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How we got started in the lifestle (LS)  

mayhem8Too 65M/60F  
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3/12/2020 3:30 am
How we got started in the lifestle (LS)

We were actually married and monogamous for 29 years before getting into the LS. We wish we had done it sooner but, hey, you're ready when you're ready.

When we played with each other, more often than not we'd have porn on in the<b> background. </font></b>We found we just sort of gravitated towards the type of porn where two or more men were playing with one woman.

To be blunt, the Mrs gives awesome head and there are many times that I didn't want that to stop. I realize she has her needs too, so it isn't fair to expect her to just keep giving me a BJ.

One day while playing with the typical porn on in the background, this idea pops into my head. I just came right and asked her while she was giving me a BJ, "So, if I had another guy taking care of your needs down there, could I continue to get a BJ up here?"

I don't think she took more than two seconds to think about it and just said, "Sure, that would work for me." That was literally when and how we decided to get into the LS. I went online and, by that weekend, found a local LS Meet & Greet specifically for newbies.

We were scared to death the first time we went. We don't really know why. We just were. It turned out that was the week between Mass and NH school vacation so there were all of maybe 4 or 5 couples there total, but that was OK because it let us get used to the surroundings. We got to speak with the host and hostess a lot and that also helped.

We went to more parties there and eventually experienced our first soft swap with a couple we met and liked, and by about 6 months in we experienced our first full swap. Ironically we are still at it even though that first full swap didn't go well, but that's fodder for another blog post some day.

I will say though that our first full swap experience is probably the reason we do so well with newbies. We remember what our first time was like and we wouldn't wish that sort of experience on anyone, so we tend to be a lot more empathetic than most. We are also one of the rare experienced couples that will invest time and patience into newbies.

Also, in case single guys are reading this thinking we're into MFMs, I'd invite them to read our profile if they want to know what we're really looking for these days.

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