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More Road to Go  

Jem118again 58F
79 posts
9/29/2018 6:27 am
More Road to Go

The journey is long but I am finding myself along the way, sometimes in great strides and sometimes in very small steps. I recently experienced a moment of enlightenment about myself that brought some clarity to something that has been a challenge for me as I adventure through online dating and trying to find a partner. It’s liberating to be able to name it so I can identify it more readily when I start to experience it again.

I made the conscious decision to prioritize quality over quantity in terms of close personal relationships in my life and got away from following anything that even resembles a crowd so to speak. It really started to hit home that the people you choose to walk with on the journey can be more important than the destination itself and I began to realize that I would rather walk alone than walk with the wrong soul(s). The vision that brought me to this decision was a desire for deeper friendships and connections which I do enjoy very much today. My friendships have a depth to them that is new and very meaningful. I am forging friendships today that are profound and full of deep conversation as well as silly fun. Along with that though came a realization that while the connections with my friends have only been enriched, I am still searching for my partner and have nights where I feel incredibly lonely for affection and touch. Someone asked me not too long ago when the last time was that I spent the night with someone and it’s been so long I could not clearly recollect. That’s when it really hit me. The weight of that loneliness encapsulated in one sentence. It sounds dreadful but you know, once that realization hit with a ton of bricks, it was also given permission and wings to move on. The idea of loneliness being part of the larger decision making process makes sense and as I have reflected on that more and more I am secure in my decision. I believe that chance favors a prepared mind and I am still hopeful that my partner is out there somewhere looking for me too. Sheez, talk about romantic notions! Light is shining on the path and there is more road to go. As always, thanks for stopping by and taking an interest in what happens to be on my mind at any given moment.


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Lady J


Hardrain247 61M

9/29/2018 12:40 pm

Thank you very much for sharing.

"Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it."


Jem118again 58F

9/29/2018 1:15 pm

Thanks so much for your comment and for keeping this fun

Lady J


Chuckk48 67M

10/2/2018 4:26 pm

Interesting thoughts, reminds me of a poem by Robert Frost

Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening

Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there is some mistake.
The only other sound’s the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.


Jem118again replies on 10/2/2018 4:56 pm:
I have not heard that poem in a good long while, thank you for sharing. A very appropriate time of year now that the days are getting shorter and winter is not far off.

gardenboy321 60M  
41936 posts
10/7/2018 8:12 am

I believe that chance favors a prepared mind...

It does indeed. You need to be observant, and ready to find it. I think you've already put it into the universe that you are. Be mindful of it... always.

Thoughts from the Garden...


Jem118again 58F

10/8/2018 3:27 am

Thank you for your comment G. I have indeed put it in the universe so we shall see what the future brings.

Lady J


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