimately determine the level of success from the competition and imbalanced gender ratio he's faced with.

"You are on a predominate sex site."

Not true. It's not at all "prodominate" that more people are here seeking sex than what their level of success is in actually acquiring that goal, nor is it "predominate" that this site is more about people belonging here for the search of sex as it is people belonging here for the equal use of this site's many other online options such as this blog, cams, erotic stories, contests or anything else at all relating to social media and social networking activities. You simply want to believe that's true by your OPINION, yet millions of people as we speak are using this site for online-only activities and I can only imagine that only a tiny, tiny fraction of those combined millions are actually "hooking up" or doing so as we speak. On the contrary...this site is actually used more so for online-only business rather than anyone actually succeeding in in-person business.

As for even more proof, if you Wiki 'Friend Finder Networks' and 'FriendFinder-x', it gives a very clear description that The FFN and FriendFinder-x are designed for these purposes, I quote:

(FFN) - "The company primarily deals in adult entertainment, online dating, and social networking services."

Yes, "PRIMARILY DEALS" in ADULT ENTERTAINMENT (my purpose on site) and SOCIAL NETWORKING (my purpose on site).

(FriendFinder-x) - "is an internet-based, adult-oriented social network, online dating service and swinger personals community website"

Yes, INTERNET-BASED, ADULT-ORIENTED SOCIAL NETWORKING WEBSITE (my purpose on site).

So how much more proof do you honestly need before you wake up and realize that this site is a combined adult-based personals site as well as an adult-based social media/networking website???

"You want friends to chitty-chat with, there are better sites to find that."

Chit chat is only part of the reason I come here. You see me writing to you on this blog, don't you? Again, that's proof that I utilize this site for more than just chit chat. I also read blogs, read erotic stories, occasionally watch cams, view/rate photo contests and whatever else I end up sometimes poking around on within this site. Like I said before, you have this screwball mentality to think that I come here for just one reason and if I'm not on this site solely to seek "hookups" only, then you feel as if I don't belong here. Get a clue. 700+ million people are NOT all on this site to find "hookups". Millions upon millions of people use this site ONLY for social media/networking activity and for online-only entertainment purposes. Why? Because the very definition and outlined description of the FFN and FriendFinder-x give us that option to do so. Quit trying to restrict valid member purpose and options for your shallow-minded, inaccurate and knukle-headed conditioned views that this site is NOT more than something that you claim it to be (i.e. designed for "hookups"). That's only partly true. It's designed for all kinds of people who seek all kinds of things and for all kinds of various reasons. Once you understand that, you'll better understand what this site is and better understand why it has been reduced to dust over the years when it comes to hardly no real women left here, none who usually interact with men via chat and almost none who have a desire to meet any of them due to silly mentality like this, behavioral issues, ignorance, laziness and otherwise.

"And the men here , looking for sex, are perfectly within their boundaries."

I never denied that fact and I respect what each person is here for. To reiterate, the problem on site pertains to laziness and ignorance when people who seek sex are irrelevantly contacting women whose very profile is contrary to that. THAT'S THE ISSUE! NOBODY READS PROFILES! NOBODY READS SITE DESCRIPTION! NOBODY COMPREHENDS ANYTHING! EVERYONE IS LAZY! EVERYONE IS IGNORANT! How on earth can people expect a level of success when the vast majority on here don't even understand the very site they belong to, don't read, ignore, is rude, etc...?? This is exactly why the site has become what it is. So I'm not faulting anyone coming here who seeks sex. I respect that. Problem being, I never get the same respect back in turn by people who actually read, comprehend profile and site terms and who follow through in a decent manner without argument, retort or without this knuckle-headed mentality around here that this site is only just one thing and that's that. Too funny! Years ago, this site actually had potential because people were strapped down to PC's in order to chat. They made time to chat. They made time to read. They made time to want to get to know people. And overall, this site was abundant with opportunities and a really good success level. How on earth can anyone these days expect success when people now blindly contact us without reading because they are lazy and ignorant? How can people find success when people want to IM us when they are busy at work or while driving or shopping and pre-occupied (hint: we're not the priority in that equation). Worse yet, everyone on this site has this 'enemy by default' sort of mentality when interacting. The second someone is not a match or politely points out inconsistencies or a lack of compatibility, then suddenly women get one of the following...
1.) Ignored indefinitely and without closure.
2.) Retorted on and argued with (always being claimed it's the woman's fault when it isn't).
3.) Blocked (which is an extension of #1, ignorance).
The site has become a complete train wreck, all due to silly mentality, behavioral issues and choices every day around here which people willingly choose to make which hurts their odds and ultimately continually keeps driving this site and all of it's women nose first into the ground.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/12/2020 3:42 am

Attn. Rochblue....

ADULT-ORIENTED SOCIAL NETWORKING ..... "Adult"...Sex.
For instance: "Adult movie" .....x rated ...."Adult cruise".... women will be topless or naked.

The issue is that these men are irrelevantly contacting me (and plenty of other women) on this site for sex, .... Yes, they may be taking a chance, or completely ignoring what your profile says, because this is sex site, and regardless of what you say on your profile, you are still fair game. .....When you're on this site. ..... If you go to "Friendfinder", then far less likely , if at all, any man would proposition you for sex.

Don't walk through a thorn field looking for butterflies, and complain about the thorns.

when in fact our profiles clearly outline the contrary of our purposes here ......Doesn't matter what your profile says. If a man wants to take a chance, or even has backbone to take a chance, HE WILL.


Rochblue 46F

2/12/2020 7:11 am

Heathen_G,

""Adult"...Sex.
For instance: "Adult movie" .....x rated ...."Adult cruise".... women will be topless or naked."

Oh stop! You're ridiculous! The word 'adult' doesn't necessarily get translated into meaning 'sex'. Must I define the word for you? Of course I should...

'Adult' defined:

NOUN
* a person who is fully grown or developed.
* a fully developed animal.
* a person who has reached the age of majority.
VERB
* behave in a way characteristic of a responsible adult, especially by accomplishing mundane but necessary tasks.
ADJECTIVE
* (of a person or animal) fully grown or developed.
* of or for adult people.
* emotionally and mentally mature.
* sexually explicit or pornographic (used euphemistically to refer to a movie, book, or magazine).

So there you have it. The word adult can be interpreted in any form we choose it to mean, but overall what this site is designed for are mature people who are of legal age (18+). From there, all that it implies is that people who belong to this site are mature (18+) and will be subjected to possibly and probably being exposed to nude, sexual, verbal or graphic content. And that's perfectly fine. I'm no angel, nor do I claim to be. I AM on this site for those sort of things, as I have repeatedly described to you in the previous messages. Just because I have a choice to choose not to cyber and talk dirty to the men who write, doesn't mean that I'm not doing other things on site which pertain to nudity, sexual, visual or verbally written content of an adult nature. We all have boundaries, choices, preferences and limits to why we're here, what we seek and what we tell people we're here for. That should always be respected.

"Yes, they may be taking a chance, or completely ignoring what your profile says, because this is sex site..."

Taking a chance? You make absolutely no sense whatsoever! If any woman's profile claims to be updated at all times and that she is ONLY here to socialize and engage in social media sort of activity, then there is no such chance to take because no such chance even exists in the first place for some loser to be contacting me for sex, cyber or anything else that my profile clearly describes to them....hence, the exact reason we all have profiles to begin with. Yes, they serve a valid purpose. Read them. Comprehend them. Respect them. Simple!
And no matter how many dozens of times I keep telling you that this is NOT SOLELY a sex site, as well as continually showing you fact after fact and the sources of those collected facts, you continue using that "sex site" phrase as if this site only exists for one single purpose. It doesn't! How many times must I say that this blog that you and I are chatting on is solid proof that this site is MORE than a sex site? Have you appeared on pleasuresuckn4u's blog to find a sex partner? Of course not! You make no sense at all! You constantly keep proving yourself wrong between the things you do on here and the contrary things you say.

You: Telling me to go to a more vanilla site like Friend Finder if I want casual chat...yet not realizing that you and I are both on Friend Finder by the fact that we are on FriendFinder-x.
You: Telling me that this site is only a sex site/hookup site...yet overlooking the fact that you keep coming back to a blog, which isn't at all getting laid or finding a person to get laid by on some guy's blog and who is talking about the unrealistic factors of those who write to him.

Make sense!

"...and regardless of what you say on your profile, you are still fair game."

There is no "regardless of what I say on my profile". It's like I described to you over and over again. That's called "laziness" and "ignorance". A profile is a vital tool of information to read, comprehend, respect and ONLY contact that person if there are relevant and similar matches between what the reader reads against what that woman says she's here for. Period! Stop making excuses for laziness and ignorance. If my profile tells anyone out there that I am not on the market to meet anyone, then don't sit here telling me I'm fair game for the idiots who are contacting me seeking sex. That's lame as hell!

"When you're on this site. ..... If you go to "Friendfinder", then far less likely , if at all, any man would proposition you for sex."

Either you're not reading my comments or you're still not comprehending the fact that YOU and I are BOTH on Friend Finder as we speak because FriendFinder-x is Friend Finder's flagship sister site. Friendfinder(dot)com is still a site of the Friend Finder Network (FFN). I don't know what you are NOT understanding about that fact so far and the mountains of proof, evidence and sources I've shown you so far??? It's all the same, no matter which site you're on under that branded FFN network of sister sites. The other sites are just supposedly tailored for more specific intent, but overall, the same exact losers who are joined under this branded site are all on the other sites too, again, because it's a network! This is exactly why clowns on a supposed 'vanilla" branch of the FFN will still proposition others for sex, because everyone is clueless, whether it be FriendFinder-x, JewishFriendFinder, BigChurch, Amigos, Alt or any other one out there.

"Don't walk through a thorn field looking for butterflies, and complain about the thorns."

Good comment. I'd have to agree with it on many levels. However, the logic just doesn't quite add up and what the problems happen to be are out of my control. First, I realize this is a thorn field and is why I come here to play with some thorns by allowing this site to be a way to let go and for entertainment purposes via the things this site offers to me here. So I'm well aware that there are delicate roses mixed in with thorns. However, when I come here to navigate my field, I openly and clearly post plenty of warning signs of those nasty thorns and give fair warning to the road ahead. For those not seeking the same walking path as I'm taking, then those signs explain to everyone what my path of destination is on here. I respect the thorns, so long as I keep clear contact from them. I observe thorns, look at pics of thorns, read about thorns but I dare not get involved with any direct contact by any! Why? Because that's a valid and conscious choice I make, just like millions of other do on here. In no way am I not complaining about the thorns, as long as they leave me alone and respect me and why I choose to be the social butterfly that gracefully hovers above the roses. The problems exist when those who do not read posted road signs start poking me with their thorns. This is what the complaint is always about.

Your analogy is flawed. That's like having posted signs on the highway stating that the speed limit on that road is 55 mph. So if some clown decides to push his limits, ignore the sign and push his car up to 85 mph, then there is no surprise when he gets pulled over and ticketed for it. Again, the rules and laws are clearly marked and in place for a reason, just as my profile is. For those who don't comply to road signs, will get cited for it...this is the analogy of men who don't respect and comply to my profile. Don't be shocked when a woman lashes a man for not reading, not comprehending and not respecting her profile and then exposes that man all over the place for his ill behavior after he does so. Again, it's the same analogy of the road signs. The idea cannot be any more simple and clear to understand. You make more out of this than what the basic principles, common sense and general protocol are. It's so simple.
1.) Read!
2.) Comprehend.
3.) Respect.
4 a.) If you meet criteria you've read and find yourself to be a similar match to a reasonable level with someone from what you've read and for what you seek here, then at that point write to that person.
b.) If you do NOT meet the written criteria for what that person says she seeks, then simply move on and make no contact whatsoever.

It's honestly just that simple!!!!

"Doesn't matter what your profile says. If a man wants to take a chance, or even has backbone to take a chance, HE WILL."

And that's exactly the problem around here with the idiotic mentality of the losers on here. A profile absolutely DOES matter what it says! You are missing the important point time and time again that when a guy reads a profile, it will explain to him if a chance even exists to begin with. That's the very tool of information which will describe to the reader whether of not they are a fair match and in most cases will make or break a deal right from square one if it's not read. I cannot tell you haw many women's profiles I have read where it's outlined out of disgust and complete frustration of how many guys simply just refuse to read profiles but just contact women blindly anyway. Then on the other hand, I see men constantly blogging or writing on their profiles if any women are real or why women don't chat to men anymore. Where's the mystery in that equation????? When men show us women zero respect by NOT reading profiles and NOT having a will to show a woman his level of interest by FIRST reading about her, getting a brief overview of herself, what she's here for, what she seeks and the things she enjoys, then guess what? Women simply go bye-bye. Why? Because it's translated by women to be RUDE! They will either leave the site for good by the hundreds of thousands per year OR they simply reside in small clicky circles of friends who they don't talk to any outsiders OR they don't talk to anyone at all because they gave up on the level of ignorance. laziness and disrespect. It's these so called irrelevant and blind contact "backbone chances" that you describe to be the very thing that's driving women off and turning us all off, whether or not you realize it, admit it or not. Start opening and reading women's profiles and you'll quickly gather plenty of them which describe all of the nonsense that goes on around here that I just described to you. If there is no chance to begin with from what you read, then there is no chance to be taking because that chance doesn't exist and will only push women off here more and more. You guys never seem to understand that fact...ever!

If a white woman specifically says she seeks a black man ONLY, then guess what? If you are a white guy, then you aren't a relevant match from the start for what she says she ONLY seeks....hence, no chance whatsoever. So rather than bothering that woman, pissing her off and driving her off site, simply move on. It's painfully that simple! I say I'm here to chat and for online things. If that is NOT why someone is contacting me, then it's only going to piss me off and cause a major conflict. So why, if you already know you have no chance from what you've read???

Again, make logical sense!

You're a smart guy and I can tell you are. Problem being is that you look, but you don't see; you listen, but you don't hear. You are so steadfast on your ideas and congregated, fictional and fabricated ideas of what this site is via conditioning factors, that no matter how much proof and hard factual evidence I bring to the table and from valid, legitimate sources, you simply overlook and omit all of the proof without hearing, reading and comprehending all of the things I am telling you. It's amazing that out of a mountain of resources, you still hold fast to the idea that this site and all of it's collected 700+ million people across the entire FFN are all here for one thing and one thing only....sex hookups. And still you overlook the hard fact that you are on a specific blog, which has nothing at all to do with you finding sex hookups on. You are just so blind to it all. The proof is all around you no matter where you look on this site. Look at the banners here and the dozen social media options the members here have.
All of which have nothing (or usually almost nothing) at all to do with people finding sex hookups. Wake up! The irony is overwhelming!


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/12/2020 2:51 pm

Attn. Rochblue.... .... I'm repeating this basic explanation to you...

ADULT-ORIENTED SOCIAL NETWORKING ..... "Adult"...Sex.
For instance: "Adult movie" .....x rated ...."Adult cruise".... women will be topless or naked.

Go to "Friendfinder" , and you won't see these blogs. You won't be invited to have sex as often as you think you are here.

The issue is that these men are irrelevantly contacting me (and plenty of other women) on this site for sex , .... Yes,DUH!!

Those men are taking a chance, or completely ignoring what your profile says, because this is sex site, and regardless of what you say on your profile, you are still fair game. .....When you're on this site. ..... If you go to "Friendfinder", then far less likely , if at all, any man would proposition you for sex.

Don't walk through a thorn field looking for butterflies, and complain about the thorns. .... Think about it.

Doesn't matter what your profile says. If a man wants to take a chance, or even has backbone to take a chance, HE WILL.


Rochblue 46F

2/14/2020 10:23 am

Heathen_G,

"Attn. Rochblue.... .... I'm repeating this basic explanation to you...

ADULT-ORIENTED SOCIAL NETWORKING ..... "Adult"...Sex.
For instance: "Adult movie" .....x rated ...."Adult cruise".... women will be topless or naked.

Go to "Friendfinder" , and you won't see these blogs. You won't be invited to have sex as often as you think you are here."

And I'm continually explaining the same basic explanation to you, as well. If the site offers something to it's members here, then that means that it's a valid option for people to come here for....whether that be personals site intent (i.e. meets, sex, swinging, etc...) or for social media intent (i.e. chatting, web camming, blogs, contests, erotic stories, etc...)....or a combination of both. There is no need to dictate to me that I don't belong on this site for the reasons I'm here, because this site clearly offers valid options that allow me to be here. You tell me to go to Friendfinder because I will NOT see these blogs....ummm, HELLO!!!! Part of the reason I exist on FriendFinder-x is because I DO want to read, compose and interact in the blog section. You don't seem to get that yet, do you? IT'S SOCIAL MEDIA in an ADULT-BASED PLATFORM!!! Stop trying to restrict my legitimate reasons for being here! Just because it's ADULT-ORIENTED, does NOT mean that it is REQUIRED to be nothing but sex and sexually explicit intent. That's an option for any of us on here. I know what territory I'm at and can take the heat...just don't attempt to restrict me for why I'm here. That's all! You do know that people blog for all kinds of topics, right? Everything from baking cookies on a snowy winter's night, to having to put their pet elderly down, to talking about a vacation they have just been on, to having a little grumble over something, to taking polls and everything else you can imagine. Again, undeniable proof that this site offers that option to those who simply want to talk about homemade brownies, if they so damn well choose to without some clown like yourself having the knuckle-headed mentality that "this is a sex site" and it's only purpose is for "hookups". Laughable!

At the same time, your example of an "adult cruise" is flawed. Women on an adult cruise aren't required to be naked or topless, nor are they being forced to do so. If they do so, they are doing so by CHOICE! Big difference there! This isn't some some nude/topless Nazi cruise you're on which is led and dictated by Captain Hitler. Same if you go to a public nude beach. They are generally called "clothing optional" beaches. Same reason, you are not required or being forced to get naked. For those who do so, it's a choice! Those are all considered adult-oriented things, whether an adult cruise or nude beach. The same analogy goes here with this site. Just because the site offers hookups and sex meets as an option for those here who seek that, it also offers members other options to use this site for. This site isn't only for one purpose and this site isn't dictating or forcing anyone to only be here if you are only seeking strictly sex. Being an obvious blog user yourself, have fun with that one when you run across the hundreds of blogs from people who are posting about their latest baked cake or what movie they stayed in to watch last night or who they think which sports team will win in tomorrow's big game. Too funny! You're lost!

"The issue is that these men are irrelevantly contacting me (and plenty of other women) on this site for sex , .... Yes,DUH!!

Those men are taking a chance, or completely ignoring what your profile says, because this is sex site, and regardless of what you say on your profile, you are still fair game. .....When you're on this site. ..... If you go to "Friendfinder", then far less likely , if at all, any man would proposition you for sex."

No idea what you mean by "DUH!!". The "DUH" is not me, the "DUH" is from the losers who refuse to read, comprehend and remain ignorant. The info is public and very clearly written. Read it. Simple! If not, they are the "DUH", not me. Get your facts right and stop table-turning. By reading it, it clearly tells a reader who is here seeking sex that no chance in that is realistic. You're the DUH if you can't understand that much! You're impossible to get through to on a logical level. You are precisely the reason of what is wrong on this site and why it doesn't work for like 99% of it's members. Everyone assumes things, goes around cluelessly and blindly, has this idiotic mentality that this site is for ONLY one sole reason and that's absolutely it.....but then all wonder why they have no success here or whatever. I cannot begin to tell you how many rants I read on blogs and on profiles from men who all ask the same questions like: "Why won't women talk on here?" or "Are there any real women on this site?" or "Why is it so hard to meet women?". There is no mystery why this exists when you look at the fact that 99% or more of the people who exist here...
1 .) Don't bother to read the corporate page upon joining.
2 .) Don't bother reading profiles of women PRIOR to contacting them.
3 .) Blindly contacts women with irrelevant purpose and intent.
4 .) Assumes this site is for one thing only and that 700+ million of it's members only are here for sex (laughable!).
5 .) Ignores, retorts, retaliates, blocks and argues with it's female members every time there is some sort of mismatch, disagreement or are set straight about FACTS.

So there you have it. You can debate all you'd like about this day after day until you're blue in the face, but at the end of the day on this site, guess what? Blogs on this site still exist about people baking cookies. web cam rooms still exist. chat rooms still exist. photo contests still exist, groups still exist, erotic stories still exist, member uploaded pics/videos on profiles still exist, blinging still exists, movies/magazine section still exists, sex academy section still exists, the "What's Hot" section still exists, etc... This is ALL ADULT-ORIENTED SOCIAL MEDIA!!! I repeat, This is ALL ADULT-ORIENTED (and optional) SOCIAL MEDIA!!!

I'm on the right site. You're not! If you claim this site is only a sex site for hookups, then I beg to ask the question why you're engaged on this very blog you're in now? Did you respond to a guy's blog to "hookup" and find sex here (keeping in mind, that your profile claims you're straight, this blog is irrelevant to anything pertaining to bringing people together for sexual hookups and that I'm the only female on here who has chimed in and who is NOT here seeking sex). Again, too funny! Your hypocrisy is branded directly into your existence here and you fail to even see the irony of the idiotic claims you make of what this site is.

"Don't walk through a thorn field looking for butterflies, and complain about the thorns. .... Think about it.

Doesn't matter what your profile says. If a man wants to take a chance, or even has backbone to take a chance, HE WILL."

Which loops us back around at the third time of me explaining this to you....we're dealing with a society of ignorant and lazy people. Simple as that. The vast majority of members who do the contacting are premium paying Gold or VIP members who do have the ability to read profiles but choose not to. That's their major flaw! If that's what they choose, then they also choose to be called out for it when their idiocy overrides their opportunity they've had to read, comprehend and respect. We all have profiles and there's a reason why we have them. No excuse for ignorance or laziness. Period.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/14/2020 7:53 pm

we're dealing with a society of ignorant and lazy people. ..... Coming here and bitching about it , is not going to change anything. You are on a sex site. Stay or leave.

The vast majority of members who do the contacting are premium paying Gold or VIP members who do have the ability to read profiles but choose not to. .... That's right. They "Choose" not to, or they did, and they are ignoring what you said, for the sake of taking a chance.

If that's what they choose, then they also choose to be called out for it .... Sure, you could be a bitch, or you could choose to reconsider.

We all have profiles and there's a reason why we have them. ..... Yes, and there is a reason why some choose to take a chance.

No excuse for ignorance or laziness. ..... You think it's ignorance or laziness.....doesn't matter.....they still choose to take a chance. People are not going to change. So maybe you should just go away.


Rochblue 46F

2/16/2020 8:55 am

Heathen_G,

"Coming here and bitching about it..."

You're an idiot! I'm not coming here to bitch about that fact. Nevertheless, I have every right to do so anyway, even if I wanted to, because a blog is a place to SOCIALIZE about anything at all which is on our minds. Hey shithead, for the 50th time, this blog that you're on proves that this is NOT ONLY JUST a sex site. Such an idiot to continually keep spreading the fabrication that it is. YOU are a big part of the problem on site. It's the men like you who keep chanting these lines over and over again (at a place that clearly describes otherwise) until all of you losers begin to actually believe what you're chanting is true and absolute. It's NOT and it ISN'T ONLY a sex site. Period! Grow a brain for once. This blog is absolute proof of that, as is the corporate page description, as is Wikipedia's description, as is everywhere you look around this site and it's dozen or more options that allow for various forms of SOCIAL MEDIA.

"... , is not going to change anything."

You're right, bitching about something does nothing. Which is why I (and the community of others) actually take action against those who mistreat others, who act like idiots, who ignore, who are rude, and everything else regarding someone's kindness being abused. This is why people expose others for their ill behavior, which isn't just sitting around and doing nothing about the problems. Action is effective and DOES create change.

"You are on a sex site. Stay or leave."

So you're telling me that this very specific blog that you and I are writing on is designed specifically for you and I to find sex and nothing but sex??
You already know I disagree with that comment and chiming in to someone's blog isn't telling me I'm here seeking sex. So, how many sex partners or offers have you gotten so far on this very specific blog you're on, entitled "Who else?", which was composed by another man here and which shows I'm the only female to date which has chimed in to this very blog? Be honest now, how many offers or sexual partners have you come here on this blog to find yet?????????
I'll stay on site. Why? Because I enjoy all aspects of being able to let go and be an adult and to engage in the social media things that this site offers to me and to millions of others here via blogs, cams, erotic stories, contests, etc... Until you understand that much, it seems to me that you are the one who is clueless of the site and why millions all congregate here (hint: it's not solely for sexually in-person meet purposes).

"That's right. They "Choose" not to, or they did, and they are ignoring what you said, for the sake of taking a chance."

So what part of that choice that they make to not read and to ignore don't you understand in that equation to translate to a woman as being rude? Sure, they have a choice to be rude and ignorant, but by making that choice, don't expect that to be a favorable measure to your odds or to the society in general when losers like this are shaping the society to be this way. You still don't get it! Women take their time to post information on profiles. There's a reason for that! So when people don't read when they have the ability to, then ignore, then blindly contact with irrelevancy, guess what? A woman is going to say "read my profile" OR not bother opening someone's message OR ignoring/blocking that member OR closing her account and leaving the site for good due to all of the idiots who CHOOSE this idiotic approach. Why do you think profiles exist? If we are telling you who we seek OR what we seek.....and you do NOT fit that description from what we've written, then there is zero chance you have from the start. Listen to what I'm telling you and comprehend! This isn't hard shit to understand!!

"Sure, you could be a bitch, or you could choose to reconsider."

First, I'm in no way a bitch unless those who continually push my buttons choose to see that side of me. For those who know me and who respect me on here will all tell you a drastically different personality. If you think I'm coming off as a bitch, then perhaps you haven't yet bothered to reconsider the fact that you aren't listening to me or are comprehending any of the factual sources I've been showing you for the past week.
There is nothing for me to reconsider. I understand exactly what this site is and I come here for the specific reasons under those outlined terms and options of what this offers to it's members here. You act like I'm showing up at a fast food chain and looking to refuel my car or something. NO! I'm showing up at a gas station for fuel because that's what it offers! The site's corporate page says this (read carefully):

"Today, FriendFinder’s award-winning portfolio of services synergistically combines the technical and brand assets of online personals, social-networking, live video chat, recorded video, online chat rooms, webcams, instant messaging, photo and video sharing, and premium content. With over 700,000,000 (not a typo; that’s 700 MILLION!) people engaged with at least one of our websites, and a track record of over twenty years of positive customer experiences, we continue our mission of pioneering new development of innovative, social media technology connecting people every day all over the world."

Let's address the key words and comments here within this mission statement...

"TODAY" - Notice how it starts off by saying "today"? This means that it's telling all of us members here that what they are describing is current and up to date for what this site is, as we speak.

"COMBINES" - Yes, it describes this site to be a combination of different things for the different types of members who all come here seeking different things. Those combined sources and reasons are described as "personals, social-networking, live video chat, recorded video, online chat rooms, webcams, instant messaging, photo and video sharing, and premium content.". Did you read that right? Personals (meaning in person intent of sex, friendships, love, romance, etc...). Social-networking (meaning chat/chat rooms, cams, videos, contests, blogs, erotic stories, etc...).

What part of any of this do you STILL not understand????????

"Yes, and there is a reason why some choose to take a chance."

You're caught up on this "chance" thing. And it's because of the losers who don't read and still contact us with irrelevant "chance" that this site has gone to complete hell. It's only because of these shitty choices are the men actually LOSING their favorable odds and trashing this site and society because of that fact. Stop preaching to me this "chance" bullshit. I'm giving you hard facts here. I have been on this site for about 20 years in total. I have been here during the days when people used only PC's in order to communicate and during a time when almost everyone read profiles and contacted others with RELEVANT intent and purpose. These were the golden years when opportunities existed because of these measures and where gender ratio was more or less balanced and was a time when people were meeting a ton of other people because of how smoothly things would go when we had cooperation around here between members. You're forgetting history OR that you don't even understand it because you haven't been here that long to see how much things went to hell. Do you read women's profiles? I could probably browse women's profiles for ten minutes and pull up a handful off the bat which say "not here looking" or "tired of the nonsense" and things like this. You're a blogger. Read the blogs of women who are saying the same kinds of things! Pay attention to these signs! I'm not making this shit up. You're just not listening at all.

"You think it's ignorance or laziness.....doesn't matter.....they still choose to take a chance. People are not going to change. So maybe you should just go away."

No, I don't think it's laziness or ignorance, I KNOW it's laziness and ignorance! How so? Because you're not a woman here and you aren't seeing what we're dealing with around here on our side of the screen. For pure (realistic) example here: in any given day, 50 men could contact me throughout the course of that day. Out of those 50, perhaps maybe one or two would actually read a profile or write to me for anything even close to my purpose and intent here. For the others, when I politely ask the to "please read my profile over" or ask "what's relevant per your contact?"...the vast majority will either infinitely ignore me, sometimes block me or will tell me "sorry, I didn't read your profile". If you honestly need proof, I will gladly supply you with dozens of emails I have, dozens of exposures and dozens of screen shot conversations as proof of this, if need be to get my point across. You don't understand this because it's you who is not seeing this or dealing with this from your vantage point as a male here. So no, it's not me that needs to go away, it's the losers who fucking pay monthly membership dues for no damn reason other than using it as their ability to harass and chase off women with nonsense and irrelevancy, rather than to take a moment and read, respect a woman, try to find basic compatibility and purpose up front and to then contact us if there are RELEVANT measures to do so.
"Doesn't matter"??????? What!!! It completely matters and it's all that matters!!!! The entire basis of one's failure or success rate on this site is primarily based on the fact of two people coming together for relevant reason, for relevant purpose and to achieve some relevant outcome between two or more people here. For me, that reason is to socialize. For others, that reason is for a hookup. For others yet, that reason is for swinging. And still for others, that reason is to web cam. We all have reasons we're on here and all are drastically for different purpose and intent. Reading a profile definitely does matter to understand up front if the person you think you may be interested in has a reasonable level of intent, purpose or compatibility with you. You're not going to find a success rate of people ignoring profiles, then blindly contacting and annoying others with sex meet talk when a person is here for casual chat ONLY, nor will someone with a specific search of a certain race, age or physical attributes be interested in someone else who isn't that. You'll never find someone advertising that they are not interested in men over 45 years of age if that person blindly contacting or overriding her profile details is 65 years old. Get a clue! If you don't understand any of this, it's you who needs a reality check, an education or who needs to simply go away, not me.
I'm actually the one who is here for my specific reasons, am here for what the site entails I can be here for and who has done her homework and who has composed her profile to the public to read. You haven't! You contradict yourself and your actions here. You claim on one hand that this is a "sex site/hookup site"....yet on the other hand, you end up on some random guy's blog. Following your very logic that this is only a "sex site", then that should mean that this site should be used FOR sex and NOTHING else except the search for sex. Sooooooo, how can you then explain your purpose on this blog you're on? How can you then explain the site's description? How can you then explain the many various outlets of social media tabs and functions you find scattered all over this site as far as cams, blogs, chat rooms, contests, erotic stories, etc...???? You can't answer that truthfully because by doing so, you know you're contradicting yourself. Therefore, you either dodge all of these comments I leave, continue pointing fingers at me and continue on the same loop of idiocy, rather than sticking to hard facts and logic. Typical!

"people are not going to change"

Oh no? False! As I've said, I've been here for 20+ years or so now and have seen a DRASTIC shift in how people used to be and what people have become today. Travel back in time to the late 1990's on this site. There were probably one woman for every three men on this site back then and all were usually real. Today, I can only guess that the gender ratio is maybe one REAL woman out of dozens, if not hundreds of men here. Why is that, we must ask ourselves? It's completely due to behavioral issues, ignorance, laziness, men not dedicating any time in wanting to get to know a women for who she is as a person, why she's here or for what she seeks. Instead, it's easier for the losers here to simply cast blind bait out to the masses of the so-called "women"on here, chase us all off, turn us off, piss us off and somehow magically expect a level of success or interest taken by us who exist here. That's in no way a realistic approach, which directly proves the reality of why next to no real women exist on this site, why almost none of us bother to open/respond to incoming messages or chat and why nearly no women on site has any real and enthusiastic desire at all to meet any of these losers. So yeah, people and society definitely always DO and DID change! That's always a given since the beginning of humanity. Difference being, we're now heading backwards with negativity, rather than forward in positivity. There are many reasons for that, which is an entirely different topic of it's own, worthy of it's own blog.

In short, no wonder the site doesn't work for anyone. You chose to make it that way. Smh.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/16/2020 7:17 pm

Attn: Rochblue

This is a sex site. Men get on this site to find sex...with whatever, and for what ever strange reason , some of them seem to be contacting you for sex.

Stop whining about this. Stop bitching about this... Stay or leave.... but again, you are on a sex site.


Rochblue 46F

2/18/2020 3:34 pm

Heathen_G,

"This is a sex site. Men get on this site to find sex...with whatever, and for what ever strange reason , some of them seem to be contacting you for sex."

Stop dodging my questions! Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???

Suck down your ego for once and admit guilt. You'll be much more respected if you do, because the mountains of fact, proof, evidence and source outweigh what you merely "claim", "theorize", "want", "wish, "hope" and ignorantly bypass all of the factual evidence that YOU'RE WRONG about the overall various purposes this site offers to it's members!

There is no "strange reason" of why these losers are contacting me. The only reasons they are contacting me is exactly what I have been telling you from the beginning.....
* They are clueless of what this site is.
* They are ignorant/lazy and don't bother to read corporate bulletin of what this site is upon joining.
* They are ignorant/lazy and don't bother reading profiles PRIOR to contacting anyone.

To show you just how ignorant and lazy men are, I sit here with my IM open to see if my one friend comes online (to then email with him). As I have sat here for the past half hour, I'm literally counting 23 men (who are ALL premium and paying Gold members here who have the ability to read profiles) on my IM's inbox all contacting me and expecting answers and replies, even though my profile clearly describes to every one of them that I have no points and that I cannot IM anyone due to that fact. It's undeniable proof that laziness and ignorance are absolute and positive factors of why nothing at all works on this site for anyone at all, which is why nearly no real women exist, reply to men (even if they can) or meet. As I've told you before, we all sign up on site with identical odds and identical chances for whatever we seek of relevancy. It in everyone's conduct once you're on here which will determine anyone's level of success at anything. To those who wish to be lazy/ignorant, you'll gain poor reputation, earn hate, be exposed, chase women off, etc... To those who bring their A-game, you'll find much better odds, earn respect, gain reputation and be liked throughout the community. Choice is all of ours.

"Stop whining about this. Stop bitching about this... Stay or leave.... but again, you are on a sex site."

Learn how to read! I've already previously told you that I'm not whining, that this is not ONLY a sex site and that I'm staying because I have my reasons here which the site also offers to it's members.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/18/2020 4:47 pm

Attn :Rochblue.... Stay or leave ... But do stop bitching and complaining about men contacting you.....this is a sex site. They are on the appropriate site to seek sex, even with you.


Rochblue 46F

2/19/2020 11:08 am

Heathen_G,

"Attn :Rochblue.... Stay or leave ... But do stop bitching and complaining about men contacting you.....this is a sex site. They are on the appropriate site to seek sex, even with you."

Now you're just being a nitwit. Third time telling you: Staying on this site. Been here for 20+ years and for various things over that time period. Not going anywhere and have a firm understanding of what this site is, what it's design is for and for who the site offers it services to. If men would have respect, decency and an ounce of brains, then I'd have no reason to complain about it, would I? Food for thought there, sonny.

Like clockwork, I see you dodge the questions I continually ask you. Why? Because you knew that if you truthfully answered them, then you'd be contradicting everything that you keep misrepresenting this site to be as solely a "sex site". You're nothing more than a coward. You refuse to drop your ego or to admit guilt, so instead you repeatedly table-turn, accuse, dodge questions and point fingers at me instead. How childish!

Giving you yet another chance to answer these questions directly, as I stated several times above. Here it goes:

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???

Now answer them.

"They are on the appropriate site to seek sex, even with you."

You have the mentality of a snail. Sure, for those people who come here seeking sex, you're absolutely right...they've come to an appropriate site for that kind of thing IF THEY ARE CONTACTING RELEVANT PEOPLE FOR RELEVANT REASONS PER THAT SEARCH!!!!!! Hello!!! They are NOT contacting a RELEVANT person for RELEVANT reasons if they are reaching out to me for sex when my profile clearly tells them contrary of that!!! See the difference there????
Example: How far do you think a straight man is going to get if he's contacting a lesbian for sex? Nada! It lacks RELEVANCY!
Example: How far do you think a white male is going to get if a woman claims she strictly ONLY has interest in black men? Nada! It lacks RELEVANCY!
Example: How far do you think a 65 year old male is going to get if a woman claims she strictly ONLY has interest in men who are 40 and under? Nada! It lacks RELEVANCY!
Example: How far do you think a male is going to get if he's seeking ONLY sex and is IRRELEVANTLY contacting a woman who strictly ONLY has interest in socializing/online-only activities on site? Nada! It lacks RELEVANCY!

Maybe some day you'll wake up and understand this simple concept. No RELEVANCY? No chance! No contact! Simple!

"Even with me"? See, that's what you can't yet wrap your head around, no matter how many fucking times I sit here explaining it! My profile specifically says I'm not here for sex. Duh! Therefore, I'm not a potential option, if in fact a certain member is coming to this site for sex and has an initial interest in me. Once he reads my profile, it tells him that. Case fucking closed. She's off the market and is on site for the online-only things. This means that for someone seeking sex, bypass her because she's telling you on her profile that:
A. ) She's ONLY here to socialize.
B .) She's NOT here to meet.
C .) That her profile is kept up to date at all times and if that were to ever change, so would the criteria!

What the fuck are you NOT understanding? You're like the biggest nitwit on this site. No wonder it doesn't work for anyone when people like you roam around cluelessly!


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/20/2020 6:01 pm

Staying on this site. Been here for 20+ years ... Then high time for a break. Join a gym, work out for 5 or so years.

have a firm understanding of what this site is, ... Your understanding has some cobwebs.

If men would have respect, ... Men have respect to give, but only if respect is earned. You are not earning respect. However, you do have to respect the site. You keep saying, "Only"... I have not when trying to convey to you why men are mostly on this site.

[If men would have] decency and an ounce of brains, .... That for one, is disrespectful. Nobody is going to give you respect talking that way.

then I'd have no reason to complain about it, would I? ... Your complaining, is unreasonable for this site, as I've informed you before.

you keep misrepresenting this site to be as solely a "sex site". ... See , there you go again, thinking this "Soley/only" a sex site. I've never said that this site is as such, but have informed you to be aware that this site is a sex site, and "Sex" is pretty much why most men are here.

Sure, for those people who come here seeking sex, you're absolutely right. ... Yes, I know I'm right.

They are NOT contacting a RELEVANT person for RELEVANT reasons if they are reaching out to me for sex when my profile clearly tells them contrary of that!!! .... You're on the site, you are fair game for them to take a chance. Don't like it? Go find another kind of site.

Without taking a chance, the result will always be "Nada". So much better to take a chance, against relevancy.

My profile specifically says I'm not here for sex. Duh! ... Doesn't matter. You're here. They're going to contact. Duh! case closed.


Rochblue 46F

2/21/2020 12:44 pm

Heathen_G,

Ut oh. Here comes the childish retort now, once you've realized you've been backed into a corner and without a factual, logical explanation that can justify your fictional mentality. Plan B: Retort and start silly, childish and off-topic slurs to feed your ego, rather to simply admit guilt and facts as they are at face value. You are precisely the problem of what's wrong in society and on this very site.

"Then high time for a break. Join a gym, work out for 5 or so years."

Wrong. I actually do gym several times weekly and use this site as a form of socializing and entertainment purposes, just like hundreds of millions others do on the FFN. Know purpose.

"Your understanding has some cobwebs."

Wrong again! It's your understanding that entirely has cobwebs. Read! Comprehend! If the site itself that you are on here specifically says it's purpose CAN be used for personals reasons and CAN be used for social media/networking reasons and that it IS a combined site for such purposes, then that DOES NOT mean that it is ONLY designed for the intent of sex/hookups ONLY. What don't you still understand there? Even if we were to determine if this is a personals-only site (which it isn't)....even then in that one category, people would still have various avenues, options and reasons of what they were seeking here in many different forms.....sure, some might be here for sex (obviously), but others seek in-person friendships, love, companionship, romance and things like that, too. However, it's way more than that. This site offers so much to all kinds of people for all kinds of reasons. I'm just sorry that you're too thick-headed to comprehend and realize that 700+ million members on the FFN are not all here seeking solely sex. It's you who has the cobwebs.

"Men have respect to give, but only if respect is earned. You are not earning respect. However, you do have to respect the site."

Wrong! The vast majority of men on this site have zero respect! That's a blatant fact. I agree with what you're saying, though. My own quote that I constantly use with others is "give respect, get respect". As I have told you before, you are not seeing things from a woman's perspective here on site. That's the problem! You're theorizing things, not basing it off of what we're seeing and dealing with as women here on site from our experiences here with others. You cannot have both sides battling over earning respect, while neither can do so because of the battle. There has to be balance. You talk to me nice, I talk to you nice. You write me for the right reasons, we establish friendship. You talk to me like a respectful human being and as a woman, and I'll bend over backwards to make sure you're a loyal friend. Turn on me and mistreat me, you'll not only get the verbal repercussions of it, but you'll also earn the hate, get exposed publicly for your idiocy and will earn yourself a poor reputation to other members and community watchers on this site to those few available women who actually do exist here. Like I said before, we each sign up on this site as an equal. We all have identical odds and chances for whatever we come here seeking and it's all upon how one chooses their conduct which will determine their fate. It's honestly a very simple concept. Respect the site? The site itself earns no respect. Again, I have been here for 20+ years and the complete transformation of this site only tells me that it's a greedy and corrupt business. What's more, how do you actually earn respect for a site when it has the terrible history linked to it's fairly recent past in lawsuits, security breaches and things like that? Research it if you don't know what I'm talking about. Again, for my simplistic purposes here, I'm simply riding things out and utilizing this site's freebie options until eventually every single thing about this site cracks down into a payment. You don't earn public respect by making a site which is illusioned to be for the purpose of bringing people together, when in fact all that it's doing is contrary to purposely dividing and making it an impossibility for people to unite via business, money and sheer greed.

"That for one, is disrespectful. Nobody is going to give you respect talking that way."

I'm generalizing in that comment. Again, each individual determine's his/her fate around here per their conduct. You aren't seeing things from a woman's perspective here and what we deal with. That's the almost entire problem with you. You act like I'm coming here and reaching out to others and demand respect once they reply. Reality is this: I contact nobody at all first. For those who contact me, yes, I expect respect. I expect that they are reading my profile, I expect that they have a common level of RELEVANT reason and purpose of contacting me and I expect that they are contacting me in agreeing compliance of what my profile tells them. If I say I'm here to chat...contact me to chat. If I say to keep balance...then don't ignore/disappear or have me continually pulling teeth for replies. If I say to chat with me non-sexually....then keep it clean. If I say I'm not here to meet anyone....then don't ask to meet or attempt to persuade me or to think that you are some exception to that rule. Get with it! This isn't rocket science here or anything! If the road sign says the speed limit is 55....then don't expect to get ticketed if you're going 70. If the road sign says "one-way" and you're traveling the wrong way on that one-way street....you're going to run into conflict! If the road sign tells me that I'm permitted to be here for certain reasons...then that's why I'm here. You see, it's all in conduct. And as I've explained before, those who are ignorant and lazy and who aren't reading these road signs are the idiots who are only earning their own hate, bad reputation and disrespect around here. You're barking up the wrong tree.

"Yes, I know I'm right."

Key words "FOR THOSE PEOPLE WHO COME HERE SEEKING SEX"...that doesn't mean we all are. That means that plenty of others are here for other reasons, as well (hence social media/networking...ya know, like the very blog you're on).

"You're on the site, you are fair game for them to take a chance. Don't like it? Go find another kind of site."

You're a terrible listener! Do you understand what the word 'relevant' means?

Relevant (defined):
* closely connected or appropriate to what is being done or considered.
* appropriate to the current time, period, or circumstances; of contemporary interest.

True, I'm on site for reasons that the site itself clearly defines as being a "COMBINED PERSONALS AND SOCIAL MEDIA/NETWORKING SITE". Hello!?!?! That means I am also fair game to be here if my sole purpose is for the latter reason. What do you not understand yet?? If I specifically tell people on profile openly and publicly that I am NOT here for sex and that I am NOT here to meet and that I AM ONLY here to socialize and use this site for online_only purposes, then I have done all I can do. For those who ARE seeking sex, who ARE seeking meets then there is NO RELEVANCY! Capisce yet?
You don't show up at a formal dinner party in blue jeans and a tee shirt if your invitation specifically tells you it's FORMAL. "Formal" being RELEVANCY to ONLY show up in fine dress wear! "Blue jeans and tee shirt" being IRRELEVANCY to NOT show up in casual wear!
You seem to never comprehend the most simple concept and facts, ever!

"Without taking a chance, the result will always be "Nada". So much better to take a chance, against relevancy."

There is already "nada" chance if someone's profile specifically tells them:
A .) Their profile is ALWAYS kept up to date.
B .) That they are here ONLY to socialize and for online-only reasons.
c .) That they are NOT here to meet anyone.

You act as if this "chance" thing exists when in fact your idiotic logic doesn't ever stack up to making sense at all.

"Doesn't matter. You're here. They're going to contact. Duh! case closed."

Does matter! Duh! You don't realize that it's because of all of these idiotic losers that this site is in shambles, why almost no real women exist, talk or meet men. I can take 10 minutes to surf women's profiles and can likely find a handful of them which all tell you this in one way or another. When you read them, add it up....they are all sending you the same exact message around here that the idiots with this mentality are destroying this site to the core, which inevitably has driven hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions of real, legitimate, decent and willing women off of this site over the years because of it. But hey, if you don't care that this site is 80% meat market, 17% site-generated fake profiles, 2% catfish and 1% of real and legitimate women (to have that 1% be broken down into 0.5% bi/lesbians who ONLY seek other women and the other 0.5% of combined real women who either have zero interest to meet men, talk to men or have anything to do with them because of what losers they are due to behavior, laziness and ignorance), then hey, have at it. After all, you're the one who is on here supposedly seeking women and for the purpose of sex . 700+ million people worldwide on the FFN, you'd think this place would be oozing with legitimate, willing and decent women. It's not. Look around. You need a reality check. Where are all of the women and where have they all disappeared to over the years? It DOES matter if men are IRRELEVANTLY contacting women who have NO RELEVANT intent or purpose!!!! It's precisely what has driven us off. You're not seeing that because you live in a bubble, you don't see things from a woman's perspective and because you have this idiotic level of mentality that this site is only one thing, when in fact it serves lots of other purposes for lots of other people and for lots of other reasons. If/when men finally understand this, women will gladly and eagerly begin flocking back to site by the thousands. We simply have zero incentive to do so because of how deplorable men like you have made this once-fun and potential place to be. So that's why women like me ceased searches or simply remain here for the simple entertainment like blogging, camming, reading stories, blinging or posting/rating photo contests and things like that. Site has zero about potential for the average male coming here seeking sex because his idiotic mentality, behavior, conduct has shaped his environment which now lacks real females. Because of that fact, that drove fierce competition due to gender imbalance. Because of that, women are now being bombarded and overwhelmed with dozens of idiots daily who aren't even of any relevancy of why most of us women even exist here to begin with. And that's the problem. So if you can't respect why I'm here for my simple and legitimate purposes, then it's you who needs to be schooled or to simply go away. This is an endless series of blogs with you that gets us nowhere due to your ignorance of fact.

Oh, and by the way....I'm still awaiting an answer to my last blog question I have asked you now several times. I find it ironic that you pick and choose just the things you quote about which would start controversy and argument, yet you bypass and ignore the same question that you're asked to answer when you find yourself backed into a corner. Again, here it is...

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/22/2020 2:21 am

You've done an abundance of childish retorts and jabs... now here is my one: You're fat.....You're not in the gym enough.

AND you DO have to respect the site you're on. You DO have to expect chubby chasers asking you about sex. That is just the kind of site you're playing on.

Desn't matter if "ALL" are not here for sex , there are a majority who are here , and rightly so, here, seeking sex. If you're on this site, or affiliated sites, you are fair game.
If women are not interested in sex, or not interested in men inviting them to have sex, then those women should not be on sites like this one, and certainly should not be upset about men seeking sex, on a sex site. Now go away.


Rochblue 46F

2/22/2020 10:51 am

Heathen_G,

You're forever ignoring my question yet...

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???

"You've done an abundance of childish retorts and jabs... "

No I haven't. I don't retort on anyone, nor am I childish. Stick to facts, relevancy, evidence and proof. The only reason you're called out in such terms of things like "idiocy" is because you repeatedly cannot stick to any of this stuff and about what this site is vs. what you fabricate it to be. Therefore, he we are endlessly covering the same stuff and getting nowhere.

"now here is my one: You're fat.....You're not in the gym enough."

Now who is the one who is retorting childishly? The irony is overwhelming with you! I thought you lived by the golden rule of 'give respect, get respect'? Too funny!
You make no valid point of me being fat, other than boosting your ego in a childish attempt to put others down. Typical of losers on site like yourself. Considering that my profile clearly is public and for all to read, there is no mystery in the fact that my profile's 'Body Type' section tells any reader that I'm a BBW. No mystery there that you must come here to attempt insult for what everyone already knows of my physical self. Again, too funny!
So by the fact that I'm fat means that I'm not in the gym enough? As usual, you're clueless in life about everyone and everything. You do realize that there are fat people who go to the gym seven days a week and are genetically coded in their DNA and metabolism to be forever fat. Similarly, there are skinny people out there who can sit on their ass all day long and not go to the gym at all and be forever skinny for the very same reason. Perhaps you still have many cobwebs that require dusting in your shallow-minded life. 61 years old and I'm perplexed how you've made it this far through life being so clueless. Rather than come here on this blog, how about picking up books and educating yourself? You can start by going to the corporate page of this site, for starters.

"AND you DO have to respect the site you're on."

Sorry, I have no obligations and I do NOT have to respect anything I don't find valuable reasons to respect. What makes you think that I MUST respect this site...or anything else of choice in life, for that matter?

"You DO have to expect chubby chasers asking you about sex."

True....if that's what my profile were to outline....but it doesn't.

"That is just the kind of site you're playing on."

Wrong! I'll specifically say that this is the kind of site that CAN (heavy emphasis on the word 'CAN' ) be used for. It also CAN be used for other reasons. No matter how much I go over this and with fact, proof and sources, you are blind to that fact. It's a combination site!

"Desn't matter if "ALL" are not here for sex , there are a majority who are here , and rightly so, here, seeking sex. If you're on this site, or affiliated sites, you are fair game."

I may as well be talking to the wall. Sure, this site CAN be used as a sex site for sure and true, the majority of men on site are here for that search. That's fine and dandy. But for those who are NOT here for sex, then not only understand that this site has multiple purpose, but also respect those who are here for reasons other than sex. Remember, the 'give respect, get respect' model? The entire purpose of someone's profile is precisely to outline each person's reason of choice of why they are on this site! True, I'm fair game IF and ONLY IF my profile is telling the crowd that yes, I have come on here seeking sex. Otherwise, you're disrespecting me. Not sure what I'm not getting through to you yet. You're the problem on this site and in society of why no women exist, reply or meet. Wake up to that reality!

"If women are not interested in sex, or not interested in men inviting them to have sex, then those women should not be on sites like this one, and certainly should not be upset about men seeking sex, on a sex site. Now go away."

Now you're just being ridiculously ignorant and comical! So by your logic, if I (or any other woman on this site) are not seeking sex, then we shouldn't be on this site at all? What!?!?!? How do you then explain the dozen or more social media/networking options this site offers to it's members here when you open your eyes and clearly see options of chat (chat rooms/IM/email), web camming, erotic stories, blogs, groups, blinging, What's Hot section, Sex Academy section, photo contests, adult movies section, adult magazine section, etc...????????? By your flawed logic, you honestly think that 700+ million combined FFN members ALL come on this and it's sister sites entirely for the search of sex, only sex and nothing at all but sex? That's hilarious!!!!!! Even more funny when you can make a single mouse click by going to this site's corporate page and reading that this site's very design tells every and any member here that it IS a COMBINED SITE for the use of ADULT PERSONALS uses (friendships, sex, dating, romance, love, swinging, etc...) AND for SOCIAL MEDIA/NETWORKING uses. I'm not going anywhere because I belong to a site that is offering me services for SOCIAL MEDIA/NETWORKING purposes, NOT for the sex/personals purposes. Still don't understand how simple that is, do ya? Can't wrap your head around that concept because your ego is sky high and what you simply want to believe this site is doesn't stack up to the reality of what it really is. That's what it's all about with you and men like you. Educate yourself or YOU go away!

"...and certainly should not be upset about men seeking sex"

I'm in no way upset over men here seeking sex. Again, I'm agreeing with you that they are at the right place for that search. What I am not agreeing on is why idiots aren't reading the very site they belong to and understand that they belong to a combination site that people come here for ALL kinds of purposes OTHER than sex, why the idiots are NOT reading profiles, why idiots aren't comprehending very simple and basic criteria and why the idiots aren't respecting what's written. So sure, if they come here seeking sex, fine and dandy....just contact the correct people for that search and for RELEVANT reasons, for RELEVANT purpose and for RELEVANT intent. A guy seeking sex makes zero sense in having the ability to read profiles, ignoring to and then proceeding to blindly contacting a woman who clearly tells them that she's here ONLY for socializing and NOT to meet. Duh! You'll never get that basic concept! Do you purposely blow through stop signs when you're in your car or do you observe it, read it and comprehend it's purpose and meaning and then respect it to make a stop? If your directions tell you that your destination is located on Pine Street, then you aren't going to find your hotel if you're heading the wrong direction and ignorantly insist that it's on Chestnut Street. You'll never understand analogies like these. You're unbelievably thick-headed. No mystery why the site is in shambles because of this crackpot mentality.

All the while, you're getting agitated with me. At the end of the day, a fact is a fact! At the end of the day, this site clearly describes to anyone here of what it is and why it exists as a combined personals site and a social media outlet. FACT! You're trying to go against the grain here. You're getting pissed off at me and I'm simply the messenger here. I do not own this site. I do not compose the corporate page. I do not tell the population here of what this site's design and purpose is. The site itself tells us that, not me! At the end of the day, it is the site itself that says these words to it's members here:

"Every day we’re finding new ways to help our members engage, communicate and connect with people who are looking for exciting experiences both online and offline."

See where it says "COMMUNICATE" and "ENGAGE" and "BOTH ONLINE AND OFFLINE"??????
My purpose here: ONLINE! I belong here as much as the guy seeking sex OFFLINE! If you can't understand that, go away! End of story!

"Today, FriendFinder’s award-winning portfolio of services synergistically combines the technical and brand assets of online personals, social-networking, live video chat, recorded video, online chat rooms, webcams, instant messaging, photo and video sharing, and premium content. "

See where it says "COMBINES" and "PERSONALS" and "SOCIAL-NETWORKING (and goes on to specify a few of those things)"????
My purpose here: SOCIAL-NETWORKING! I belong here as much as the guy seeking sex OFFLINE! If you can't understand that, go away! End of story!

You can go on your daily rant day after day until you're blue in the face and be pissed off at me infinitely. That does NOT change the fact that this site specifically outlines it's purpose to tailor my needs here as a member to actively engage in social media/networking and online-only purposes. End of story. Don't like that FACT? Then perhaps it's you who needs to gtfoh or educate himself!


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/22/2020 10:52 pm

I thought you lived by the golden rule of 'give respect, get respect'? Too funny! ,.... Nope .... don't live by that at all. Respect is earned.

tells any reader that I'm a BBW. ... That means < "Fat", or "Obese", or "Morbidly obese". Society is not really PC.

The site is a sex site....again, you kept saying , "It's not ONLY".... however, it is a sex site where people go to find sex and sexual attention.

this site CAN be used as a sex site for sure and true, the majority of men on site are here for that search. ..... No, this site IS a sex site first, .....and CAN be used for other stuff.

But for those who are NOT here for sex, then not only understand that this site has multiple purpose, but also respect those who are here for reasons other than sex. .... No.... you're on a sex site, any chubby chaser may take his chance at you.

Remember, the 'give respect, get respect' model? .... No.

Respect is earned, not merely given. Way too late for you, but if you want respect from anyone else, you have to earn it. Not just give it.

I'm fair game IF and ONLY IF my profile is telling the crowd that yes, I have come on here seeking sex..... No... you placed a profile on this site. men will take a chance at contacting you for sex.

Keep this in mind: "If women are not interested in sex, or not interested in men inviting them to have sex, then those women should not be on sites like this one, and certainly should not be upset about men seeking sex, on a sex site. ..... That sounds like you....Now go away."


Rochblue 46F

2/23/2020 7:16 am

Heathen_G,

You're forever ignoring my question yet...

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???

"Nope .... don't live by that at all. Respect is earned."

Then that's exactly the problem with you then. Nobody can just sit around not giving respect, yet expecting others to magically respect you. You don't earn a paycheck by sitting at home and doing nothing. You don't earn a home with a Jacuzzi, a pool, two sports cars and a home cinema by sitting on your ass and doing nothing. The same applies to respect. You cannot sit around expecting others to respect you for no reason if you have the crackpot mentality that it's you that they should earn their respect from and without reason as if you're some sort of almighty Pharaoh or something. Respect is a two-way street. Give and receive; receive and return. It's simple, not one-sided.

"That means < "Fat", or "Obese", or "Morbidly obese". Society is not really PC."

It doesn't matter what BBW means. This entire comment altogether is purely irrelevant and sidetracked from what we were talking about because you felt some need to retort and degrade me as retaliation of the answers you were getting solely on the fact that you cannot agree to written site purpose for ALL people who come here and not just your bubble perception. For the record, BBW can mean anything at all, from chubby to obese....and for those who are morbidly obese, people have even coined the term SSBBW (super sized). Get used to those facts because the American statistics constantly show an endless rise in the number of people within our population who are overweight and/or obese. Again, like everything I ever tell you, that is fact. If you have a problem with BBW's, then I suggest you not talk to me or simply move somewhere like Ethiopia, Nepal or Japan, since the US is ranked about #1 for the highest rate of overweight, obese and out of shape people in the world. Not a surprise that this level of irony would come from someone as dense as yourself.

"The site is a sex site...."

As I have said before, you can sit here day after day until you're blue in the face, but that doesn't change the facts about what this site is. It's NOT solely a sex site, it's a combination PERSONALS SITE (in itself has many purposes other than purely sex), as well as an adult-based SOCIAL MEDIA/NETWORKING outlet.

"...again, you kept saying , "It's not ONLY".... however, it is a sex site where people go to find sex and sexual attention."

Correct, it is NOT ONLY anything at all. What point are you trying to make here?? This site is NOT cut out for one and only one purpose. It's design is for many purposes, hence it's description of COMBINED PERSONALS
"


Rochblue 46F

2/23/2020 8:34 am

Heathen_G,

You're forever ignoring my question yet...

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???

"Nope .... don't live by that at all. Respect is earned."

Then that explains why you are exactly the problem then. You simply cannot go on through life expecting to do nothing and magically have people bend over backwards for you in earning your respect for them. Nothing in life comes like that. You never receive a paycheck for sitting home and doing nothing at all. You never earn a home, a Jacuzzi, a pool, two luxury cars and a home cinema if you sit on your ass and expect something to magically appear in your life without reason. Same is true with respect. It's a two-way street. Give it, receive it; receive it, give it. It's not some one-sided thing.

"That means < "Fat", or "Obese", or "Morbidly obese". Society is not really PC."

No, it necessarily doesn't mean that just because someone is BBW that automatically that translates into meaning the largest side of it. BBW can mean anything from chubby to obese. To take it a step further, people have even coined the term SSBBW (super sized) to those who are obese/morbidly obese.
Nevertheless, you're off topic anyway and BBW has nothing at all to do with anything pertaining to our discussion. You only childishly felt a need to bring that sort of thing up as retort and retaliation against me for degrading purposes simply because you dislike the answers I'm giving you pertaining to the factual reality of what the site itself tells us it is. Since you cannot accept those facts at face value for what it says, you find a need to be a man-child in order to justify what isn't a fact at all.
You'd better get used to the fact that BBW's exist, because according to global statistics, the US is among the highest rated country for overweight, obese and out of shape people. As with everything I describe to you, it's based on fact! If you dislike BBW's, overweight or out of shape people, then I highly suggest you don't talk to me or move to some other country of a low body mass statistic, such as Ethiopia, Nepal or Japan. This level of irony from you comes as no shock to me with your never-ending crackpot mentality.

You: Says "this is a (only) sex site", this is (only) a "hookup site"...
Fact: Site description claims it's a combination personals site/social media outlet.

You: "You're fat" (hence, has a problem with overweight people)
Fact:
* Endlessly converses with someone on a blog, knowing the whole while per my profile that she's a BBW.
* Lives in the US, which has one of the highest global obesity rankings in the world. Washington alone is rated #28 highest obesity states out of the total 50 states. Judging by your logic, you should at least be living in Colorado, which statistically has the lowest obesity rate in the country.

"The site is a sex site...."

As I keep saying, you can go over this until you're blue in the face day after day, but that doe NOT change the facts of what this site tells all of us what it's design and purpose is for. I send you quotes directly from the corporate page itself....you ignore it. I tell you to go there, to read it over and give you direction to that source...you ignore it. Then ironically you get pissed off and annoyed with me, continually returning back and falsely claiming "it's a sex site, it's a sex site". Too funny!!!!!!!!

"again, you kept saying , "It's not ONLY".... however, it is a sex site where people go to find sex and sexual attention."

Correct, this site is NOT ONLY one of any one thing at all. It is a combination personals/social media site. That has been determined by facts, evidence, proof and source already. We're past that already. So what is your point? You are the one here who keeps saying "it's a sex site, it's a sex site, it's a sex site"!!! (meaning by you, that it IS ONLY designed for one and ONLY one purpose, not me). Incorrect!!!!! It's a combination site designed for many, many purposes and options for it's members here. Again, what is your point here???

"No.... you're on a sex site, any chubby chaser may take his chance at you."

As usual, you're a terrible listener. You pick and choose comments that ONLY feed your flawed perceptions and override/ignore all evidence that proves you WRONG!
And yes, as I have said, I'd be fair game to anyone seeking sex IF IF IF IF IF IF MY PROFILE SPECIFICALLY SAID THAT MY PURPOSE ON THIS SITE WAS FOR THE PERSONALS INTENT OF MEETING SOMEONE FOR SEX. IT DOESN'T SAY THAT, NITWIT! It says I'm here for SOCIAL MEDIA stuff....That means that anyone who contacts me for sex is irrelevantly contacting me. PERIOD! Go the fuck away! Write me with ONLY RELEVANT purpose and RELEVANT intent, per profile (which is what a profile's design is for)! Why do you think we have profiles if they aren't meant to be read or to be determining factors if two people are reasonably on the same page seeking similar things?? Duh!

"Remember, the 'give respect, get respect' model? .... No."

Comes to no surprise.

"Respect is earned, not merely given. Way too late for you, but if you want respect from anyone else, you have to earn it. Not just give it."

I've gone over this with you above already. You cannot give respect over and over again to someone and have the other person be a complete asswad to you. Similarly, you cannot be a total asswad and expect others to respect you. As I've said, respect is a two-way street. It's a give and receive; receive and give. That's all. There's no demand that one is here only earning respect when another half isn't giving it...and vice versa.
No, it's never too late for anyone to respect one another. I respect the fact that you are on this site for your reasons of finding women for sex. I've never once denied that, or tried to tell you otherwise. Irony is, you have endlessly disrespected me by constantly trying to tell me this site is something which it is not and have told me to go elsewhere. This is precisely where your lack of education and your ignorance shine through, then gets translated into disrespect because of it. Had you merely READ all the supplied articles I've shown you and comprehended what they say word for word, then you'd have a really good understanding of what this site REALLY is, for all the different range of people it serves and for the many different reasons. Had that comprehension occurred, you'd respect me for that and have no issues at all for my purpose on site. But you don't understand anything! You refuse to listen and refuse to learn! Then because of that, you go around blaming the innocent for your own idiocy and lack of education. You rely on fiction, rather on facts.

"No... you placed a profile on this site. men will take a chance at contacting you for sex."

Ummm, hello!!!! If you openly admit I've placed a profile on site, then why the hell aren't you reading it, comprehending it's contents and most importantly, respecting me for precisely what it outlines! Again, your ignorance shines through to no end!!!! We have profiles! They are designed to be read! They are designed to determine if people seek basic and RELEVANT purpose or compatibility factors BEFORE and PRIOR to making contact with that person and ONLY IF those reasons are RELEVANT! Contacting a women for sex when her profile specifically tells a guy it's updated, she's here ONLY to socialize and NOT to meet says nothing at all about that guy's IQ level and everything about his laziness/ignorance level, hence, an immediate turn off to the millions of women like me who exist here for online-only activity.

"Keep this in mind: "If women are not interested in sex, or not interested in men inviting them to have sex, then those women should not be on sites like this one, and certainly should not be upset about men seeking sex, on a sex site. ..... That sounds like you....Now go away.""

Wrong again, as usual! Stick to the site facts!!!!! It says it's a combination personals AND social media/networking outlet! Period! That means that people can come here for either OR both reasons. You're an idiot! Period! You'll never understand that I have a legitimate right to be here if I simply ONLY want to be here for social media stuff.
* Say I enjoy blogging....I can come here for that very specific reason ONLY!
* Say I enjoy rating other members nude/sexy photo contests...that is adult-based and I can come here for that very specific reason ONLY!
* Say I enjoy reading or writing erotic stories...that is adult-based and I can come here for that very specific reason ONLY!

These are ALL examples of ADULT-BASED SOCIAL MEDIA!!!! What the hell part of that do you NOT understand yet????? If this site was strictly about being a personals-only or sex site, then why the hell would blogs exist? Why the hell would member photo contests exist? Why the hell would erotic stories exist? Why the hell would web camming exist? Why the hell would groups exist? Why the hell would blinging exist? Why the hell would adult videos/magazines sections exist? Why the hell would the entire 'Community' or the 'What's Hot' sections exist?? And why the hell would the site specifically outline itself to say that it's a combined personals and social media/networking outlet? Why the hell would the site itself specifically entail it's description to specifically tell us it's tailored for BOTH ONLINE AND OFFLINE purposes????

You cannot honestly answer any of these things, because you know if you would that you'd be backed into a corner and would have to admit or apologize for your ignorance and lack of knowledge to me. We all know you simply won't let your ego to be relaxed on that level, so here we are day after day arguing about the same shit, knowing damn well that with the mountain of evidence I tell you all the time, the facts never change and you are WRONG! Keep THAT in mind.


Rochblue 46F

2/23/2020 9:13 am

Heathen_G,

You're forever ignoring my question yet...

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???

"Nope .... don't live by that at all. Respect is earned."

Then that explains why you are exactly the problem then. You simply cannot go on through life expecting to do nothing and magically have people bend over backwards for you in earning your respect for them. Nothing in life comes like that. You never receive a paycheck for sitting home and doing nothing at all. You never earn a home, a Jacuzzi, a pool, two luxury cars and a home cinema if you sit on your ass and expect something to magically appear in your life without reason. Same is true with respect. It's a two-way street. Give it, receive it; receive it, give it. It's not some one-sided thing.

"That means < "Fat", or "Obese", or "Morbidly obese". Society is not really PC."

No, it necessarily doesn't mean that just because someone is BBW that automatically that translates into meaning the largest side of it. BBW can mean anything from chubby to obese. To take it a step further, people have even coined the term SSBBW (super sized) to those who are obese/morbidly obese.
Nevertheless, you're off topic anyway and BBW has nothing at all to do with anything pertaining to our discussion. You only childishly felt a need to bring that sort of thing up as retort and retaliation against me for degrading purposes simply because you dislike the answers I'm giving you pertaining to the factual reality of what the site itself tells us it is. Since you cannot accept those facts at face value for what it says, you find a need to be a man-child in order to justify what isn't a fact at all.
You'd better get used to the fact that BBW's exist, because according to global statistics, the US is among the highest rated country for overweight, obese and out of shape people. As with everything I describe to you, it's based on fact! If you dislike BBW's, overweight or out of shape people, then I highly suggest you don't talk to me or move to some other country of a low body mass statistic, such as Ethiopia, Nepal or Japan. This level of irony from you comes as no shock to me with your never-ending crackpot mentality.

You: Says "this is a (only) sex site", this is (only) a "hookup site"...
Fact: Site description claims it's a combination personals site/social media outlet.

You: "You're fat" (hence, has a problem with overweight people)
Fact:
* Endlessly converses with someone on a blog, knowing the whole while per my profile that she's a BBW.
* Lives in the US, which has one of the highest global obesity rankings in the world. Washington alone is rated #28 highest obesity states out of the total 50 states. Judging by your logic, you should at least be living in Colorado, which statistically has the lowest obesity rate in the country.

"The site is a sex site...."

As I keep saying, you can go over this until you're blue in the face day after day, but that doe NOT change the facts of what this site tells all of us what it's design and purpose is for. I send you quotes directly from the corporate page itself....you ignore it. I tell you to go there, to read it over and give you direction to that source...you ignore it. Then ironically you get pissed off and annoyed with me, continually returning back and falsely claiming "it's a sex site, it's a sex site". Too funny!!!!!!!!

"again, you kept saying , "It's not ONLY".... however, it is a sex site where people go to find sex and sexual attention."

Correct, this site is NOT ONLY one of any one thing at all. It is a combination personals/social media site. That has been determined by facts, evidence, proof and source already. We're past that already. So what is your point? You are the one here who keeps saying "it's a sex site, it's a sex site, it's a sex site"!!! (meaning by you, that it IS ONLY designed for one and ONLY one purpose, not me). Incorrect!!!!! It's a combination site designed for many, many purposes and options for it's members here. Again, what is your point here???

"No.... you're on a sex site, any chubby chaser may take his chance at you."

As usual, you're a terrible listener. You pick and choose comments that ONLY feed your flawed perceptions and override/ignore all evidence that proves you WRONG!
And yes, as I have said, I'd be fair game to anyone seeking sex IF IF IF IF IF IF MY PROFILE SPECIFICALLY SAID THAT MY PURPOSE ON THIS SITE WAS FOR THE PERSONALS INTENT OF MEETING SOMEONE FOR SEX. IT DOESN'T SAY THAT, NITWIT! It says I'm here for SOCIAL MEDIA stuff....That means that anyone who contacts me for sex is irrelevantly contacting me. PERIOD! Go the fuck away! Write me with ONLY RELEVANT purpose and RELEVANT intent, per profile (which is what a profile's design is for)! Why do you think we have profiles if they aren't meant to be read or to be determining factors if two people are reasonably on the same page seeking similar things?? Duh!

"Remember, the 'give respect, get respect' model? .... No."

Comes to no surprise.

"Respect is earned, not merely given. Way too late for you, but if you want respect from anyone else, you have to earn it. Not just give it."

I've gone over this with you above already. You cannot give respect over and over again to someone and have the other person be a complete asswad to you. Similarly, you cannot be a total asswad and expect others to respect you. As I've said, respect is a two-way street. It's a give and receive; receive and give. That's all. There's no demand that one is here only earning respect when another half isn't giving it...and vice versa.
No, it's never too late for anyone to respect one another. I respect the fact that you are on this site for your reasons of finding women for sex. I've never once denied that, or tried to tell you otherwise. Irony is, you have endlessly disrespected me by constantly trying to tell me this site is something which it is not and have told me to go elsewhere. This is precisely where your lack of education and your ignorance shine through, then gets translated into disrespect because of it. Had you merely READ all the supplied articles I've shown you and comprehended what they say word for word, then you'd have a really good understanding of what this site REALLY is, for all the different range of people it serves and for the many different reasons. Had that comprehension occurred, you'd respect me for that and have no issues at all for my purpose on site. But you don't understand anything! You refuse to listen and refuse to learn! Then because of that, you go around blaming the innocent for your own idiocy and lack of education. You rely on fiction, rather on facts.

"No... you placed a profile on this site. men will take a chance at contacting you for sex."

Ummm, hello!!!! If you openly admit I've placed a profile on site, then why the hell aren't you reading it, comprehending it's contents and most importantly, respecting me for precisely what it outlines??? Again, your ignorance shines through to no end!!!! We have profiles! They are designed to be read! They are designed to determine if people seek basic and RELEVANT purpose or compatibility factors BEFORE and PRIOR to making contact with that person and ONLY IF those reasons are RELEVANT! Contacting a women for sex when her profile specifically tells a guy it's updated, she's here ONLY to socialize and NOT to meet says nothing at all about that guy's IQ level and everything about his laziness/ignorance level, hence, an immediate turn off to the millions of women like me who exist here for online-only activity.

"Keep this in mind: "If women are not interested in sex, or not interested in men inviting them to have sex, then those women should not be on sites like this one, and certainly should not be upset about men seeking sex, on a sex site. ..... That sounds like you....Now go away.""

Wrong again, as usual! Stick to the site facts!!!!! It says it's a combination personals AND social media/networking outlet! Period! That means that people can come here for either OR both reasons. You're an idiot! Period! You'll never understand that I have a legitimate right to be here if I simply ONLY want to be here for social media stuff.
* Say I enjoy blogging....I can come here for that very specific reason ONLY!
* Say I enjoy rating other members nude/sexy photo contests...that is adult-based and I can come here for that very specific reason ONLY!
* Say I enjoy reading or writing erotic stories...that is adult-based and I can come here for that very specific reason ONLY!

I've never once been upset by the fact that this site CAN and IS used by many people who specifically come here seeking sex. Why would I? They are surely on the right kind of COMBINATION site, if that's what they so choose to seek and they have every right to do so. You just can't get the idea that many women (and even some men) are on this site who don't seek that very same thing at all and only enjoy the lighter side of online activities for their reason here. So round and round we go here with idiotic and flawed mentality...I respect any reason(s) for why others come here and use this site, but men like you show zero respect for women like me who choose to use it for online purposes. Do you not see that irony yet when you're telling me I'm on the wrong kind of site for adult-based social media (even though this very site confirms that in writing) or that I should head over to a more vanilla site like "friend Finder" or by repeatedly telling me to "go away"?????? You're the problem! You aren't earning any respect from anyone (and you never will) because you fail and blatantly refuse to ever give it. Show me that you respect at least my existence on this site for what it is and for exactly what the site itself says I'm perfectly within range to be here for! If you don't respect me for the human being as I am, then so be it. Just respect what people come here for just like everything else in life! You don't have to love the fact that someone is a trans-gender or agree on their choices or that that some businesses even have specified bathrooms for trans-gender folks. You don't have to love some of the laws or agree upon them...but what you must do is acknowledge they exist and that they are to be followed. Moral of the story: We're all on this earth together as one. You don't have to agree on things. You just have to respect that we all have our right to do things as individuals. And when something is in writing, it's pre-established of what those rights are! There is absolutely 1,000% no denying that if this site is telling it's members here that this site CAN be used for an adult-based level of social media/networking, then guess what? No matter how much you bicker, disagree, put up a hissy fit or misrepresent it, the facts never change....the site continue to always give it's members here that option, if they so choose. It's in writing! Wake up! That's indisputable fact!

These are ALL examples of ADULT-BASED SOCIAL MEDIA!!!! What the hell part of that do you NOT understand yet????? If this site was strictly about being a personals-only or sex site, then why the hell would blogs exist? Why the hell would member photo contests exist? Why the hell would erotic stories exist? Why the hell would web camming exist? Why the hell would groups exist? Why the hell would blinging exist? Why the hell would adult videos/magazines sections exist? Why the hell would the entire 'Community' or the 'What's Hot' sections exist?? And why the hell would the site specifically outline itself to say that it's a combined personals and social media/networking outlet? Why the hell would the site itself specifically entail it's description to specifically tell us it's tailored for BOTH ONLINE AND OFFLINE purposes????

You cannot honestly answer any of these things, because you know if you would that you'd be backed into a corner and would have to admit or apologize for your ignorance and lack of knowledge to me. We all know you simply won't let your ego to be relaxed on that level, so here we are day after day arguing about the same shit, knowing damn well that with the mountain of evidence I tell you all the time, the facts never change and you are WRONG! Keep THAT in mind.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/24/2020 5:01 am

Attn R...

This is a sex site. Men who want fat women will mostly contact you for sex, regardless of why you are here..

Are they pathetic or desperate? Most may be. Others , have an imprint for that.


Rochblue 46F

2/24/2020 10:52 am

Heathen_G,

"This is a sex site."

Hey, no it is NOT JUST or ONLY a sex site! What it really is, is a combination site of various things. Read! Comprehend! Observe every damn option around you on this site! You're beyond stupid and ignorant!

"Men who want fat women will mostly contact you for sex, regardless of why you are here"

Hey goofball, men don't even realize I am a BBW because nobody even reads profiles at all. This is precisely why the clowns who are contacting me are clueless and contacting women such as myself on site for IRRELEVANT intent or purpose. You're a terrible listener, terrible at comprehension or are simply blatantly stupid or ignorant. This has all been gone over a dozen or more times with you now and it's all laziness and ignorance. Period!

"Are they pathetic or desperate? Most may be. Others , have an imprint for that."

It honestly doesn't matter what they are. They have their purpose on site just as everyone else does. They also have the equal opportunities to conduct theirselves appropriately and follow basic guidelines. We can endlessly bicker over all of this day to day, but it doesn't change the fact of what this site is, per it's outlined description IN WRITING, nor does it change the fact that the idiots are continually driving this site and it's women further and further away.


Rochblue 46F

2/24/2020 11:17 am

Heathen_G,

You're forever ignoring my question yet...

Judging by the logic of what you've just told me here in this quote of it being a "sex site", please explain to me what this blog is that you're on?? Also, please explain to me how a straight guy like yourself wanders on to a blog that's written by another male and contains no other females on this blog to date, nor is the topic regarding anyone seeking some sort of sexual hookup??? In addition, how many females out of the total zero on this blog have contacted you, made sexual advances or have sought sex through this particular blog???


Rochblue 46F

2/24/2020 11:46 am

Heathen_G,

"This is a sex site, this is a sex site, this is a sex site...."

WRONG for the 30th time! This site CAN have that potential for sure for the search of sex, but that isn't the same difference of being SOLELY or ONLY a sex site, dumb dumb. When the very site tells you IN WRITING what it REALLY is, then that overrides ALL of your fictional and fabricated beliefs of what you'd "like", "want", "hope" or "envision" this site to be. Reality is, no matter which day you return back to this site, the site description remains unchanged and so do the dozen or more online-only member options this site offers to us here. Deal with that FACT as it is at face value for what it says I WRITING and through your obvious OBSERVATIONS on site.

Site description: "WHO WE ARE - Every day we’re finding new ways to help our members engage, COMMUNICATE and CONNECT with people who are looking for exciting experiences BOTH ONLINE AND OFFLINE."

End of story!

Want to know what a sex site REALLY is?

* Head on over to a site such as swapfinder.com. There you'll see description given that the site is ONLY for the purpose of those who seek swinging. You will not see any description on that site offering it's members social media/networking options, nor will you see an entire community of bloggers, groups, web cammers, blingers, erotic stories, member photo contests or anything else regarding forms of leisure, activities, amusement or entertainment. The ONLY purpose of the site is to find other swingers. Period!

** Head on over to a site such as ashleymadison.com. There you'll see description given that the site is ONLY for the purpose of those who seek affairs and discreet married dating. You will not see any description on that site offering it's members social media/networking options, nor will you see an entire community of bloggers, groups, web cammers, blingers, erotic stories, member photo contests or anything else regarding forms of leisure, activities, amusement or entertainment. The ONLY purpose of the site is to find others for affairs. Period!

*** Head on over to a site such as swinglifestyle.com. There you'll see description given that the site is ONLY for the purpose of swingers. Admittingly, you will see some forums and blogs on that site, but they are almost entirely cut out for the purpose of guides, discussion boards and/or educational "how-to" purposes. You will not see any description on that site offering it's members social media/networking options, nor will you see an entire community of web cammers, blingers, erotic stories, member photo contests or anything else regarding forms of leisure, activities, amusement or entertainment. The ONLY purpose of the site is to find others for swinging. Period!


Milburry000xx 33M
7 posts
2/27/2020 8:14 am

I think the better question is why your focus would have been on these pathetic men?


pleasuresuckn4u replies on 2/27/2020 9:01 pm:
Well quite frankly it is directed on both genders actually. But I see more often than not men just (in my opinion) responding to women's pictures with expectations of getting laid. And asking for friend requests even though thousands of miles away / in another country. I personally find this pathetic really. cheers.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/29/2020 2:39 am

    Quoting Rochblue:
    Heathen_G,

    "This is a sex site, this is a sex site, this is a sex site...."

    WRONG for the 30th time! This site CAN have that potential for sure for the search of sex, but that isn't the same difference of being SOLELY or ONLY a sex site, dumb dumb. When the very site tells you IN WRITING what it REALLY is, then that overrides ALL of your fictional and fabricated beliefs of what you'd "like", "want", "hope" or "envision" this site to be. Reality is, no matter which day you return back to this site, the site description remains unchanged and so do the dozen or more online-only member options this site offers to us here. Deal with that FACT as it is at face value for what it says I WRITING and through your obvious OBSERVATIONS on site.

    Site description: "WHO WE ARE - Every day we’re finding new ways to help our members engage, COMMUNICATE and CONNECT with people who are looking for exciting experiences BOTH ONLINE AND OFFLINE."

    End of story!

    Want to know what a sex site REALLY is?

    * Head on over to a site such as swapfinder.com. There you'll see description given that the site is ONLY for the purpose of those who seek swinging. You will not see any description on that site offering it's members social media/networking options, nor will you see an entire community of bloggers, groups, web cammers, blingers, erotic stories, member photo contests or anything else regarding forms of leisure, activities, amusement or entertainment. The ONLY purpose of the site is to find other swingers. Period!

    ** Head on over to a site such as ashleymadison.com. There you'll see description given that the site is ONLY for the purpose of those who seek affairs and discreet married dating. You will not see any description on that site offering it's members social media/networking options, nor will you see an entire community of bloggers, groups, web cammers, blingers, erotic stories, member photo contests or anything else regarding forms of leisure, activities, amusement or entertainment. The ONLY purpose of the site is to find others for affairs. Period!

    *** Head on over to a site such as swinglifestyle.com. There you'll see description given that the site is ONLY for the purpose of swingers. Admittingly, you will see some forums and blogs on that site, but they are almost entirely cut out for the purpose of guides, discussion boards and/or educational "how-to" purposes. You will not see any description on that site offering it's members social media/networking options, nor will you see an entire community of web cammers, blingers, erotic stories, member photo contests or anything else regarding forms of leisure, activities, amusement or entertainment. The ONLY purpose of the site is to find others for swinging. Period!
However, this is a sex site.


Rochblue 46F

2/29/2020 3:13 pm

Heathen_G,

"However, this is a sex site."

However, wrong!
However, it does have potential to be PARTLY a sex site, among many, many other things that people come here for. There is nothing here on site being claimed as "JUST", "SOLELY" or "ONLY" just one thing, as you ignorantly continue to claim. 🤡


Sparklesisdone 54F

3/7/2020 3:56 am

I don’t know...I’m real... a real whore...


Rochblue 46F

3/12/2020 12:57 pm

Brokenguy64,

Whilst being a basic member I did get to go on dates and meet some Gals here...too bad the one I fell for wound up playing me...I would rather be fooled by one of those bots right now "

Yes, sadly, that's what this site and society itself has been reduced to. True, it is not impossible to find women here and there (even as a basic member), it is unlikely. Then once men actually do find someone legitimate, the issue generally then boils down to actually trying to figure out if she's decent, genuine and isn't trying to play you for anything other than who you are as a human being. It's that level that is at the point of impossibility to find anymore. So you see all of these different stage levels of nonsense going on around here...

1 .) First you must weed through and deal with tons of fakes, flakes, players/users, prostitutes, gold diggers, bots (even though the site claims not to use bots) or otherwise...
2 .) Then after finally finding a legitimate woman, you must grab her attention and interests. That's rarely ever achieved because of the business aspects around here with the site's limitations and restrictions ($$$$) and then even so, there are ghosts working behind the scenes to limit your chats going through, what's being said or for offering other methods of communications outside of this site are always mysteriously filtered and blocked (again, the $$$ game of corruption).
3 .) Then after a tiresome effort and strike of pure luck to jump through all of those hurdles and still come through with a legitimate woman who is interested in a man and wishes to meet him, the suspicions and skepticism then sets in to try to conclude if that woman sincerely likes you for who you are as a person and wants to be with you for that very reason OR if she's just playing you for whatever you may have that is in her best interests and benefit ($$$, materialistic items, a free night on the town, your baby, etc).
4 .) In the end, very few come out saying that they are basic members, met great woman and have had happy and successful encounters. The recipe for that equation simply doesn't sustain those happy ending results, normally.

As they say, 'fight the good fight' and 'keep on keepin' on'. I wish there were better words to magically make all things better like they used to be, but the sheer reality is that society is in shambles and progressively continues to get worse and worse, as does the advanced technology used against you to ensure successes are rare and unlikely. It's a complete mess. I pulled out years ago because of all of this. If you're still seeking meets and whatnot, I do wish you the best of luck. Appreciate your kind and courteous reply to me.


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